http://www.TheLoveConsultants.com/ Date Coaching, Matchmaking, Relationship Coaching en sassybeaneditor@sassybean.com Copyright 2012 08 13 2012-08-13T08:34:43-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/excuse_me_id_like_my_match_stirred_not_shaken_please/askmteditor http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/excuse_me_id_like_my_match_stirred_not_shaken_please/askmteditor#When:08:34:43Z Match.com is certainly ‘Stir’ring things up.   On a hot, Friday summer night with the twinkling lights of the city as the perfect backdrop at The Terrace Club in the heart of Rockefeller Center, Match.com, together with Single Edition Media, invited bloggers to learn more about Stir – still a relatively new member-exclusive local events venture by the online dating powerhouse. The whole idea of ‘Stir’: Bring online singles on Match.com out from behind computer screens and into face-to-face opportunities to mix, mingle and have a whole lot of fun at specialized events.   Scanning the crowd, there were some serious heavy-hitting singles, relationships and lifestyle bloggers present, several of whom were attending the annual BlogHer conference being held only blocks away.  I was the newbie in the crowd being introduced by Single Gal in the City.  (I was her wing-woman…I simply followed her lead.)   The vivacious Whitney Casey, Match.com’s Relationship Insider kicked things off.  After a few lighthearted and humorous remarks about building successful relationships, and the challenge of singles meeting other singles, she turned the evening over to Stir’s events director Navin.   Nuveen provided feedback on Stir’s efforts.  Although there had been a few bumps along the way — notably, the question about whether non-Match.com members should be allowed to attend events along with a Match.com subscribed member, so far, the overall feedback was positive.   There have been a number of successful Stir events in cities nationwide, something Match.com and Stir hope to capitalize on in the coming months.  Their goal:  Blow these events out to singles in over 60 cities while hosting about 200 interest-specific, age appropriate events per month.  Now, that’s good news for singles looking for Mr. or Ms. Right!   So, what are some of the events Stir will use to attract their members?   Cooking classes, wine tastings, dance classes, bowling parties, even pool parties — not as in water, but cue-ball-in-the-side-pocket-playing pool parties.   Match.com subscribers and those interested in joining Match.com can learn more about Stir Events by visiting the match-making website and selecting ‘Events’.   So, the next time you hear:   Excuse me, I’d like my Match ‘Stir’red not Shaken, please…   You’ll know it’s not Mr. Bond at work, but Match.com (and Whitney and Nuveen, of course). ___________________________________   (Sponsored Post) Single Life 2012-08-13T08:34:43-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/online_dating_at_the_uks_best_know_online_dating_site/askmteditor http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/online_dating_at_the_uks_best_know_online_dating_site/askmteditor#When:06:54:31Z Make sure you are looking for love in all the right places. Singles in the UK often ask The Love Consultants for the best places to meet good matches and we have found the answer. Check out, online dating at the UK’s best known online dating site. match.com is the UK’s best known dating site. Hundreds of thousands of relationships have started thanks to us and getting started is easy - simply register, create a profile and you can browse potential matches in your area and start dating! Sign up now to start your love story. // // // Online Dating 2012-06-14T06:54:31-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/cbs_news_how_to_argue_in_a_relationship/matttitus http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/cbs_news_how_to_argue_in_a_relationship/matttitus#When:05:23:06Z Love & Relationships 2012-04-16T05:23:06-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/tamsen_fadals_jewelry_line_launch/askmteditor http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/tamsen_fadals_jewelry_line_launch/askmteditor#When:15:53:34Z When it comes to leaving no stone unturned, Tamsen Fadal and Shannon Elizabeth, are doing all they can. The two cousins who live on opposite coasts have combined their talents and come up with a jewelry line appropriately named: Shansen Jewelry. If you look closely you will see they have formed the perfect union with their names and their business partnership.   The line is an extension of who they are.  Combining healing gemstones, symbols and deep rooted meanings, Shansen Jewelry was organically born by the founders/designers Shannon Elizabeth and Tamsen Fadal.  The cousins have transformed their journeys into jewelry that encourages its wearers to find what inspires and supports them daily. Being immersed in both television and film, both cousins always seemed to searching for the true meaning of happiness. Both spent years on separate soul-searching journeys, only to come together to realize their connection was not family alone, it was the search for meaning and truth in each of their lives. Shansen Jewelry  is inspired by their encounters, their travels, the icons and gurus they have met along the way as well as their quest to find true peace. It consists of a collection of handmade bracelets and necklaces, and mix and match stackables that bring energy, inspiration and courage to the wearer.  Celebrities seen wearing Shansen include: Wendy Williams, Geena Davis, Andy Cohen, Mario Lopez,  J. Alexander, Nelsan Ellis, Derek Hough, Ali Landry and AnnaSophia Robb. The collection is a combination of semi-precious gemstones and messages so that each person who possesses a piece of Shansen Jewelry will know the true meaning of the stones, the combination of the properties and the message Shannon and Tamsen are giving them on their daily journey. For more on Shansen Jewelry click here "It" Girl Spotlight 2012-04-11T15:53:34-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/do_you_like_brains_or_beauty1/askmteditor http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/do_you_like_brains_or_beauty1/askmteditor#When:15:56:00Z In the age-old battle of bigger vs. better and brains vs. brawn, score one for better and smarter. smart USA and Harris Interactive today released results from a survey  that found Americans deeply value smarts over looks and hold the belief that less, not more, is more.  The survey, which was conducted online in December among more than 2,000 Americans aged 18 and older, found that for all the talk about reality television and celebrities behaving badly, the majority of Americans (88%) -- both young and old, male and female -- would prefer to date a person who is intelligent and philanthropic like George Clooney or Reese Witherspoon, over someone with a pretty/handsome face like Megan Fox or Alex Rodriguez. The smart USA survey also found that:  Nearly 7 out of 10 (69%) Americans would prefer their spouse to speak another language than have washboard abs Almost 3 in 5 (59%) Americans would rather have their partner gain 20 I.Q. points than lose 20 pounds An astonishing 95% of women and 80% of men would prefer to date someone who is smart and philanthropic like Reese Witherspoon or George Clooney than someone with a pretty/handsome face like Megan Fox or Alex Rodriguez  While the last decade is often seen as a period of gluttonous consumption, McMansions, and Super-Size meals, the old adage that less is more seems to be ringing true in today’s post-recession era .  The survey found that three out of four Americans prefer to receive a present in a small package over a large one. Those who thought bigger was better tended to be young, a preference that shrinks as people get older and wiser (34% of Americans age 18-34 preferred bigger presents compared to 22% of those age 45-54 and 17% of those age 55+).  Overall, on the subject of preferring less over more:  97% of Americans believe that at least some of the items in their household are junk (i.e., they could easily get rid of it) Nearly one out of 10 (9%)  Americans believe they can part with a full half of their stuff 9% of Americans believe that 51-100% of the items in their household are junk, indicating that the supposed American obsession with size and quantity is overstated  "The fact that a majority of Americans are deeply concerned with right-sizing their lifestyles and making intelligent choices shows why smart has so much curb appeal today," says smart USA General Manager Tracey Matura. "People are rethinking whether bigger is actually better and focusing instead on value. They're looking at how they can cut down the clutter in their lives, whether in their choice of vehicle, home or other purchases, so they have fewer, better things rather than simply more, more, more. And smart is proof that good things do come in small packages."  About smart smart, a Daimler AG brand, has its U.S. headquarters in Montvale, New Jersey. The smart model-line consists of five fortwo models:  the pure coupe, passion coupe, passion cabriolet and all electric drive versions of the coupe and cabriolet.  The unique models which are classified as ultra-low emissions vehicles by the State of California Air Resources Board are just under nine feet long, 5 feet tall and 5 feet wide.  Despite their microcar exterior dimensions, smart vehicles are surprisingly roomy inside and have a full array of technological features including the patented tridion safety cell which is designed to protect occupants in the event of a collision.  All smart vehicles, designed to be 85% recyclable and over 95% reclaimable, are produced in the environmentally oriented "smartville" factory in Hambach, France. Over 48,000 smarts have been sold in the U.S. to date.  Additional information on smart can be found at www.smartusa.com.   Love & Relationships 2012-02-27T15:56:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/ready_to_party_oscar_style/askmteditor http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/ready_to_party_oscar_style/askmteditor#When:15:24:00Z Crystal Cosmo (an ode to this year's host Billy Crystal) 1 1⁄2 oz Voli Lyte 1 oz fresh lemon juice 2 oz Cranberry Juice 1⁄2 oz Agave Nectar Top with Prosecco (OPTIONAL) Garnish: Lemon twist In a mixing tin, add ice, Voli Lyte, lemon juice, agave and shake. Stain into a martini glass and top with Prosecco APPROX CALORIES: 150 Calories WITHOUT PROSECCO: 140 CALORIES       Golden Drop 2 oz Voli Lemon 1 oz fresh lemon juice 1⁄2 packet sweetener Shake and strain APPROX CALORIES: 110    Sweet Revenge (inspired by "The Girl With the Dragon Tattoo") 2 oz Raspberry Cocoa 2 Raspberries 2 Blackberries 1 oz apple cider 1⁄4 oz maple syrup Muddle berries and maple syrup. Add all ingredients then shake and strain Glass: Martini Garnish: Raspberries APPROX CALORIES: 150     The Golden Era (inspired by "Midnight in Paris") 1 1⁄2 oz Voli Orange Vanilla 2 oz Lemonade 1⁄2 oz agave nectar 1⁄2 pineapple juice Garnish: Orange Wheel In a mixing tin, add ice, Voli Orange Vanilla, lemonade, agave nectar, pineapple juice and shake. Strain into a martini glass APPROX CALORIES: 144 M&T Must Haves 2012-02-20T15:24:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/endearment_terms_that_dont_endear/matttitus http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/endearment_terms_that_dont_endear/matttitus#When:14:35:00Z Sex 2012-02-11T14:35:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/beauty_tricks_for_valentines_day/Tamsen Fadal http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/beauty_tricks_for_valentines_day/Tamsen Fadal#When:09:07:00Z REMINDER: Come join us 2/7/12 @7pm EST for our Twitter Party where we are talking about Beauty & Oral Health, plus we are giving away lots of cool prizes. Sunstar G.U.M. will give away the following prize packs during the Twitter party: 4 prize packs, containing ($25 estimated value): GUM PerioBalance GUM Tongue Cleaner GUM Soft-Picks Mint Eez-Thru Flossers 1 grand prize ($125 estimated value): GUM PerioBalance GUM Tongue Cleaner GUM Soft-Picks Mint Eez-Thru Flossers $100 gift card to CVS for beauty supplies @SunstarGUM  @bondoverbeauty  @rolemommy @loveconsultants @mattandtamsen #SunstarGums  Valentine’s Day is right around the corner.  How will you be celebrating?  I’ll be doing my best to personify the aura of a Bond Girl! Don’t know her?  I would love for you to meet her. She is the girl who made James Bond fall to his knees.  So, what does it take to be as stunning as a Bond Girl?  You don’t need to be a movie star to be gorgeous; instead, just use a few of these beauty tricks to take command of any man!  It’s not hard to have “come hither” eyes, soft, sexy skin and a sassy smile.  Skin Drink plenty of water and get your beauty sleep! Make sure you use an amazing moisturizer and have a facial every 6 to 8 weeks. Teeth White teeth are a must. We all love our daily fix of java, but if coffee is staining your teeth, make sure you get them whitened.  There is no need to spend a lot of money on this process, drugstore brand whitening strips can often do the trick.  Make sure you’re brushing 4 minutes a day to help brush plaque away and be sure to replace your toothbrush once every three months. http://bit.ly/r6VitL Breath Morning breath is excusable. But, there is no excuse for having bad breath when you are out on a date, dancing close or snuggling with your honey. Sunstar’s unique dual-action tongue cleaner helps fight bad breath and is a great tool to add into your daily routine. Mint leaves, lemon, clove and parsley are some quick remedies if you need to get rid of bad breath fast. Eyes It’s all in the eyes. They really do tell a lot about a woman. If you wear makeup, make sure you don’t cake on the concealer. There is nothing worse than seeing a woman’s eyes crack every time she cracks a smile. To avoid this look, make sure you use a gentle concealer to eliminate any under-eye circles and add brightness to your face. When your eyes pop, it can literally take 5 years off your look. And, don’t get crazy with eye shadow, a little goes a long way. Unless you are going out for the night and looking to give yourself a dramatic look, use neutral colors that don’t look too harsh. Finally, we have saved the best for lash! A few “individual” eyelashes on the corners of each eye can do wonders for your look.  The lashes will open up your face and make you look brighter. Hair Long hair is great, but it can be a turn-off if it’s over processed or unnatural looking. Trim your hair regularly and make sure and get thee to a salon if your grays are a little too overbearing. So, on Valentine’s Day, take care of yourself and your loved one will take care of you. Beauty & Style 2012-02-03T09:07:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/come_on_a_fragrance_journey/Tamsen Fadal http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/come_on_a_fragrance_journey/Tamsen Fadal#When:11:28:00Z Sarah's in the Big Apple Dec 9 &10  Phyto UniverseBook a Fragrance Journey for yourself or someone you love just in time for the holidays! RSVP TODAY!!!! 805-497-1901 sarah@sarahhorowitz.com       Beauty & Style 2011-11-14T11:28:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/how_to_choose_healthy_snack_foods/Becky Wenner http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/how_to_choose_healthy_snack_foods/Becky Wenner#When:13:25:00Z What snacking recommendations do you make to stick with the Clean Eating Principles? Choosing healthy snack foods is just as important as choosing healthy meal options! However, since snacking is often a person’s time when they make poor food choices, this is a question I am faced with constantly. Snacking is super important as it prevents overindulging at meal times, maintains your energy levels throughout the day and can often provide important nutrients. Be sure you PLAN and PREPARE your snacks ahead of time to ensure your snack is nutrient filled and low fat/calorie. This will also reduce any temptation you may encounter. Keep in mind meals and snacks should be enjoyable! So make sure you LIKE the food you select! If you force yourself to eat foods that you don’t enjoy just because you think they are healthy- your life change will never last! You must enjoy your journey….so don’t be afraid to use your imagination! Here are some of my favorite snack foods: Fresh Fruit: I try to select my fruit based on the season to get the freshest and best tasting variety! Humus and fresh raw veggies: This is a great way to get fresh veggies in! Go for it! Just make sure you measure your hummus! Air Popped Popcorn: I bought myself the Cusinart Pop Corn maker- it is awesome! Low Fat Friendship Pineapple Cottage Cheese: I am super particular about my cottage cheese….I don’t like the curdy salty kinds…. Non Fat Organic / Greek Yogurt with fresh fruit Handful of raw unsalted, unroasted trail mix Pickles Peanut butter with celery or Apples Protein shakes You can check out my blog for more extensive readings on this topic: www.BeckysFitnessBlog.com. Style, Diet & Fitness 2011-10-17T13:25:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/matt_titus_founder_of_the_love_consultants_on_cbs_news/matttitus http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/matt_titus_founder_of_the_love_consultants_on_cbs_news/matttitus#When:05:26:00Z How Men Think 2011-10-17T05:26:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/5_easy_flirting_tips/SingleEdition http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/5_easy_flirting_tips/SingleEdition#When:21:07:00Z These are five tips for flirting that we have found from singleedition.com that can rescue any unnoticed guy or gal in a social setting. Have you ever been the invisible person at a club or party? Not anymore! These tips are easy, and will make you a more confident person once you step outside your door.  1. No one is listening to you anyway A lot of would-be flirters get hung up on the opening line. They're so worried that what they say is going to be perceived badly that they are never quite able to muster the nerve to make the approach. Or worse, they do make the approach, but they're so nervous and insecure about what they're saying that they get shot down immediately. Well, there's good news for the tongue-tied and lovelorn: When it comes to the early stages of flirting, what you say doesn't really matter. According to a study at UCLA, up to 93 per cent of communication messages are determined by nonverbal cues. That's right, only seven per cent of what you say hangs on the actual words you use, while 38 per cent is vocal (your pitch, rhythm, volume, etc) and a whopping 55 per cent is your body language (facial expressions, posture, confidence, etc.) Which means you'll be far better served by a look of confidence than a witty pickup line. The most important thing to remember when approaching someone new is that while an inappropriate line can put you out of the running, everything else is pretty much benign. In other words, you won't ruin your chances by being boring. At least not right off the bat. A recent UK study of effective pickup lines conducted by Psychologist Christopher Bale found that, "Openings involving jokes, empty compliments and sexual references received poor ratings." And another UK study found that the best opening lines were lighthearted, open-ended questions (rather than yes or no questions) such as "What's your favorite kind of pizza?" or "If you were going as a TV character to a costume party, who would you be?" 2. Look deep into my eyes It's difficult, sometimes, for shy people to look directly into another person's eyes, but looking away can actually make you appear less attractive to another person. A recent UK study found that participants found photos of people who are smiling and looking directly at you to be the most attractive, and the very same faces were found to be less attractive when looking away or off to the side. Another study found that direct eye contact between strangers made them more likely to feel attraction, as well as making them bond more quickly. The best places to see eye to eye? A dark party or bar or a candle-lit restaurant. The low lighting causes our pupils to dilate, the very same thing that happens when we feel attraction. 3. Can you juggle? This one doesn't really work if you're a woman but for men, it works like gangbusters. Better still, it's a skill pretty much anybody can learn in an afternoon. Why juggling? Women are oddly compelled by men who can juggle. Even if you're the biggest geek on the planet, you'll suddenly seem a lot more interesting if you can keep five beer bottles simultaneously airborne. Juggling Gurus Ryan and Phil began juggling at age 12 for fun and discovered by accident that juggling opened a lot of doors with women. Ryan says, "Women really love juggling." Oddly enough, I witnessed this phenomenon myself at a recent event. Two very average guys spent the entire afternoon in a large conference room at a media event with a lot of other people where they went largely unnoticed -- flying completely under the radar. After the event ended, they began juggling in the corner as people were sort of milling around. Three minutes later, a HUGE crowd had gathered around them, including a number of very attractive women who elbowed their way to the front, and then stayed on to chat long after the juggling was over. Why does it work? It's fun, it's non-threatening (unless you're juggling knives or hand grenades) and it puts you at the center of attention. Juggling. It's not just for circus freaks. 4. The Magic Touch Touching someone's arm when you first approach them can improve your chances dramatically. According to a recent Daily Mail article, "A study found that two-thirds of women agreed to dance with a man who touched her on the arm for a second or two while making the request. When the same man kept his hands by his side while asking women to dance, his success rate fell by half." The good news is that arm-touching technique works for women too. Another study found that waitresses were perceived more positively when they touched customers on the arm than those who did not make physical contact.  Either way, light, non-sexual touching forms an instant connection. Easy and effective. 5. Get a hottie posse Surround yourself with attractive members of the opposite sex, which triggers something competitive in both men and women, and will make you seem more desirable.  It's the halo effect. If all the beautiful people are hanging out with you, you must be something special. The good news is that even after the group of attractive men or women dissipates, the glow they leave on you will last for the rest of the night. The bad news, it might be a bit of a challenge to get a throng of lookers to flank you at the bar. But if you happen to have a charming personality and access to a modeling agency roster, you may just be in luck. Otherwise, you may need to polish up your juggling skills. Dating Expert Lisa Daily is the bestselling author of two dating books, Stop Getting Dumped! and How to Date Like a Grown-up. To read more about flirting tips and relationships visit singleedition.com  Singles & Dating 2011-10-15T21:07:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/the_great_valentines_day_man_uver/Tamsen Fadal http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/the_great_valentines_day_man_uver/Tamsen Fadal#When:06:00:00Z He is cute. He is smart. And, his family loves you. He's had his share of arm candy, crazies and bubble heads, and according to you, your girlfriends and your Mom, he should be ready for the "M" word. So, with summer romance time just weeks away (yes, plenty of people do the countdown), many o' ladies are waiting for that diamond ring to be slipped on their finger to mark what some feel is one of the most romantic periods on the calendar. But the truth is, the spring and summer is going to come and go, and so many single ladies are going to be asking why hasn't he proposed. As I meet more and more people, I have discovered the sexes really are different, in a good way, but when you are in the midst of a full fledged romance, it's not so easy to understand how they differ and if they will ever change. After talking to and interviewing plenty of men, originally out of plain curiosity, I came to realize the reasons that some men have such a tough time with marriage boils down to just a few. Admittedly, the reasons are not always easy to hear, but they are definitely important to know. Here is what I came up with, would love to hear from any "altarphobic" guys out there to add to my growing list of reasons. The Grass Is Always Greener This is harsh, and the answer is a blameless one. Some men believe it's genetically unnatural to commit. Men have a subconscious instinctive desire to be with as many women as possible. The men who continue to exhibit this behavior, have not been socialized into a monogamous way of thinking. Sex Isn't Enough Great physical chemistry with a woman does not command monogamous behavior from a guy. Great sex, attraction and desire are not the ties that bind a man to a woman. In fact, these qualities only open the door for a short time. If a man is not ready, he will tire of the same woman physically no matter how potent her beauty is. Three elements that do keep a man interested: independence, a woman's ability to maintain her identity and a woman who is never too available and too eager. Fear of Failure The divorce rate is not pretty, and unfortunately so many men have heard horror stories of failed marriages in which the guy loses everything. While fear of failure seems more like a concern in the business world, it easily crosses over from the boardroom to the bedroom. Complacency Sets in Many couples live together these days before getting married, whether it's for reasons of love, convenience, the economy or just to "try it out" before marriage, living together first and marriage can make for strange bed fellows in some cases. Often times, both parties are not communicating and the woman thinks that marriage will follow and the guy is just doing his thing. Either way, it goes without saying in this case communication is key.  Bottom line, ladies I hope that all of your hopes and dreams come true this year if you are waiting for him "to put a ring on it," I'm thinking of you all!  Love & Relationships 2011-09-05T06:00:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/i_havent_said_no_to_motherhoodi_just_havent_said_yes_yet/Tamsen Fadal http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/i_havent_said_no_to_motherhoodi_just_havent_said_yes_yet/Tamsen Fadal#When:08:26:00Z It was just about a week ago I agreed to an article about my thoughts on having kids. As a 40-year-old career women, an author and work in the relationship space (my husband and I run a matchmaking business), I am asked this question all the time. All the time. It's not even my family asking the question or my dad begging me to be a grandparent. Instead, the question comes mainly from people I have just met, people who find out that I am married and then want to know when I am going to take the next step -- start a family. And quite frankly, it's a pretty sensitive issue. I have realized the more I am asked, the more emotional I am. If you haven't experienced it for yourself yet, the questions go something like this: "So when are you going to have kids," and "Are you talking about having children?" "Do you like kids?" Some people offer me advice: "It will make you really feel like a woman." And inevitably: "You are not getting any younger." READ MORE FROM THE HUFFINGTON POST   Love & Relationships 2011-08-03T08:26:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/babies_nyc_and_a_fabulous_life_you_can_have_it_all/Tamsen Fadal http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/babies_nyc_and_a_fabulous_life_you_can_have_it_all/Tamsen Fadal#When:13:16:00Z It was just about a week ago I agreed to an article about my thoughts on having kids.   Being a 40 year old career women, an author and in the relationship space (my husband and I run a matchmaking business) it’s definitely a question I am asked all the time.  All the time.  It’s not even my family asking the question or my dad begging me to be a grandparent. Instead, the question comes mainly from people I have just met, people who find out that I am married and then want to know when I am going to take the next step – start a family.  And quite frankly, it’s a pretty sensitive issue. I have realized the more I am asked, the more emotional I am. If you haven't experienced it for yourself yet, the questions go something like this: "so when are you going to have kids," and "are you talking about having children?” “do you like kids?” “it will make you really feel like a woman” then the final blow, “you are not getting any younger.”  Here’s the truth. I don’t know if I am going to have kids. What’s more, I don’t know when I am going to know. When I see a mom pushing a stroller down the street, I stare at it, trying to picture myself doing the same time.  It’s a conversation I have had plenty, but there is still no resolution, at least not yet. I love kids. I love the innocence.  I love the smell of them. I love the fact they can make you smile when the rest of your world feels like it’s crumbling all around you. But, I don’t know if it’s for me. And, I do know that the clock is ticking. I lost my mother when I was young. She died of breast cancer.  She was a great mother. It was what she lived for. But, after she died, I was always very scared to love that much again.  And so, the idea of a child was never at the forefront of my mind.   I put my career there once I got out of school and never gave it much thought – until last December when I turned 40.  Now, I stay awake at night struggling with a whole bunch of questions. Would I be a good mother? Do I want to be a good mother? Am I ready for that? Is it good enough to be an aunt and shower my nephew with all the love I have? And finally, the hardest question of all, can I even have children anymore or has that decision already been made for me?  When the article came out today the headline next to the life-sized photo of me read, We Say No To Babies and Yes To NYC More City Women Are Taking A Pass On The Mommy Path.  I have not said no to babies, or the mommy path. I have said I don’t know. And, apparently I am not alone.  The article quotes a study by the Pew Research Center in 2008, stating the number of women between 40 and 44 who’ve never given birth has increased by 80 percent since 1976.  What it does not state is why.  There are so many reasons why women don’t have children, whether they are like me and have just not figured it out yet or they cannot have children or they have not met the right partner. Finally, there is the group who just don’t want kids.  I read a bunch of comments under the article that called childless women “selfish” and “self-centered.” Those were the nicer comments.  At first I felt sad, then frustrated and then scared.  But, I quickly realized that no matter what people say or think, at the end of the day the decision is up to me and I am the only one I have to answer too. Bottom line: I have not said no to babies and yes to a fabulous life. Those two things can happen at the same time. I have said yes to allowing myself to take the time to make a decision that is right for me.  Love & Relationships 2011-08-02T13:16:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/it_girl_spotlight_makeup_master_carmindy/askmteditor http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/it_girl_spotlight_makeup_master_carmindy/askmteditor#When:04:44:00Z Since her Southern California childhood, Carmindy has dreamed of traveling the world doing makeup and meeting inspiring people. Through hard work and an unstoppable attitude, she's made that dream a reality. She's painted faces in the studios of Paris, on the beaches of Brazil, and on the streets of Havana. She's lived in Los Angeles, Milan, Miami, and now makes her home in New York, where she has established herself as a top fashion makeup artist. Carmindy's work can be seen on the editorial pages of leading magazines such as Cosmopolitan, Elle, InStyle, O, Essence, Self, Lucky, Seventeen, Marie Claire, and Glamour. Her commercial clients include Maybelline, Sephora, Clairol, Avon, Aveeno, CoverGirl, Almay, Bath and Body Works, Sally Hansen, Crest Whitestrips, Q-tips, and CIBA. She is the author of two fabulous beauty books titled The 5 Minute Face and Get Positively Beautiful and a third just released, Crazy Busy Beautiful by Harpers Studio. She has co-created a natural line of cosmetics called Sally Hansen Natural Beauty inspired by Carmindy available in drugstores nationwide. Beauty can be overwhelming. Walk by any cosmetics counter or into any drugstore and you’re suddenly surrounded by thousands of products promising to make you look younger, fuller, lusher, thicker, and just about every other “er” you can think of. It sounds too good to be true and most of it is. But who has the time to navigate all the beauty myths out there (or even their own makeup bag!) to find the tricks that will help you be your most beautiful? Can it really be that hard to look and feel your best? Not anymore! Carmindy, the makeup artist on TLC’s hit show What Not to Wear, is opening her beauty treasure chest and sharing the hundreds of beauty tips and secrets she’s learned on the show and during her years as a makeup artist across the globe. Her new book CRAZY BUSY BEAUTIFUL: Beauty Secrets for Getting Gorgeous Fast is for all the women who are crazy busy but also want to be beautiful without spending hours in front of the mirror and their life savings on creams and powders. Carmindy is always looking for the next great way to communicate with her fans. She writes a monthly e-newsletter featuring answers to questions submitted through her Web site www.carmindy.com, and is a freelance beauty writer for several other high-traffic beauty Web sites. M&T Faves, "It" Girl Spotlight 2011-07-21T04:44:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/guys_101_how_to_make_him_work_on_your_relationship/Scott Kudia http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/guys_101_how_to_make_him_work_on_your_relationship/Scott Kudia#When:04:43:00Z Do you ever look at your man and wonder what became of the guy you used to date? What happened to all the flowers, romantic dinners and six-hour-long conversations about your dreams? The truth is that for many guys, settling into a committed relationship means the hard work is over and it’s time to kick back, put their feet up, grab the remote and start flipping. On the contrary, when a woman gets into a relationship she rolls up her sleeves and gets to work. She sets about figuring out ways to improve communication, spend more quality time together and keep the spark from fizzling. She clocks countless hours comparing notes with her girlfriends, taking quizzes with titles like “What’s your Relationship IQ?” and pouring over relationship self-help books. I decided to do a little experiment to gather further evidence of this phenomenon. To that end, I picked up a widely read women’s magazine along with a popular men’s magazine. I flipped to the section in the women’s magazine devoted to “Love and Relationships.” Articles in this section included “Marriage Makeover: Work is Taking over our Marriage,” and “Playful Positions to Spice up Your Love Life.” The men’s magazine didn’t appear to have a section that focused on relationships; however, it did have a section called “Sexy Time.” But, the “Sexy Time” section was not filled with advice on how readers could improve their relationships. If anything, the articles could be potentially damaging to a relationship. One was titled “This Lovely Latvian will make you want to Dump your Girl” and another promised a peek at “Ten of Television’s Naughtiest Nymphos.” So, why the disconnect? Why are women so eager to work on their relationships, while men seem to be content to rest on their laurels? The answer lies in the differences between the way the two sexes are wired. Men are goal-oriented, while women are process-oriented. In other words, for men, the goal is to get the girl. Once the girl it’s got, it’s time to move on to the next goal. Why dwell on a situation where the goal has already been accomplished? Women, on the other, view the relationship as a project that needs constant and ongoing attention. The truth is relationships are works in progress and do need constant attention to survive. However, when most men see their partners “working” on the relationship, they automatically assume they are unhappy or have a problem with the relationship. This instantly puts them on the defensive. So, how do you get your guy to refocus on the relationship without making him feel like he is under attack? The best way to accomplish this is to get him to think competitively. This doesn’t mean that you should threaten to leave him for someone who will put forth the effort you are looking for. The danger of this approach is that if you’re not prepared to back up your ultimatum, you’ll lose credibility. The trick is to tap into his competitive fire without making him feel threatened. A great way to do this is to put him in competition with the guy he was when you were dating; the one that wined and dined you and showered you with compliments. In order to avoid putting him on the defensive, sit down with him and ask him what he liked best about you when the two of you first began dating. Then tell him what you liked best about him. By giving him this information, you’ve given him a new goal: rekindle the flame he helped set at the beginning of your relationship. And don’t let the info he gives you fall by the wayside. If he confides that he liked how hot you used to look when the two of you went out on a date or how you would dress up in sexy lingerie for him, take that as your cue to throw out the “comfortable” clothes you’ve been wearing out with him lately along with the boxers and T-shirts you’ve been wearing to bed. If he is unwilling to communicate about the topic, it may be time to seek counseling. There's a big difference between being lazy about working on your relationship and stubbornly refusing to change anything about it. Whatever the situation, be sure to address these issues sooner rather than later. Scott Kudia is the president of a San Diego relationship consulting firm and author of "If This is Love, Why am I Unhappy?" Check out his website at www.scottkudia.com How Men Think 2011-07-21T04:43:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/girl_power_tamsen_fadal_talks_love_and_life_to_yahoocom/askmteditor http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/girl_power_tamsen_fadal_talks_love_and_life_to_yahoocom/askmteditor#When:13:30:00Z From U.S Presidents to Hollywood Royalty to hottest stars on Broadway, Tamsen Fadal has interviewed some of the most exciting names out there. She recently had the tables turned and sat down with writer Valerie David from Yahoo.com to chat about her life as a busy modern woman in today's often hectic world. Here's a snippet from the interview: Fourteen questions, 20 minutes, and a whopping 3,000 words. This is what happens when you interview a multitasker like Tamsen Fadal, who anchors a morning news show, writes self-help books, runs a matchmaking and relationship coaching service called The Love Consultants, and puts together syndicated TV segments on dating and relationships with her husband and business partner, Matt Titus. I spoke with Tamsen early on a Tuesday morning, when I was just starting my day and she was just finishing work. We discussed her varied career, how she balances work and marriage, and her insights into dating and relationships.   When Tamsen and her husband, Matt, moved to New York City, they were looking for a new direction for their careers, and the two outgoing personalities were hoping to find something with a social angle. "We looked at the landscape of New York," Tamsen explains, "and realized the number of single women far outweighs the number of single men. We thought about doing some kind of social events, and maybe doing matchmaking. So Matt spent the better part of the year putting together what we called 'Matt's Little Black Book,' which was a book of single, eligible bachelors who were willing and ready to commit." Charlotte from "Sex and the City" would have so loved that idea. What Matt and Tamsen discovered as they matched up compatible couples, however, was that not everyone knew precisely what to do once they were matched. "A lot of times there was a question of how to date the right way," Tamsen says, "you know, how do you flirt, what do you do past the first date, what do you do past the second date, why didn't he call?" This led the couple to develop a "dating boot camp" as well as one-on-one counseling that Matt oversees, transforming the "Little Black Book" into The Love Consultants. Tamsen and Matt also offer a constant stream of dating and relationship advice in the form of Q&A articles on their website, three self-help books and their weekly TV segments "Ask Matt & Tamsen." To read the entire article over at Yahoo.com click here! M&T Must Haves 2011-06-07T13:30:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/hollywood_life_mt_talk_kim_kardashians_wedding_dreams_and_desires/askmteditor http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/hollywood_life_mt_talk_kim_kardashians_wedding_dreams_and_desires/askmteditor#When:13:27:00Z Kim Kardashian wants to walk down that aisle — now! HollywoodLife.com asked The Love Consultants, Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal, to weigh in on whether it’s a smart move for Kim to be spilling about her dream wedding dress and plans for future kids with boyfriend Kris Humphries before they even have agreed to marry! Matt’s Take: So the amazingly beautiful Kim Kardashian says she is making plans to marry her basketball player boyfriend Kris Humphries. But there’s just one little hitch! HE HASN’T PROPOSED TO HER YET. That’s not an issue with Kim — she already has her dress picked out for her big day. The truth is they’ve only been dating for about five months. Now combine that with Kim’s dreadful history with romance,, and I call this a bit premature – and immature. Tamsen’s Take:  Kim and Kris are getting serious, so serious that Kim is already planning their wedding. In detail! I’m not surprised. The lady is a machine, the very definition of “getting it done.” She’s created what I’d call premium lemonade after her “breakthrough” with a huge lemon — her sex tape with Ray-J. Modern gal that she is, she picked herself up and created a business empire. The only real success that has eluded her till now is true romance. But she seems to have found something special and real with Kris. Kim finally may have what her sisters have already found, true love! To read the full article on Hollywood Life click here! Hollywood Life is a multi-faceted entertainment brand. Hollywoodlife.com, the online destination, is the primary focus, complemented by a variety of premium award shows. The brand captures and celebrates the essence of celebrity "Hollywood" lifestyle – news, beauty, fashion, gossip and culture. Bonnie Fuller leads the HollywoodLife.com team. She is President and Editor in Chief and an industry-leading media executive and magazine innovator with an unparalleled track record of success in transforming brands and publications, such as Us Weekly, Shape, Cosmopolitan, Glamour, and Star magazine. M&T Must Haves 2011-06-07T13:27:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/a_place_of_yes_10_rules_for_getting_everything_you_want_out_of_life/askmteditor http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/a_place_of_yes_10_rules_for_getting_everything_you_want_out_of_life/askmteditor#When:13:24:01Z The New York Times bestselling author of Naturally Thin and The Skinnygirl Dish, Bethenny Frankel takes us on an empowering journey to A PLACE OF YES Bethenny's no-nonsense, tell-it-like-it-is personality won over countless fans, and made her a nationally bestselling author and the star of her own hit Bravo show Bethenny Getting Married? Now Bethenny opens up and shares the obstacles she overcame and the great success she has enjoyed while discovering how to approach life from "A Place of Yes." Bethenny's path was not always clear as she overcame a difficult childhood, failed relationships, entrepreneurial efforts that never quite got off the ground, and lifelong money struggles. To deal with these challenges, Bethenny developed ten rules for pursuing her goals with authenticity and drive, including: FIND YOUR TRUTH: Dig deep inside and figure out what is authentic for you, not anybody else. ACT ON IT: You don't have to have a master plan. But unless you do something, you've done nothing. EVERYTHING'S YOUR BUSINESS: Treat every job, person, and experience as if it could lead to your next big opportunity. OWN IT: If you do it, say it, think it—then own it. Stand up for yourself and fully acknowledge who you really are. Each rule is illustrated with compelling, sometimes funny, sometimes outrageous examples that are pure Bethenny. It's easy to say no, to say "I can't," to expect the worst, and to doubt yourself. But your life can be better than "not bad" or "good enough." It can be amazing. And by putting Bethenny's rules together, you can use them to be more successful, more fulfilled, healthier, and happier than ever before. Bethenny Frankel, a graduate of The Natural Gourmet Institute for Health and Culinary Arts in New York City, is the star of her own Bravo show, the second season of which airs in 2011. Her recipes and health tips can be read monthly in Health and her trademark Skinnygirl Margarita is available in stores nationwide. She lives in New York City with her husband Jason, daughter Bryn, and dog, Cookie. Eve Adamson is a New York Times bestselling author and freelance writer who lives, works, parents, cooks, practices yoga, and obsesses about food in Iowa City. To order A PLACE OF YES, visit Amazon.com by clicking here! M&T Faves, M&T Bookbag 2011-06-07T13:24:01-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/meet_the_new_manhattan_male/Matt Titus http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/meet_the_new_manhattan_male/Matt Titus#When:13:20:00Z Last Thursday night I got a call from my office asking me if I could take a last minute appointment. I asked my assistant about the appointment. She said it was a 30 year-old investment banker guy that was looking for “love.” I thought, oh boy, what’s a 30 year old private banker doing calling a matchmaker to help find him a relationship in NYC. He either must be disfigured or looking for a pimp. As I have said many times before,” being young, male and upwardly mobile on the island of MANhattan is like winning the lottery.” With 210,000 more single women than single men and an overall attitude of entitlement, men on this island are kings. So when “Steve” walked in wearing his Hugo Boss suit, and his shiny hair and his perfect smile, I couldn’t wait to hear what he could possibly need from me. He extended his hand and said, “Hello Matt, thank you for seeing me on such short notice, I really appreciate it.” Between his timid hand shake and the sadness in his eyes, I began to immediately reassess what I thought his intentions may be with my services. Steve, immediately began to explain what it was really like to be a young Manhattan bachelor. He told the story of a young guy that was barely holding onto his sanity from the demands of his 90 hour a week banking job that provided him with absolutely no security or sense of self worth. He felt that any extra-curricular activities (happy hour) he had with co-workers were a mere extension of his work week and were used for ulterior motives to get ahead at the office. He felt that his self esteem was completely dependent on his career success and at this point, he felt that he was worthless. This of course resulted in terrible anxiety when it came to women. He explained that when he first met a woman, he was so concerned about what she was thinking of him that he was unable to have an interesting and compelling conversation. The saddest thing he said was that he just felt like he was totally alone in his life. I honestly was at a loss. He certainly looked the part of the other 1000′s of guys I had interviewed for my matchmaking database. These guys were flashy, borderline arrogant and super confident, at least on the surface. Then it occurred to me, could Steve be a true representation in the flesh of what lies within these MANhattan bachelors? Maybe thats why all of these guys are terminally single. Maybe thats why it took me years to put together a database of guys that were truly serious about a relationship. Maybe these “young turks” of Manhattan overcompensate with their “player” like behavior to hide the weak, scared little boy that lives within their soul. Could their inability to emotionally connect or consistently see one woman for an extended period of time be the result of self doubt and the fear of a woman hurting them? I always thought the terminal single bachelors of MANhattan were that way because there was to much ass running around the streets and their behavior was a result of being sexually selfish and just plain immature. These guys ignored their sensitivity and undermined their emotional needs with arrogance and meaningless physical connections with women. Maybe Steve was actually the strongest of all the MANhattan bachelors because he actually was in touch with his emotional state and wanted to improve his self so he could find true love. I looked Steve in the eye and said, “I truly admire how in touch you are with your emotional state and believe it or not, you are one of the strongest guys I have yet to meet in MANhattan.” I went on to explain that I could help him understand that people’s inner confidence defines who they are, not the reactions of others. I told him I would help him balance his career and social life. We agreed to start to work together. As we shook hands and he thanked me again, I watched him walk away and pass a beautiful woman. I noticed that he stared right into her eyes and smiled, she did the same. He then turned back and winked at me. Steve was on his way. How Men Think 2011-06-07T13:20:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/how_to_bring_the_sexy_back_into_your_relationship/Tamsen Fadal http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/how_to_bring_the_sexy_back_into_your_relationship/Tamsen Fadal#When:13:18:00Z Does living with your husband or wife seem more and more like crashing with a roommate than with a spouse? Has it been ‘years’ since you’ve had some soul-inspiring, body-exploding intimacy? Well, when you've been together for a while, it's easy to lose the spark that brought you together in the first place. But never fear, you can bring the “sexy” back into your relationship. SAY IT! If your sex life is boring you, tell him or her that, be honest, remember to phrase positively, but explain the fact things have become a little stale. By speaking about the unspoken, you’ll begin the needed communication to get your passion back on track. Talking about all the things you really want to do in bed is also a sexy form of foreplay, and we all know what foreplay leads to, right?  SWITCH IT UP Most couples are comfortable with the classic three positions when it comes to sex, but it's incredibly important to constantly update and upgrade your bedroom repertoire. You have to keep up the excitement changing the ways, times and the places you have sex. Recreating equals stimulating, keep your sex surprising and if at all possible, shocking! When your mate jumps in the shower, join them, clean up your bodies together. Plan a naked weekend together in your house or apartment, set up a sexy campground in your living room, flip the sexual script. Take the time get creative with the scenario or better yet, the position. CONFIDENCE IS A TURN ON! Many people lost confidence when it comes to sex, being too busy with work, not feeling attractive to their partner causing them to treat their passionate desires like burdens, sort of like going to the dentist! Take time outside of the bedroom to build up your inner-confidence, spend some time getting to know your body again, don’t skip the gym two days in a row, focus on your libido and feed your inner-sex kitten. The time you take rebuilding your sexual confidence will reward the time you spend between the sheets. SHOWTIME Show your partner what you really want to do to you sexually, clue them into what you like when it comes to sex. Don't expect your guy or gal to be a mind reader when it comes to what you find pleasurable, take the lead and “direct” your partner towards your best sex ever. Also why not explore the sexy world of lingerie by buying some new piece and showing your lover how hot you look and feel by putting on a passion filled fashion show, complete with a strip-tease filled big finish. SEXY SUPPLEMENTS Another way to bring the sexy back and spice up your lust life is to start including sex toys and sexual supplements into your relationship. Sex toys can definitely break up the monotony of the same old boring missionary position by adding new flavors and discovery to your lovemaking. Plan an “undercover trip” to an adult novelty store with your lover. Make the experience into a sexy night out that you‘ll both be talking about weeks and months later. Look, sample, touch, feel and try the many display models that are in the store. This will actually build anticipation and excitement for what's to come when you unwrap your new treats. Introducing these new “treats” to your partner and getting them to agree to embrace and incorporate them into your sex life can be sometimes be tricky, but if you take the time to learn about them together you’ll be using them with glee in no time. Also, educate yourself on sexual lubricants, they are often very powerful additions to your sex play. One product in this category we love, is a little something called Zestra. Zestra is a sexual arousal aid for women that is derived from all natural sources unlike synthetically produced warming gels. A recent study in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy revealed that the botanical oils in Zestra were effective in enhancing sexual arousal in women, that’s right, a product that will make her feel like a superstar when she desires it most. I bet the guy will be feeling pretty spectacular as well! A successful relationship takes a lot of work, and even after a couple has figured out all the big stuff, they still need to find ways to keep the romance alive and bring the “sexy back” into their lives, by following the above advice you’ll be on the road to renewed and wild passion in no time. Sex 2011-06-07T13:18:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/5_fresh_and_flirty_beauty_tips_for_dating/SingleEdition http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/5_fresh_and_flirty_beauty_tips_for_dating/SingleEdition#When:13:17:00Z We have some great beauty tips for dating so you'll always be ready for that special night out... LIPS: Bright colored lips are in for Spring – on you though, not him. So while matte lipstick is the way to go when out with your girlfriends, not only does it require multiple touchups (which you won’t want to deal with during a hot date) but also, if the date goes in this direction it can end with the wrong kind of colorful kiss. To prevent this, but stay on trend, stick to lip stains. (They can be difficult to remove, though, so be sure you like the shade before the big night.) HAIR: If it’s humid outside, and you have hair that reacts, be sure to stick with a style that works, even if it’s not your favorite “date 3 hair.” Ponytails and clean buns are both great options. EYES: Make your eyes pop so he can’t help but maintain eye contact by running your eyelash curler under hot water to heat it up for extra curl and layering on the mascara! SHOES: If you don’t know what the night holds, be sure to wear shoes that allow for walking. Don’t worry, Mr. Right won’t ask you to walk 2 miles in your stilettos, but a few blocks may be part of the plan, so be sure you can walk in those sexy shoes.  LOOK LIKE YOU: Regardless of what’s on trend, or what we suggest here, the most important thing is to be true to yourself and look like you usually look. If you usually wear red lipstick, great, rock it! But if you’ve never been a bold lipped gal, don’t start on date one. Same goes for your hair: a gorgeous blow out may make you feel your best, but if it’s the first and last time he’s bound to see your hair this way (until, perhaps, your wedding day), don’t do it. These are easy tips so you feel and look your best on that first date! To read more great tips please visit singleedition.com Singles & Dating 2011-06-07T13:17:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/hollywood_life_mt_talk_twilights_robert_pattinson_and_kristen_stewarts_true/askmteditor http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/hollywood_life_mt_talk_twilights_robert_pattinson_and_kristen_stewarts_true/askmteditor#When:10:13:00Z Twilight star Robert Pattinson is a true romantic, and maybe it’s in his genes! His parents are a big part of his life, and he’s been inspired by their long-term love story. HollywoodLife.com asked our very own "Love Consultants" — Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal — if this bodes well for his love with Kristen Stewart! Matt’s Take: Rob, 24, attended the NYC premiere for Water For Elephants with both his parents and girlfriend/Breaking Dawn co-star Kristen, 21. You can see by the body language between these two — hands interlocked, leaning close to each other, big smiles — that they are a real couple who is deeply in love. And let me tell you something, I LOVE these two together! Tamsen’s Take: Rob and Kristen are serious and in love, and I am thrilled for them. They’re one of the hottest couples in Hollywood, and things between look better than ever. Laughing, kissing, glowing, they even partied with Rob’s parents at the Water For Elephants premiere — the very definition of fun and healthy when it comes to a relationship!  To read the full article on Hollywood Life click here!  Hollywood Life is a multi-faceted entertainment brand. Hollywoodlife.com, the online destination, is the primary focus, complemented by a variety of premium award shows. The brand captures and celebrates the essence of celebrity "Hollywood" lifestyle – news, beauty, fashion, gossip and culture. Bonnie Fuller leads the HollywoodLife.com team. She is President and Editor in Chief and an industry-leading media executive and magazine innovator with an unparalleled track record of success in transforming brands and publications, such as Us Weekly, Shape, Cosmopolitan, Glamour, and Star magazine. Love & Relationships 2011-05-19T10:13:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/melanie_notkin_founder_savvy_auntie/askmteditor http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/melanie_notkin_founder_savvy_auntie/askmteditor#When:10:12:00Z When Melanie first became an Auntie in 2001, she found herself concerned by the lack of resources for modern Aunts. Melanie quickly realized the vast size and unmet needs of the market of women like herself, she launched SavvyAuntie in July 2008. She recently updated her fabulous personal website, www.MelanieNotkin.com, it's a must stop destination for "It Girls" everywhere! About Melanie: Melanie Notkin is America’s premier Savvy Auntie, empowering the nearly 50% of American women who are not moms to celebrate all they do for the children in their lives, while living their own lives to the fullest. She launched SavvyAuntie.com, the first online community for aunts and godmothers, in the summer of 2008 to wide-acclaim. The website includes expert content designed specifically for aunts, activities, community and trendy gift ideas. Melanie identified this influential segment of women, which she has dubbed PANKs (Professional Aunts No Kids), when she herself became an aunt. In February 2009, she guest posted for Lisa Belkin’s parenting blog in The New York Times to explain the value of aunts and godmothers in family life. The term has also appeared in More Magazine, TrendCentral.com, Washington Post, The Record, The Star Ledger, Dallas Morning News among others. On July 26, 2009, she launched Savvy Auntie’s Day, the first national holiday to honor aunts and aunt-hood. As child lifestyle expert and tastemaker, Auntie Melanie has been featured numerous times on NBC, CBS, ABC, CW, FOX News and Better TV showcasing the coolest kid trends of the season. She was also contributing editor at Toy Wishes Magazine and serves on the Toy Industry Association Toy of the Year Nomination Committee. She has worked with leading kid brands like Hasbro, Disney, Hallmark, Yoplait, Sprout, Scholastic, and brands for women including Warner Brothers Sex and the City Movie, Turner Networks/TNT, JCPenney, Tropicana, BeyondTheRack.com and BareNecessities.com. Her groundbreaking and effective advertising campaigns have been featured in Mashable.com, The New York Times, Advertising Age and The Wall Street Journal where she’s been lauded as a ‘trusted source’ and spokesperson for America’s top brands. SavvyAuntie.com was 2009 Webby Award nominee for Best Family/Parenting site and is a Springwise.com Top 10 Lifestyle and Leisure Business Idea for 2008. Melanie is featured on Mashable.com’s list of top 5 start ups in New York City’s social media hub. Her first book: SAVVY AUNTIE: The Ultimate Guide for Cool Aunts, Great-Aunts, Godmothers and All Women Who Love Kids (HarperCollins) debuts April 26, 2011. As a successful business woman, she was a regular panelist on FOX News’ Strategy Room Business Hour. She also lectures at various conferences inspiring women, students and entrepreneurs on launching the business of their dreams. She’s been featured on First30Days.com, Business Week and Huffington Post for her leveraging of social media to launch and grow her business. She has documented the launch of her own business at her ‘auntrepreneurial’ blog at blog.savvyauntie.com. Before developing Savvy Auntie, Melanie was an interactive marketing and communications executive for global Fortune 500 companies, including New York Times Digital and American Express, as well as L'Oréal. She is a graduate of McGill University in Montreal, Canada where she was born. She is a Savvy Auntie and Auntie by Relation (ABR) to a number of wonderful children who are the loves of her life. She is also an Auntie By Choice (ABC) to all of her friends’ kids, who come in a very close second. Melanie resides in New York where she is surrounded by the very best the City has to offer. What Inspires You? The pursuit of happiness. What Are Your Favorite It Girl Picks: Nieces and nephews, Dr. Perricone skincare, Laura Mercier Secret Concealer #2, MAC eyeshadow, hair by Ted Gibson Salon, almost black manicure, Soho street jewelry finds, YSL Tribtoo pumps, homemade rosemary roast chicken and potatoes, Twitter. Who Do You Consider An “It Girl”? All the Celeb-Aunties who give so much to children in their life and children they’ve never met. I’m especially partial to women my age like Jennifer Aniston and Elizabeth Gilbert (bestselling author of Eat, Pray, Love) who are living their lives to the fullest. Visit the websites below for more information on Melanie! www.savvyauntie.com www.MelanieNotkin.com Order her book! SAVVY AUNTIE: The Ultimate Guide for Cool Aunts, Great-Aunts, Godmothers and All Women Who Love Kids (HarperCollins/William Morrow) April 2011. Photo credit: Ana Schechter 2010 M&T Faves, "It" Girl Spotlight 2011-05-19T10:12:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/sexy_slangs_big_n_hot_question_of_the_week_well_hung/askmteditor http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/sexy_slangs_big_n_hot_question_of_the_week_well_hung/askmteditor#When:10:09:00Z Get ready for a sex-filled dose of lust and laughter with TheLoveConsultants.com's newest feature, Sexy Slang's Big N' Hot Question of the Week! Once a week you'll be treated to a brand new question from the naughty gang over at Sexy Slang. This week we feature a BIG question about a VERY BIG subject... penis SIZE. His biceps are not the only thing bulging... this man is Well Hung! But is that really a good thing? Does SIZE matter when it comes to a lover? Does A Well-Endowed Man Make A Better Lover? Jessica, 27, NJ - "I didn't ever think so until I met my current boyfriend. He's really big and I love how it feels." Mitchell, 45, NYC - "Doesn't matter if he's huge down there, it matters if knows how to use it." Carla, 32, LA - "Size isn't a concern for me, too big is sometimes too big." Sara, 22, Toronto - "Big is better, especially in that department."   Tell us your thoughts on big bulges in the boudoir in the comments section below! Launched in February 2008, Sexy Slang brings a naughty twist to traditional drawing games and charades. Sexy Slang is faced-paced and dynamic. All teams race to guess the same titillating term at the same time, creating an incredibly social, and often sexually charged, atmosphere. When a team's artist acts out or tries to draw a "super kinky" expression, the results are predictably hilarious. Sexy Slang has enjoyed early success with its on-line business as well as with retailers across the nation. The very popular Sexy Slang articles have been appearing on The Love Consultants to much acclaim, and now the amazing couple behind the Sexy Slang brand bring you a book to keep on your nightstand! Based on the wildly successful Sexy Slang board games and apparel, this book offers a steamy yet playful way to talk about sex. Featuring 69 his and her challenges on topics ranging from Hooters, Hoohas, and More to No, It's Not a Back Massager, Sexy Slang's Bedroom Challenges will have you: Laughing together as you decipher the clever Sexy Slang pictograms Learning new sexy tips and fun facts you might not know (but you'll be glad you found out!) Answering three titillating questions in order to "score" the challenge's sexy Booty Prize  This playful book is perfect for new and experienced couples looking to learn about each other. Are you up for the naughty challenge? BUY THE BOOK Christi and Ted Scofield are the creators of the Sexy Slang brand with products for sale in 2,500+ stores across the country. They (or their products) have been featured in a diverse assortment of national media, including CNBC, ABC Nightly News, Fox News, AM New York, The Montel Williams Show, BusinessWeek, Cosmopolitan, Self, Redbook, Ebony, BetterTV, Village Voice, Crain's New York and Cosmo Radio. To put more "Slang" in your "Sexy" click here! Sexy Slang - You'll Laugh Until it Hurts™ Sex, Sexy Slang 2011-05-19T10:09:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/heat_up_your_sweetie_with_zestra_this_valentines_day/askmteditor http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/heat_up_your_sweetie_with_zestra_this_valentines_day/askmteditor#When:10:08:00Z With Springtime here, it's time to put a little something sexy on your "spring cleaning" list for that special someone. Instead of the usual flowers, chocolates or instantly forgotten items you usually purchase, why not try a gift that packs a little "sizzle." Our friends at Zestra have created a special limited time only gift pack that's sure to heat up your very own "Z-Day." The Zestra Holiday Romance Pack contains 6 single-use packettes, a travel pouch that holds packettes with discretion and style, and a lightly-scented candle. It's all contained in a discreet white box that comes ready for your own creative gift wrapping! To order at the special price of $29.95 with FREE SHIPPING click here!  A study in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy recently declared that the botanical massage oil Zestra was effective in enhancing sexual arousal in the women, now that's a report we're excited about!  Zestra is a sexual arousal aid that is truly a departure from what is usually available on the consumer market. Zestra is derived from all natural sources unlike synthetically produced warming gels. And, though there are other topically applied products based on plant derivatives, only Zestra Essential Arousal Oils have undergone clinical trial testing. The Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy findings indicated that the study subjects demonstrated "statistically significant improvements...in level of arousal, level of desire, satisfaction with arousal, genital sensation, ability to have orgasms, and sexual pleasure." Zestra's unique ingredients, when blended together, serve to increase blood flow and nerve transmission to a women's genitalia to help those who would otherwise have a difficult time reaching intense pleasure or orgasm do so with less effort and more success. Zestra is safe, hormone-free, has no known drug interactions, and works in minutes. After applying Zestra to the clitoris and labia, the effects which is described as the "Zestra Rush" begins within three to five minutes, peaks at 10 minutes, and lasts for up to 45 minutes. Sounds like something worth trying once...or er, several times! Join the thousands of women who are enjoying sex more with Zestra! To learn more about Zestra click here. M&T Must Haves 2011-05-19T10:08:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/beward_of_his_bed_cred/Matt Titus http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/beward_of_his_bed_cred/Matt Titus#When:10:05:00Z You remember the exact moment. You were both hot and heavy and the camera was an arms length away. He was a stud, but now, six months later the dud has been flashing nude pictures of you for all his bro’s to see. It’s called Bed Cred in guy talk. Ray Jay has it, along with Tommy Lee, Brett Michaels and the list goes on. Bed Cred is the power to make a chick strip naked and perform in front of the camera. Sharing that Bed Cred is a right of honor with some guys, case in point, a client of mine had a boyfriend who would get together with his buddies every few months for an event they called “the wall of shame”. They would actually take turns pinning up naked pictures of their recent conquests in a competition to see who bagged the hottest chick. Guys consider Bed Cred something that puts them into the “circle of royalty” among their friends.  It’s easy to get, but it’s hard to get rid of. Lights It started when he told you how hot you looked wrapped up in those sheets. Then, he asked to snap a few sultry shots. You catch a glimpse of yourself in the mirror and notice that you really do have that sexy bed-head look. You agree under the one condition, you have final cut approval. What he was really thinking, I’ll take a couple of headshots while I tell her she’s totally hot. Then I’ll kiss her and she’ll be ready to bare it all.  Camera After he snaps off a few shots, it makes you feel sexy. Then, he starts kissing you and touching you like no other man. He stops, looks at you and says, “Babe, you know what would be such a turn on, artistic pictures of your beautiful body. I’ve never wanted to do that with anyone else.” Inside his mind he’s thinking, my boys will die when they see these. I can’t believe I lost the pictures I had of my last girlfriend. This girl is ten times hotter. Action The next thirty minutes you turn into a Playboy centerfold, and follow it up with the best sex he’s ever had. Inside his mind, he will have this memory of you even when there is another girl in his bed. For girls, the only way to avoid what happens next is not to stand in front of that camera to being with.  Aftermath Six months later you’ve been memorialized in his camera phone for all his bro’s to see. Guys consider Bed Cred something that puts then into the “circle of royalty” among friends. Simply put, men are visual creatures. At the end of a relationship, the emotional attachment is over. While women save love notes and jewelry, men have their photos. In the end, the “ex” can be the best thing to building a guys “bed cred” because according to him, she would do anything for him in bed because he was the best she ever had.   It would be great to ask her, but you can’t, because she’s long gone. How Men Think 2011-05-19T10:05:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/call_text_or_email_iphone_or_android/Matt Titus http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/call_text_or_email_iphone_or_android/Matt Titus#When:10:04:00Z These days, the question isn't so much what you should say to a guy as how you should say it: via phone, text, or email? It may seem like they're all pretty much a good idea, but the truth of the matter is that there is a time and a place for each of those modes of communication. As that can all be more than a little confusing, we've compiled a list of possible scenarios and which communication mode is most appropriate for each. Why didn't we include instant messenger? Because there's really nothing that should be said over IM. Scenario 1: You and Tim hit it off at a party last night, and today he texts you with a simple, "Hey, how's it going?" You sort of wish that he would have called, but how do you answer him back to show that you're interested now that he's sent you a vague message? Answer: Text. A real man would have called, and you don't want to suddenly put the ball in his court by calling him and showing that you are willing to put in lots of effort for minimal effort on his part. Text him back with a simple response, but don't keep answering the texts if he doesn't make plans. Tell him that you have to go, but that you can be reached if he calls you. Scenario 2: You made plans with John a few days ago, but now it's Saturday morning and you aren't feeling so hot. You could go out, but would he really want you sneezing all over him? It's one of those nights where you just need to clear your calendar, put on your fuzzy slippers, and break out the Ben & Jerry's. Answer Phone. Way too many people make the mistake of texting or emailing when the cancel plans, but there's no guarantee that your message will arrive in time to prevent him from showing up at your door at the predetermined time. Plus, it sucks to have to change your plans around at the last minute-- give him the benefit of a call to let him hear how sick you are. Scenario 3: Your Ex sends you an email acknowledging everything that he did wrong in your relationship together and promising he'll do everything right if you just give him one more chance. You're tempted to consider his offer, but your relationship ended pretty badly and you'd rather just stay single and wait for Mr. Right to come along. Answer Email. It's a good idea to keep some distance in this situation, especially if you are concerned that your feelings might sway you the wrong way if you talk to him on the phone or meet up with him in person. Briefly and clearly state how you feel, and then leave the past behind you. Scenario 4: You're eating dinner with this guy you're dating when your best friend texts you and tells you that she just had the worst night ever. You want to check in with her to make sure that she's okay, but you also don't want your guy to think you're being rude. Answer Phone. Excuse yourself from the table, and quickly call your friend some place where your conversation won't disturb anyone. You'll be able to get the info you need much quicker than if you texted her, and you can let her know that now isn't a good time. There's nothing worse than a table-texter! Singles & Dating 2011-05-19T10:04:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/love_at_a_discount_get_matt_titus_advice_on_the_dealistcom/askmteditor http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/love_at_a_discount_get_matt_titus_advice_on_the_dealistcom/askmteditor#When:10:03:00Z Shake up your dating routine, get set to make that great love connection - and take matters into your own hands with the help of celebrity dating expert Matt Titus. This amazing deal gets you a choice of: a 45-min. one-on-one date coaching, or Create the Perfect Online Dating Profile session from Matt Titus for $35 (normally $250). Once purchased, your appointment can be scheduled at your convenience. All sessions are in-person, or may be via phone or online as you prefer. Once purchased, your session must be taken by December 30, 2011. Bored by the same old duds you've been meeting? Confused because the people seeking you out, aren't the ones you're looking for? 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He'll work with you on screen name selection, choosing the right photo, how to write a good About Me, and selection criteria - and he'll even help craft 5 "drafted e-mails" to send to your potential love interests. Today's deal also makes for an amazing gift for love-seeking loved ones in your midst. Grab a friend, get set to up your game, and get ready to change your love life once and for all. Let's get this deal going. The buy the fab and fun discounted deal click here! Singles & Dating 2011-05-19T10:03:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/the_first_date_menu/Lisa Lacy http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/the_first_date_menu/Lisa Lacy#When:09:55:00Z The agony of waiting by the phone is just the beginning. Should your potential beau actually call, then you have to worry about avoiding awkward silences during dinner, how to determine who is going to pick up the tab and what to do when you arrive at your doorstep at the end of the night. But sometimes the stars align despite these minefields and you find yourself in a burgeoning – gasp – relationship. And yet you still walk on eggshells while navigating all the firsts that can so easily derail a fledgling romance. Above all else, you don’t want to do the typical girl things that would freak him out. But, at the same time, you know he lives off of take-out, frozen dinners and pasta-in-a-bag. Naturally, your domestic instincts kick in. This is someone you genuinely like -- you want to feed him. How do you know when it’s time for the first at-home dinner date? And, if he doesn’t run screaming for the hills when you broach the topic, what on earth should you cook? Proposing the at-home dinner date too soon could have disastrous consequences, warns relationship expert Matt Titus, president of Matt’s Little Black Book. “It’s going to make the guy feel pressured and uncomfortable if he isn’t ready,” Titus says. “It’s a nice simple gesture, but a guy could interpret it as pressure to be involved.” This can backfire and make him go in the other direction, Titus adds. In other words: as far away from you as humanly possible. Titus recommends waiting until you’ve been dating three months before asking him to dinner at your place. “There has to be a level of intimacy reached,” he says. Once you’ve determined the time is right, experts say the optimum meal includes elements that are easy, classic, and, more likely than not, beef. In other words, you want to pick a no-frills menu that can be prepared mostly ahead of time. “Guys are basically animals,” Titus says. Therefore, you really can’t go wrong with steak. A straightforward menu including a nice filet, a common vegetable, some great wine and a dessert is perfect in Titus’ book. But what do professional chefs have to say? Tasha Garcia Gibson, co-owner and co-chef of Little Giant in New York agrees with Titus that beef is the way to go. Most men really do like steak and potatoes, she says. She also agrees that ease is key to cooking him dinner for the first time. This is especially true in a city like New York in which space is limited and you don’t have a lot of equipment on hand, she says. “Do what you’re comfortable doing,” Gibson adds. “Even if it’s stuff you make again and again and just tweak each time. A repertoire that doesn’t stress you out makes it that much more enjoyable. Especially with a new relationship – that’s stressful, too.” With that in mind, Gibson suggests braising a meat. “Braises are foolproof,” she says. “It’s almost impossible to overcook and it’s tender no matter what.” And gratins make a good side dish, she says, especially in the fall using vegetables like potato, cauliflower or broccoli. A benefit of preparing a gratin is all the prep work is done in advance. It’s in the oven, bubbling away when he arrives. Salad is another great side dish because you can toss it together at the last minute if you have all the ingredients chopped, prepared and ready to go, Gibson says. Dessert should also be made ahead of time. Gibson says fall is a great time to make cobblers with fruits like apples and pears. Sometimes it’s fun to do a mini cobbler or one that’s just big enough for the two of you to share, she suggests. While beef is a winner, it may not work if your guy has dietary restrictions. For those with dietary restrictions, pasta is a quick and easy option, says John Cordova, a poissonier (that’s a fish cook) at Le Bernardin, New York's acclaimed four-star seafood restaurant. Thirty Minute Meal guru, Rachael Ray, even has a recipe called, “You Won’t Be Single for Long Vodka Cream Pasta.” And if you’re cooking for a vegetarian, Gibson suggests a warm grain salad incorporating farro or wheat berries along with winter squash, dried fruits and nuts. But, perhaps more important than food or prep work, Titus says, “A woman should know that she is doing this guy a great service. It takes a lot of balls, having him over.” “She should say, ‘I’m proud of myself,’ be confident and try not to be nervous.” Should you need any inspiration for dessert… The Love Consultants' favorite Come Hither Cheesecake is a winner! Sure, it takes a little elbow grease, but I’ve seen grown men practically weep like babies for more of this. (And you’ll probably get to keep the leftovers…) Crust: 1 package of graham crackers (about 9), finely ground 6 tablespoons melted unsalted butter 1 tablespoon sugar Cake: 3 8-ounce packages of cream cheese, softened 1 cup sugar 3 eggs, slightly beaten 1 teaspoon vanilla extract Optional: 1/2 cup whipping cream 4 teaspoons instant espresso powder or coffee powder Or…2 1/2 teaspoons lemon zest 2 tablespoon fresh squeezed lemon juice Preheat oven to 350 degrees. For crust: mix crumbs, melted butter and 1 tbsp. sugar together. Press into the bottom of an 8” springform pan and chill. For cake: beat softened cream cheese and sugar until well blended. Add eggs one at a time, beating well after each. Add vanilla. If desired, add whipping cream and coffee powder for a cappuccino cheesecake OR lemon zest and lemon juice for a lemon cheesecake. Pour into prepared pan. Bake for about an hour. Center should be set. Cool for 30 minutes and then chill for about 6 hours or overnight. For the chocolate lover try the Super-Easy, But So Decadent He’ll Think You Spent All Day in the Kitchen Flourless Chocolate Cake (Don’t be afraid of the stiff peaks! They really do form! But make sure your bowl is really clean.) 16 ounces bittersweet chocolate (not unsweetened) 1 stick unsalted butter 1 tablespoon sugar 1 teaspoon vanilla 5 eggs, separated ¼ teaspoon cream of tartar cocoa powder or powdered sugar for sprinkling Preheat oven to 375°F and butter an 8-inch round baking pan. Line bottom with wax paper. Butter paper. In a double boiler or saucepan melt chocolate with butter, stirring, until smooth. Remove from heat and whisk sugar and vanilla into chocolate mixture. Add eggs yolks and whisk well. In a large bowl, beat egg whites and cream of tartar until stiff peaks form. Fold whites into chocolate mixture. Transfer batter to prepared pan. Bake until tester inserted into center comes out with crumbs attached, about 30 to 40 minutes. Cake will puff while baking, but will fall when you cool on a rack. Sprinkle with cocoa powder or powdered sugar if desired. Lisa Lacy is a freelance writer living in New York City. Check out her fabulous Tasty Lacy's baking blog! Style, Diet & Fitness 2011-05-19T09:55:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/the_everygirls_guide_to_life_by_maria_menounos/askmteditor http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/the_everygirls_guide_to_life_by_maria_menounos/askmteditor#When:09:53:00Z BUY THE EVERYGIRL'S GUIDE TO LIFE... Raised by working-class immigrant parents and later exposed to Hollywood's most elite experts in every field, Access Hollywood's, Today's, and Nightly News's reporter Maria Menounos reveals her EveryGirl secrets on everything: her systems to organize life, manage time, and ascend the ladder of success; her lazy woman's workout; her weight-loss tips (how she lost forty pounds and kept it off); and her guide to styling yourself like the stars—a self-proclaimed EveryGirl, Maria often does her own hair and makeup for celebrity events. In The EveryGirl's Guide to Life, Maria shares personal experiences and photos from her life and professional journey as well as the various mantras, mottos, and philosophies she's adopted from the world's most impressive women. She gives advice on health, career, relationships, renovations, recreation, and more. From your carpet to the red carpet, Maria teaches the EveryGirl on a budget how to do it all, while living a healthier and happier life. M&T Bookbag 2011-05-19T09:53:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/maria_sansone/askmteditor http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/maria_sansone/askmteditor#When:08:00:00Z What Makes Her An “It Girl”? Who would figure that attending a local basketball game would change your life forever? That is exactly what happened to 11 year old Maria Sansone. Maria was a huge basketball fan and she and her grandparents spent many nights watching the Erie Wave play in their hometown of Erie, PA. This time however, things would be a little different. During halftime two boys and two girls were randomly selected from the crowd to compete in a slam dunk contest. They lowered the rim and Maria totally hammed it up wowing the crowd and capturing the attention of a sports reporter covering the game. Mike Gallagher, from the ABC affiliate in Erie, WJET-TV24 thought it might make an interesting feature to interview the kids. When he spoke to Maria he was immediately impressed with her innate ability to articulate her thoughts. Upon viewing the tape he said Maria possessed “a chemistry with the camera”. After the feature aired that evening, calls came pouring into the station wanting to know more about the little girl they had seen. Mike had years of experience in the television industry and thought he might have stumbled on a media phenom. His instincts would prove correct. He convinced the studio brass to create a segment for the news to be called “Down to Size” featuring Maria as the host. The segment had aired for only a few weeks before Maria found herself on the radar of the national media. The Wall Street Journal wrote a feature article in the winter of 1992, followed by a frenzy of radio and newspaper interviews. Then she appeared on Good Morning America and The Tonight Show with Jay Leno. Maria appeared on to national broadcasts of ABC's Little League World Series, Professional Bowling Tour, Wide World of Sports for Kids, and reported from the U.S. Figure Skating Championships, witnessing first-hand the Nancy Kerrigan and Tonya Harding saga. Later, she co-hosted Gladiators 2000, together with American Idol’s Ryan Seacrest. She became the youngest reporter in the history of network television (12 years, 6 months old), after sideline reporting for ABC’s live coverage of The Little League World Series. She went on to interview Jim Kelly of the Buffalo Bills; Michael Jordan; Bill Cowher; baseball legend Tommy Lasorda, and others, all before her 13th birthday. Maria took a break from TV to be a 'regular' kid and attended Villa Maria Academy where she played varsity basketball. She attended Syracuse University, graduating in 2003 from the prestigious Newhouse School of Public Communications. While a junior at Syracuse she co-hosted Live with Regis and Kelly with Regis Philbin while Kelly Ripa was on maternity leave. Upon graduation in 2003 Maria headed straight for Manhattan where she worked as a VJ for MTV’s college network, mtvU. For three years she hosted a weekly music show called The Freshmen and traveled to campuses across the country. In addition she would work occasionally for CBS Sports, CSTV and NESN. In Spring of 2006 she auditioned for a new internet web show on YAHOO! called 'The 9. Although the YAHOO! officials envisioned the host to be a male, Maria nailed the concept on her first read and they had found their host! 'The 9' debuted on July 10, 2006. In August 2006, Time Magazine dubbed 'The 9' the best online video show and one of the “50 coolest websites”.  Maria then hosted "Pop Tub Daily" on You Tube. You can still view all the past episodes. Currently Maria co-hosts and contributes to the daily live show "LX New York" on WNBC New York City. Maria is also a regular contributor to TV Guide Network's "Hollywood 411" and can be found live on the the red carpet at all major award shows. What Inspires You? I’m inspired by my family everyday. I have such a solid family and I admire each of them in different ways. I’m also, inspired by dreamers who have turned their dreams into reality. People who know what they want and make it happen. I’m inspired by Do-ers. It Girl picks: {beauty products, things you cannot do without} Round brush, Oil of Olay moisturizer with sunscreen, hairspray, mascara, MAC Studio Tech Foundation, a big purse to carry all my stuff around town, a great fitting pair of jeans and comfy pajamas! Who do you consider an “It Girl”? Scarlett Johansen Reese Witherspoon Kelly Ripa Madonna Angelina Jolie Additional Information: www.mariasansone.com M&T Faves, "It" Girl Spotlight 2011-05-04T08:00:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/feel_like_makin_love/askmteditor http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/feel_like_makin_love/askmteditor#When:07:48:00Z People have long used the Internet as a tool to facilitate hook-ups, both real and virtual. But aside from a few assertive oversharers, keeping track of one's love life has been an offline pursuit for the most part. Recently, though, a slew of new websites has emerged that allow us to keep tabs on our encounters online, often with a Microsoft Excel-like precision. While the thought of using the web to chronicle our most intimate exploits makes us cringe a little (okay, a lot), this trend may be just a natural outgrowth of sites that already allow us to categorize and classify every other detail of our lives, from our finances to our shoe collections to last night's dinner. Conquest Tracking: The nuts and bolts of your latest romp can be recorded at Bedpost, a free site whose tagline is "Ever wonder how often you get busy?". Users enter in details about their latest sexual encounter - when it started, how long it lasted, who it was with, a brief description of it - and rate it on a scale of one to five. The site then generates a map of sexual activity, as well as statistics tracking averages. Bedpost claims that the information users upload is for their personal use only and will never be shared (don't hold your breath for the Facebook app, in other words). Still, that doesn't mean it has no impact on life outside its password-protected walls - a Bedpost poll revealed that 70 percent of its users thought about the site right after having sex, and sometimes even during. Safe Sex Documentation: The concept of nOOkist (formerly MyBlackBook.com) is virtually the same as Bedpost. Users can describe their sexual experiences in the kind of detail that would make Cosmopolitan's editors blush, from which the site creates stats, charts and reports about their sex lives. But unlike Bedpost, nOOkist encourages such information-sharing in the name of safe sex. A tool called VDNote (Venereal Disease Notification), accessible to all members, allows users to calculate their risk of sexually-transmitted infections based on their sexual activity, store STD test results and, through a partnership with getSTDtested, easily access STD testing resources. Love Making Mapping: If you're looking for a little less privacy, turn to I Just Made Love, a kind of Foursquare for the bedroom. Users tell the site where they've just done the deed (using Google Maps to mark the exact location), indicate whether the sex was indoors or outdoors, and which of five positions they engaged in (handy graphics represent each one). Users can create personal "love maps" and compare their numbers with others. Global sex maps allow all visitors to the site - not just users - to gauge the level of "action" in any location in the world, from their own street to, say, Kuala Lumpur. Read more at www.trendcentral.com. Sex 2011-05-04T07:48:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/why_he_calls_you_a_nag_when_youre_not/Matt Titus http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/why_he_calls_you_a_nag_when_youre_not/Matt Titus#When:07:45:00Z It was 85 degrees at 9 a.m., and I was headed to the pool to cool off. Sud­denly, I heard my significant other’s voice coo, “Matt, can you call to board the dogs for Thanksgiving?” Huh? That’s five months away. They’re two 7­-pound Chihuahuas — how much space could they take up at the doggie day spa? Clearly, she was kidding. I grunted in response and carried on with the day. At noon, she rephrased the request: “Did that number work — the one for the kennel?” Then at dinner, my personal favorite: “So, what did they tell you when you called about boarding the dogs?” This was July. She was talking about No­vem­ber. At this point, I had no choice — it was self­-preservation. I pulled out my secret weapon, the one itty-­bitty phrase that’s proven to drive her straight up the wall: You’re nagging.  I felt guilty...ish, but hey, as soon as I said it, she stopped asking me to make the call.  The Sneak Attack  Here’s the thing: In guys’ minds, we already did everything a woman (i.e., Mom) asked for 18 years, and it almost killed us. But now that we are, ahem, all grown up, we don’t want to be told what to do. If we do everything our girlfriends and wives say, we will actually lose our manly status and turn into children again. Yes, we really think that. Enter You’re nagging. We know this phrase will silence you instantly, and that’s why we whip it out. We’re well aware that being called a nag mentally morphs a woman into a 350­-pound housewife in pink curlers and a hideous flowered muumuu. Men also know — though we’ll never admit it — that we make your repeated requests necessary in the first place. Ugly guy truth: No matter how much we love you, we’re only capable of listening to about 20 percent of what you have to say. As a result, we force you to repeat yourself, and then we call it nagging, and then...you get really, really pissed off. Playing Dirty But there are ways to fend off our nasty attempts to make you feel like our mom. First, remember that men live in the moment, and anything that doesn’t fall within a 24-hour period seems light-years away. You need to add an extra sentence to make your request stick in your man’s head: “Oh, your massive pecs almost made me forget — the dog spa fills up months in advance, which is why I need you to call now.” When your guy calls you a nag, the best thing you can do is take action — start doing whatever it was you were nagging him about right in front of his eyes. Watching the woman he cares about give up on him is even more emasculating than being bossed around. He’ll instantly take over and feel like a jack­ass for not doing it sooner. If it’s something you can’t manage to do yourself, you can send the ultimate message by walking away. For instance, if your guy is a smoker and you’ve asked him to quit, bolt from the room with a “seriously?!” look on your face the next time he lights up. Your absence speaks louder than words.  On that July evening, as my woman huffed toward the phone, I intercepted and made the call. When I hung up (and saw the angry expression on her face), I promised never to call her a nag again. I just might need her to, uh, remind me to keep it. How Men Think 2011-05-04T07:45:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/beckys_whipped_cheese_and_fruit_parfaits/Becky Wenner http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/beckys_whipped_cheese_and_fruit_parfaits/Becky Wenner#When:07:43:00Z All it takes is a little imagination, some healthy ingredients and a good appetite! This whipped cheese and fruit recipe is fantastic because of its versatility, ease of preparation and delightful taste. It can be made in about 15 minutes or less and depending on how much you make, the leftovers are perfect for breakfast, snacks or anytime you just need something yummy! It travels well, looks pretty and is perfect to bring to a party, BBQ, or to serve for guests.  Becky’s Whipped Cheese and Fruit Parfaits 1 Quart Lowfat Ricotta Cheese 3 Tablespoons Honey 1 Tablespoon Vanilla Extract Mixed Fruit, washed and chopped  Put first three ingredients in a bowl and using an electric mixer, mix the cheese, honey and vanilla for about 10 minutes until it forms a fluffy creamy texture. Layer ¼ cup of whipped cheese mixture in cup with mixed fruit or berries; create 2 – 3 layers of fruit and cheese and serve chilled. This can also be made in a single serve large bowl, rather than individual parfaits. Enjoy without the guilt!   As Always, Stay Focused Until the Miracle Happens, Becky www.WorkoutwithBecky.com. Style, Diet & Fitness 2011-05-04T07:43:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/ending_bad_relationship_habits/Matt Titus http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/ending_bad_relationship_habits/Matt Titus#When:07:33:00Z When people become comfortable in a relationship, "effort" is the first thing to go. And, it's not just the boys who get the blame when it comes to those very bad habits. For Men: Flowerless: Remember when he used to show up with roses? It's been six months and now you are hitting the high note, "You don't bring me flowers anymore!" Lazy Boy: This is a biggie. Instead of planning that Sunday brunch, he's happy loafing on his couch or Lazy Boy. Dirty Laundry: How many pairs of socks can one man have? Leaving laundry around the house is another man-nerism that stinks, so we have some tips to solve his habits. For Women: Letting your appearance go: No make-up, ripped sweats and a lil' weight gain is something he WON'T LIKE! Endless Demands: Ever notice how much you like planning everything out to the last second for your guy as the relationship grows? Believe me, he notices and doesn't enjoy checking off your "to do" list; take a breath and relax. The Solution: 3 month rule: Men and women both need to always treat each other the same way they did the first 3 months they started to see each other. Simply The Best: Always give each other the best you have in the way you look, act and especially treat each other.   Love & Relationships 2011-05-04T07:33:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/10_characteristics_that_men_love/Tamsen Fadal http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/10_characteristics_that_men_love/Tamsen Fadal#When:07:30:01Z Men don't talk. Let me rephrase that, MOST men don't talk and that is why women are often times confused about what is going on in our heads. Here are a few fun facts about Mr. Right, Mr. Right Now or the man you have had your eyes on who lives across the hall. 1. You are an independent woman, not a clinger. Men love it when you include them in your life, but do not make them your life. Keep your gym routine, your friends, your family and make sure you never let him see you sweat if he can’t make it. Your life goes on with or without him; and if you act like this, you will never be without him! 2. You are sexy, hot, but not slutty. That’s right, men like it when you turn the head of every guy in the room, as long as you are on his arm and let everyone know it. Don’t ever flirt with his guy friends, and always make sure you let him know he’s the apple of your eye. 3. You remember to do the little things, just like you did in the beginning. You don’t expect him to take you out to dinner every night, a home cooked meal is always a nice surprise. You surprise him with his favorite Starbucks drink when he gets up in the morning. And, you never, ever forget those special occasions: Superbowl Sunday, NCCA Final Four and the NBA finals! 4. You let him pursue you. The Geico commercials have it right, there are still cavemen out there and they love the hunt. That means: don’t call him first, don’t text and don’t try to find where he is going to be. If he wants to see you, nothing will stand in his way…nothing. 5. You never utter the words “where is this going?” We call those “The Final Four.” Enough said. Let him dictate the pace of the relationship, if you don’t, you will forever be asking that question. 6. You demand respect. This is not just for your guy, it is also for yourself. That means you don’t sleep with a man on the first date, or even the second. You wait until you know the time is right. And if he is the right kind of guy, he will wait too. 7. You impose a two drink maximum on yourself when you go out. No man likes a sloppy drunk party girl. Those girls are fun to play with, not to stay with. 8. You never humiliate him in front of friends, family or co-workers. Ever been standing between that couple who likes to throw cutting remarks at one another. It’s not only uncomfortable for third parties, it’s damaging all around. Avoid being those people, be loving, kind and never try to degrade a man for a cheap laugh. 9. Watch your language. That’s means let him take the lead when it comes to words like: puppies, babies and marriage. Take those words out of your vocabulary, at least until you are wearing the ring. 10. You say yes. That’s right, the sex doesn’t go away once you get the guy. There is nothing more frustrating to a man than a woman who is sexual in the beginning, and then uses it as a weapon. Make sure you don’t play games. How Men Think 2011-05-04T07:30:01-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/the_single_girls_guide_to_spring_cleaning/Matt Titus http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/the_single_girls_guide_to_spring_cleaning/Matt Titus#When:07:26:00Z Are you having a hard time getting motivated to go out and socialize, is your social life still in a deep freeze? This is your last chance to do some spring cleaning before the sizzle of summer arrives, here are a few tips to bring your calendar to life! 1. Get out of the house, even if it's raining with those April showers. Chances are you might find someone who has also ducked under an awning to dry out or taken shelter in a coffee shop to dry out. 2. Try to keep that glow. Bronzer is a girl's best friend. It makes you stand out, look fresh, youthful and alive! 3. Don’t underestimate the power of singles vacations. This is the place to find plenty of successful, good-looking, ambitious people who, like yourself, are not sitting at home waiting for the phone to ring. 4. The best places to find singles are everyday: charity events, wine tastings, grocery stores and yes, restaurants. Check out great restaurants in your city. 5. Go everywhere you are invited [within reason!] Even if it’s an event for all men or all women, chances are someone will have a single brother just waiting to be charmed. 6. Stop wasting your time on Mr. Wrong. I don’t care how bored you are, you haven’t had an adventure in the bedroom for far too long. GET OUT THERE GIRL! Love & Relationships 2011-05-04T07:26:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/are_you_spending_too_much_time_with_your_man/Matt Titus http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/are_you_spending_too_much_time_with_your_man/Matt Titus#When:05:14:00Z   Robert Pattinson and Kristen Stewart are madly in love but they are taking a short breather. They were together in St. Thomas re-shooting Breaking Dawn honeymoon scenes but Rob had to hop on a plane to Germany for the Water For Elephants premiere. He was spotted having a great time with friends at an Italian restaurant in Berlin! HollywoodLife.com asks The Love Consultants — professional matchmaker and dating coach Matt Titus and his wife, author and media personality Tamsen Fadal — if it’s good for these two young stars to have some time apart. Matt’s Take: Robert Pattinson and Kristen Stewart are a really great pair, they keep doing everything right  – and that’s not easy when they are always together! But now, Robert is in Europe, where he’s been flying solo. Is it a good thing to get time away from your soulmate and spend some time just being “you”? My expert answer is YES! Listen, it’s great to always want to be with your partner. But the truth is, taking time out for yourself in a healthy relationship is…well, healthy!  There is a danger in always being together 24/7 — a relationship isn’t exciting when you don’t have new things to share with your partner. By spending time apart, you are able to bring new energy to the table. When you spend every moment together, you have nothing new to share with each other. Bottom line: boredom always leads to trouble. Of course Robert and Kristen don’t have boring lives, but even spending time in the spotlight together can cause stress and strain. I think these two are working to keep their romance strong. Enjoying a night out separately with friends is an easy option to give couples a chance to break away for a few hours. You have to be able to have fun on your own, and it will only help when you’re out with that special someone. Depending on someone else for all of your happiness is not healthy. After a certain amount of time, couples settle into a comfortable routine. And guess what? Comfortable is not sexy! You have to keep a little surprise and mystery in a relationship. If Tuesday is always meatloaf night, and Thursday is sushi, you need to shake up your relationship menu. I always say that not only does absence make the heart grow fonder, it makes it stronger and smarter as well! Keep an eye on Rob and Kristen– they know what they are doing! Tamsen’s Take: Spending quality alone time in a relationship is an important topic that people often avoid. It’s not always easy to do, but you have to do it. Why? The answer is simple — when you spend time apart, you have time to actually miss the other person! Rob and Kristen have huge demands upon them on almost a second by second basis: be ready for your filming call time, be ready for that press interview, be ready for everything! Often they have to do these events together. Now couple that with being in a serious relationship with each other, and you have a pretty heavy load to juggle. The good news — these two are seemingly acing it. Rob spending some time apart is expected and needed. You can’t be chained to the other person 365 days a year. Not if you want your romance to last. I am sure Kristen is looking forward to that next moment they’ll be together. This is only something that can be achieved through spending time apart. The usual concern for successful couples is spending too much time apart due to busy schedules. It’s not usually noted that spending every second together can be just as negative for a relationship. Every person needs some “”me-time,” not just Hollywood superstars. Having the time to evaluate your relationship and discover what you really need and want from it is a must. By knowing what you need to love and grow as a partner, you’ll be happier and healthier with YOUR own partner! A little healthy separation goes a long way. How’s that song go again? Oh yes  – “reunited and it feels so good”? More Advice From The Love Consultants Right Here! You Can Buy Matt & Tamsen’s Book ‘Why Hasn’t He Called’ Right Here! Check Out Our Dating Coach Matt Titus’ website! Will Dating Multiple Men Like Ashley Greene Is Make Your Man Jealous? Celeb Love 2011-05-02T05:14:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/sexy_slangs_newest_blogger_chrystal_rose/SexySlang http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/sexy_slangs_newest_blogger_chrystal_rose/SexySlang#When:11:49:01Z Our friends over at SexySlang.com have a new Senior Editor in charge of their fabulous blog, Chrystal Rose, and she's totally somebody we can't wait to hear more from. She & her boyfriend are going to take all 69 of the challenges in their hit book, Sexy Slang's Bedroom Challenges and she'll be writing all about her adventures as she tackles each and every one of them! Chrystal introduced herself with her debut column, read a sexy snippet of it below: "My name is Chrystal Rose and I’m a writer who somehow found my way into the genre of dating, sex and relationships. Ted and Christi have asked me to come on board to keep you up to date on what’s going on in the Sexy Slang world and I’m so excited to do so! A little about me…  Being in my late 20’s, I’ve had several long-term relationships and even dodged a bullet by calling off an engagement to the wrong guy. I’ve encountered just about everything, either personally or through friends who come to me for advice. Right now I’m in a relationship with a great guy I’ll call “Mr. Perfect.” We’ve been together a little over a year and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been with anyone. In addition to keeping you current, Mr. Perfect and I will be stumbling through Sexy Slang’s Bedroom Challenges and you can read all about them right here! Follow along with us as we take on each challenge and share the laughter, the discoveries and of course, the fun!" To read more from Ms. Rose, and to check out all the fun over at the Sexy Slang blog, click here. Launched in February 2008, Sexy Slang's flagship party game brings a naughty twist to traditional drawing games and charades. Faced-paced and dynamic, teams race to guess the same titillating term at the same time, creating an incredibly social, and often sexually charged, atmosphere. Sexy Slang's games also include Naughty Charades, Sex Positions Darts, and iPhone applications Nice & Naughty Charades and Sexy Slang's Bachelorette Challenge. Today, Sexy Slang games are for sale in over 1,000 stores across the country, including Barnes & Noble. Capitalizing on the goal of creating stimulating conversation, Sexy Slang has expanded the brand to apparel and many other products, including iPhone and computer skins. Sexy Slang apparel can be purchased at Wal-Mart, Kohl’s and Rue 21. To put more "Slang" in your "Sexy" click here! Sexy Slang - You'll Laugh Until it Hurts™ Sex, Sexy Slang 2011-04-26T11:49:01-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/why_do_i_always_need_my_friends_around/Tamsen Fadal http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/why_do_i_always_need_my_friends_around/Tamsen Fadal#When:11:48:00Z Dear Matt & Tamsen, I need to always have my friends with me. My boyfriend hates this, how can I learn to be more confident on my own?  Sad and Not Lonely, Carol from Atlanta   Your friends are acting as a buffer between you and your boyfriend. Neither of you will show your true colors to each other when you’re both in groups. Our personalities take on different dynamics during group interaction. Groups can also allow us to be lazy in showing others who we really are because there are other people around to assume the role of entertainer, flirt or clown. Here are a few things to remember that will help you feel confident in wanting alone time with your guy: 1. Guys don’t waste time on girls that they don’t want to be with. He is even demanding alone time, this should make you realize that you are a hot, sexy girl whose boyfriend can’t wait to get his hands on. 2. He could have chosen many girls and he chose you, now that says something. 3. Look as much as you hope that he might be the one, there is a chance that he might not be. So this guy might be “practice” and if you make a bad move when your alone, no biggie. We learn from our mistakes and you won’t make the same one twice especially with Mr. Right, who might be around the corner.   Singles & Dating 2011-04-26T11:48:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/hollywood_life_are_justin_bieber_selena_moving_too_fast/askmteditor http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/hollywood_life_are_justin_bieber_selena_moving_too_fast/askmteditor#When:11:38:00Z Justin Bieber and Selena Gomez shared another hotel room together. HollywoodLife.com asked The Love Consultants if these two stars are too young to be appear to be so intimate! Matt’s Take:  Justin and Selena have certainly been going strong as a couple — with the latest word that she joined him when his world tour made a stop in Malaysia. The two teen lovebirds reportedly shared the presidential suite at the Kuala Lumpur Hilton and were described as “such a beautiful and loving couple” who “hardly stepped out of” their room. But is it OK for Justin and Selena to appear to be shacking up together at such young ages? They also had what looked to be a steamy getaway in St. Lucia this winter. I say they are both too young for this. It’s hard to expect teenage romance to have weight or depth. Keeping it easy and fun is key — and overnight stays in high-class resorts definitely cross the danger line! Tamsen’s Take: I think Justin and Selena really do make a sweet couple. They’re cute, talented and seem to really have fun together. But I believe things are moving way too fast for them! Teens need to doing things like go to the movies, the mall or spend time together on Skype, not share the presidential suite in a tropical paradise! Yes, I know that for two young people as famous as Selena and Justin, it is nearly impossible to be “normal teenagers.” They need guidance from the adults in their lives to stay on the right path. To read the full article on Hollywood Life click here! Hollywood Life is a multi-faceted entertainment brand. Hollywoodlife.com, the online destination, is the primary focus, complemented by a variety of premium award shows. The brand captures and celebrates the essence of celebrity "Hollywood" lifestyle – news, beauty, fashion, gossip and culture. Bonnie Fuller leads the HollywoodLife.com team. She is President and Editor in Chief and an industry-leading media executive and magazine innovator with an unparalleled track record of success in transforming brands and publications, such as Us Weekly, Shape, Cosmopolitan, Glamour, and Star magazine.   Love & Relationships 2011-04-26T11:38:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/date_coach_matt_titus_on_whether_you_should_wait_like_kate/Matt Titus http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/date_coach_matt_titus_on_whether_you_should_wait_like_kate/Matt Titus#When:13:41:00Z As we gear up for the Royal Wedding, date coach Matt Titus weighs in on what Kate did right – and wrong. If you want more information on how you can find your own prince, he is offering a 45 minute session for $39 through KGB Deals. Kate got nicknamed Waity Kaity after waiting for William to propose for 7 years. How long would you recommend people wait for someone they’re in a relationship with to commit? 18 months. We do a lot of research regarding men and commitment, so once the relationship has been established for exclusivity it should be no longer the 18 months. If a man can’t get your life with him together in that time frame then he’s sending you a signal that you’re not the one. Does that time frame change dependent on circumstances? If say, his parents went through a messy divorce as Prince William’s did? A man is a man is a man. We talk about a way to treat a man the first 90 days, capital MANagement. Even though a guy might be a notorious successful bachelor or have family problems, you can take these mitigating circumstances into account, but the baseline is 18 months. No matter what experiences he’s had, he should be able to get it together in that time-frame. Prince William said years ago that he didn’t want to get married until 28. Now, both he and Kate are 28, and getting married. Do you feel that’s an appropriate age? I don’t think men are ready to commit until they are 35. No matter who they are. I think if you can be as established as possible, living a single life and being selfish for a while, all these things are very important. And that’s what makes me believe you have to be in your mid thirties. Of course, it’s a different situation because they’re royalty, but I think in general 35 years old is the best age. Kate used a sheer dress to catch Prince William’s attention. Should women err on the side of provocative clothing when on the first date? Definitely. Men are driven by what they see. You need to ask yourself: what is your value proposition? Aesthetically is it your breast, your hips, your legs? Whatever it is, accentuate it! Not to the hooker extent. But if you have great boobs wear your best bra and make sure there is some cleavage, if you have a great butt play that up. Do something that will create a sexual fantasy in the guy’s mind and let him chase that fantasy for as long as possible. It’s the guy. It’s all the guy determining this. Men are instinctively driven by sexuality, and women need to know how to handle that. Kate is a commoner and Will is a royal. Do you think coming from different backgrounds can create problems in a relationship? Absolutely. I used to think opposites attract. I still believe they do attract initially, but there become problems once that attraction fades. So things like upbringing, financial and social status, those things always help a relationship. Though I think the royals need to be able to have it their way, and I think when a commoner comes into their home turf, or their culture, it’s a given that they’ll have to abide by the royal’s rules. I think there could be a lot of conflicts with two royals based on royal cultures, because they might be used to very different things, and both could be uncompromising. A commoner will bend a lot easier and follow the rules a bit better than someone who has the same type of fame and paparazzi following them around. How can you politely tell your man he is balding? I think you always need to be positive. If he’s balding and has a great looking face, say “you have a great jawline and your eyes really pop. Shave your head! Because your head isn’t accenting how great the rest of you is.” It always hs to be backed up by a positive comment. Say “you have a great body, you have a lot of testosterone, your hair just isn’t doing you any favors.” How Men Think 2011-04-25T13:41:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/the_1_time_to_have_his_back/askmteditor http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/the_1_time_to_have_his_back/askmteditor#When:08:24:00Z Any good girlfriend knows how important it is to be her man’s side during tough times. What you might not know is that the stuff you do and say during his happy moments is actually more vital to your long-term contentment as a couple. Couples who blow off each other’s highs are less satisfied, less trusting, less intimate, and at greater risk for calling it quits. The editors of Women’s Health magazine examine the best ways to give him props. Show Some EnthusiasmWhen he comes home and shares the good about his promotion, stop what you’re doing and tell him how happy you are for him. Try to mirror his tone, posture and excitement. Seeing his elation reflected back by you will make him feel even better about his achievement. Be CuriousGive your husband or boyfriend an excuse to brag. Asking questions allows him to highlight his strengths and makes it clear you’re interested in what’s important to him. You want to join him in the experience so he feels you’re right there with him. Your curiosity will make him feel more comfortable confiding in you about future goals and dreams, bringing you closer. Acknowledge What It Means to HimNext time he’s beaming over his softball team’s victory, validate his feelings by confirming the event’s importance.  Tell him you know how badly he wanted to win the league championship and how happy you are it happened for him. When you give a nod to the fact that he wanted this, you show him you know him inside and out and have intimate knowledge of what matters to him. Treat what he loves with respect. Pay AttentionNonverbal cues that make you seem indifferent can undermine your kind or supportive words. Picking at your nails, looking out the window, or simply crossing your arms can project a lack of interest. Instead, look him in the eye, smile and learn forward to show you’re receptive and engaged in what he’s telling you. For more relationship tips, check out WomensHealthMag.com or pick up the May copy of Women’s Health magazine, on newsstands now! How Men Think 2011-04-25T08:24:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/lifebookercom_offers_matt_titus_dating_advice_at_a_big_discount/askmteditor http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/lifebookercom_offers_matt_titus_dating_advice_at_a_big_discount/askmteditor#When:11:45:01Z Our co-founder Matt Titus, is teaming with Lifebooker.com to offer you an amazing discount on his acclaimed dating and relationship advice. What sets Matt apart is the fact he delivers relationship advice from the perspective of a man who played the field, learned from his mistakes and was given a second chance at love. Dating can be a tricky, so today we're two Loot with celebrity dating expert Matt Titus. Get a one-on-one coaching session or learn to create the perfect online dating profile for $39 (both reg: $250). Matt Titus is the author of the bestseller Why Hasn't He Called?, which he co-wrote with his wife, TV personality Tamsen Fadal. He regularly contributes dating advice to Life & Style, and he's helped stars like Carrie Underwood up their game. In the 45-minute coaching session, Matt will reveal all the "secrets of the Boys' Club." A former player turned faithful husband, he'll let you in on how men think and how to get the right one interested in you. Or Matt can take your online dating profile to the next level (which is the level where lots of people want to date you). He'll work with you on screen name selection, choosing the right photo, how to write a good About Me, and selection criteria. He'll even help craft five emails to send to potential love interests. Grab this Loot now and up your game. To get in on the dating fun click here! Love & Relationships 2011-04-22T11:45:01-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/the_pros_and_cons_of_lying_to_your_spouse/YourTango http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/the_pros_and_cons_of_lying_to_your_spouse/YourTango#When:14:14:00Z Lying is something that occurs in typically most relationships. Whether its a fib to protect your partner, or a white lie to boost your partner's ego where do we draw the line when it comes to lying or telling the truth? Yourtango.com has given us a few tips to the pros and cons of lying to your partner in certain scenarios. Lie 1: You look great! Verdict: Benign  If he's asked you how he looks in the suit he hasn't worn in a year, and you're already en route to a family wedding, telling him he looks fantastic (even if you wish he'd picked the tie without the dancing penguins) can't hurt, and may make the whole affair more fun for both of you. But if he can change, then go for honesty—with a smile, says Laurie Puhn, relationship expert and author of Instant Persuasion: How to Change Your Words to Change Your Life. Try, "You look so handsome in that suit, but I think the darker shirt would look even better."   Lie 2: Sex with you is the best I've ever had. Verdict: Mostly benign "I try never to lie about sex," says Alisa Bowman, who blogs about marriage at ProjectHappilyEverAfter.com. "It's difficult enough to remain attracted to someone after years of marriage—being dishonest makes it harder." That said, some men simply don't want the truth that deep in your past you had earth-shaking sex with someone else. In that case, no harm done by keeping up the fantasy that you've never been satisfied by anyone but him. More important, it's a truth that doesn't matter anymore. After all, you're with him—not Mr. Great Sex from 20 years ago, right?   Lie 3: Your family is wonderful! Verdict: Mostly Benign "This can be a good lie because you want it to be true," says Puhn. Though it's easy to disparage the in-laws, for the health of your marriage, try to focus on what is wonderful about his family: They adore and babysit your kids, for example. But if there's a situation that's truly bothering you, "be honest with your husband so he can intervene if necessary," says Bowman.   Lie 4: You're the best-looking guy here. Verdict: Benign "Add these two words—to me—and it becomes true no matter what," says Puhn. White lie or plain and honest truth, saying these words, or something like them, is an opportunity to give your marriage a shot in the arm. Plus, "a great thing happens when you compliment the person you love," says Puhn. "He becomes more of what you say he is."   Lie 5: I did have an orgasm last night. Verdict: Bad Lying about your satisfaction with your sex life hurts you. Woman up and tell him—preferably while you're in bed—what makes you feel good. You may think the lie is OK because you don't want to ding his ego, but while it may temporarily make him feel good to hear that he rocked your world, "your satisfaction is more important than his ego," says Bowman. To read more of this article, and other great tips please visit yourtango.com Love & Relationships 2011-04-19T14:14:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/how_to_get_the_guy/Matt Titus http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/how_to_get_the_guy/Matt Titus#When:14:08:00Z The First Step, Make Him Notice You! It’s really pretty simple. It’s not 1975 anymore. Portraying yourself as a “Lady in Waiting” as in waiting for your Prince Charming, is going to result in one thing: Being Lonely! Nowadays its all about being unique and different. What can you do to stand out from all of the other beautiful women that want that same good looking successful guy? The answer is in your behavior. Smile, approach men, introduce yourself, start the conversation, be fearless! If a guy can’t handle a woman walking up to him and starting a conversation than he isn’t someone that you want to know anyway. A secure, good guy will be completely impressed by a women that takes the initiative and attempts to make love happen. So get out there with a purpose and a plan, smile at the next great looking guy you see and actually walk up to him and introduce yourself. You might be surprised at the outcome of your actions. Make Him Wait: Men become emotionally connected after they become physically addicted. So if you want a guy all to yourself make the passion hotter than ever but don’t sleep with him. Do everything else. Remember a guy's fantasy about sleeping with you will always be stronger than the reality of it. Let him chase the fantasy until he falls in love with you. When You Finally Sleep With Him Rock His World! Lets face it, the fastest way to a man’s heart is through his groin.. I don’t care how smart, successful or independent he may seem, when it comes to sex, he is as weak as all the rest. I know, because I am a guy that has slept with many women and have had a select few completely control my heart, by being incredible in bed. Yes men are that simple. Distinguish yourself horizontally and he will give you everything you dreamed vertically. Singles & Dating 2011-04-19T14:08:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/hollywood_life_mt_on_khloe_kardashian_and_lamar_odom_big_fight/askmteditor http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/hollywood_life_mt_on_khloe_kardashian_and_lamar_odom_big_fight/askmteditor#When:14:04:00Z Khloe Kardashian got into a heated argument with husband Lamar Odom‘s best friend Jamie on the April 17 episode of Khloe and Lamar – and it totally put Lamar in the middle! HollywoodLife.com asked The Love Consultants, Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal, whether it’s a bad idea to pick a fight with your man’s longtime buddy. Matt’s Take: Uh oh! Khloe and Lamar are fighting — again. And it’s not about something he did or she did — it’s over Lamar’s free-loading best friend Jamie! Jamie “works” for Lamar’s clothing company, Rich Soil. But the company is floundering while Jamie sleeps all day, parties all night and hangs out at the couple’s loft. Khloe couldn’t take it anymore and swung into action. She changed the locks on the door to the loft, and then confronted Jamie. That led to a huge fight, putting Lamar in the middle of what is one of the worst relationship conflicts you can have — coming between a guy and his best buddy! Khloe’s having trouble understanding the intricate dynamic between Lamar and his friends and family. She and Lamar have known each other for a VERY short time and Lamar and Jamie have a 20-year history. Good or bad, the “bro-code” is long and strong with these two guys. The key for Khloe is going to be how she balances being a part of her husband’s life without demanding complete control of it. Even if that means dealing with his free-loading friends and family. Tamsen’s Take: Is the honeymoon over for Khloe and Lamar? I don’t think so, but the relationship took a hit because of Jamie. This is a common problem we get here at The Love Consultant offices — “I love my husband but can’t stand his friends and family!”  Confrontation, the kind that Khloe initiated, is not a solution. That only leads to more conflict and uneasy relations. She clearly loves Lamar and is protective. She just needs to tell Lamar about her feelings and offer advice — instead of taking matters into her own hands. Especially when they are matters between him and friends. To read the full article on Hollywood Life click here! Hollywood Life is a multi-faceted entertainment brand. Hollywoodlife.com, the online destination, is the primary focus, complemented by a variety of premium award shows. The brand captures and celebrates the essence of celebrity "Hollywood" lifestyle – news, beauty, fashion, gossip and culture. Bonnie Fuller leads the HollywoodLife.com team. She is President and Editor in Chief and an industry-leading media executive and magazine innovator with an unparalleled track record of success in transforming brands and publications, such as Us Weekly, Shape, Cosmopolitan, Glamour, and Star magazine. Love & Relationships 2011-04-19T14:04:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/how_to_get_healthy_and_fit/Becky Wenner http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/how_to_get_healthy_and_fit/Becky Wenner#When:05:44:00Z Fitness is not as simple as it may seem.  “Exercise and Eat Healthy”, those two commandments are the most challenging hurdles people face in their lives today.  With your physical and mental health being dependant on fitness, eating right and exercising are essential although cumbersome parts of reality. Understand this, being healthy and fit is a lifestyle.  It is not something you can achieve in one day, nor can you destroy it in one week.  It takes commitment, and your efforts must be for the long term.  As you know, in order to be successful at any long term goal, a person must PLAN and PREPARE and have PATIENCE with yourself.  These three characteristics are indispensable to any health & wellness plan and without them, fitness will be difficult to achieve.  Planning and Preparing by example: Each week on Sunday- I wake up about 1 hour before my husband. It is at that time, I drink my tea, sit back relax, enjoy the silence of the Sunday morning and begin my planning for the week. I take a look at my calendar for the week ahead and take note as to how busy I will actually be. Where do I have to go on what days. After that- I then plan my workout schedule....I figure out on which days I will study martial arts, on which days I will lift weights and when I will achieve cardio. Next- I think of food. With my schedule in place- I now know how much time I will have to dedicate to cooking, and I have a good idea of how I will feel both physically and mentally each day. I then sit in the kitchen with a paper and pen- and actually write down- what I will eat all week.....Breakfast M,T,W,TH,F....snack....lunch....and so on. I factor in fruit, veggies, lean proteins and I plan which days I will eat a meal that has been prepared ahead of time on Sunday or that is frozen. Now that my meal plan is all worked out- on the other side of the paper- I make my GROCERY LIST. Now I am ready for the week. I have planned, and I am ready to prepare the meals I have planned out. I am also ready to conquer the supermarket with a purpose. When I get there- there will be no needless browsing or purchasing. I will go to the market somewhere in the day on Sunday. In this shopping trip- I will buy ALL the food I need for the week- to avoid unnecessary marketing traps of the SUPERMARKET and needless purchases. Once the fresh food is in my home and unpacked, on Sunday evening while getting myself ready for the week I begin to cook the food I plan on eating for the week! By Monday I have my food planned and prepared and I am ready for action! I have a little lunch box and I am all set. I am also able to resist temptation while I am out on appointments as my food is packed and ready to go! Without PLANNING AND PREPARATION- with all of the temptation of the Standard American Diet, you will never reach your goal of eating healthy and getting fit.  Patience: Now for the last P in the equation.....PATIENCE. This is essential- as no matter how much you plan and prepare- things always go off track without notice. This could be due to family, work, stress - whatever. Maybe you just don't feel like eating string beans again! OK- so you lose your mind and go to Carvell. Well- in my book that is no big deal- if these slips are few and far in between. One day of eating bad will not kill you - just like one day of eating well will not make you healthy! So- have patience with yourself....make changes in your life one at a time! Give yourself time to adjust and formally change your habits SLOWLY to ensure LONGEVITY. You cannot change all of your eating, exercise and life habits in one day.  It takes time; to understand that and accept that concept you need patience.  Remember, Eat, Exercise and Be Happy! That is what life is all about. http://WorkoutwithBecky.com As always, Stay Focused Until the Miracle Happpens Becky   Style, Diet & Fitness 2011-04-19T05:44:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/for_the_jet_setter_in_you/askmteditor http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/for_the_jet_setter_in_you/askmteditor#When:04:06:00Z We are always looking for fabulous travel companions for our readers...and the Jet Bag seems to be perfect for the girl on the go! Traveling with wine is a  tricky prospect at best! Heightened security and new restrictions leave you  having to check your wine purchases in your suitcase. How do you ensure  that your wine will arrive safely when your suitcase is thrown  on to luggage belts and jostled inside airplanes? You need to find a way to  protect your wine bottles, and also make sure that your clothes won't be ruined  if they do get broken. The Jet Bag Will Protect  Your Valuables in Flight! The Jet Bag is the perfect way to transport wine (or any other liquids) in your suitcase  when traveling. A bio-degradable carrier with a reusable zip seal closure, the Jet Bag completely secures your liquids. It is lined with the same absorbent  materials found in baby diapers. The material pads & protects your bottle,  but also rapidly absorbs up 100% of any liquid spilled, insuring against damage  to your valuables. You Can Use It Again and  Again A wine travel bag like the Jet Bag is an inexpensive and  lightweight solution to give you the ultimate protection for your breakable  purchases. And you don't have to limit its use to wine! The Jet Bag is also  a great way to transport liquor, perfume, vinegar--any liquid you purchase that  may be contained in a breakable bottle. As an added bonus,  the Jet Bag has a re-sealable closure, so if no spillage occurs, you  can use it again and again! BUY THE JET BAG M&T Faves, M&T Must Haves 2011-04-19T04:06:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/10_ways_to_tell_hes_the_cheating_kind/Matt Titus http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/10_ways_to_tell_hes_the_cheating_kind/Matt Titus#When:13:41:00Z 1. Too Much Of A Good Thing Is Bad This is a classic sign of cheating. It may sound weird, but if you man is TOO attentive, showers you with love, affection and especially gifts, he may be the cheating kinds. This is not to say that every attentive man is seeing someone behind your back, but if his affection is out of the ordinary, over the top and all consuming, you may want to keep an extra eye on him 2. New Music, New Cologne, New Attitude If you man is suddenly rocking out to Seal, wearing a new scent and is all of a sudden the life of the party (when he was once Mr. Shy Guy) he may be straying. Often times, men take on new behavior or the likes of the person they are trying to impress and striving to be with. 3. He Accuses You This is one of those classis signs of cheating: he accuses you of straying. This happens because he is over riden with guilt and is projecting his feelings onto you. 4. His Phone Is Off Or Off Limits If you do not have access to your mate's phone or he turns it off or is very private and jumpy when rings, he most likely has something to hide. A man with no "strange on the side" is not worried about whose calling. 5. He Likes To Fight This is again due to guilt and the fact he is trying to give himself an excuse for his bad behavior. He is fighting with you so he can justify the fact he is seeing someone else, telling himself, "I am not happy in my relationship, she picks on me, therefore it's okay to get attention elsewhere." 6. I Don't Want Your Sex Your sex life comes to a screeching halt. If you can't remember the last time you had sex, it's a pretty good indication that he is getting it somewhere else. 7. New Friends Could Be Your Enemy All of a sudden your mate starts talking a lot about a "new friend at work" someone he met "at the gym" or a "neighbor who is nice." This is not a one time mention but a person he constantly refers to in conversation. 8. He Is Unreliable He comes home late from works, leaves early for the gym and doesn't always answer his phone. Inconsistences like these can make for a bad bed partners and are another sign he may be seeing someone else. 9. He Protects Friends Who Cheat You are the company you keep rings true in this case. If you man protects his friends who cheat by lying for them and helping them with cover stories, chases are they are doing the same for him. 10. Gut Check No, you are not being paranoid, sometimes you just know. If you feel it in your gut, it could very well be your man is straying from home. Don’t dismiss the smell of perfume on his jacket, the mysterious phone calls to your home or the sudden late hours at the office. Singles & Dating 2011-04-18T13:41:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/love_for_sale_kgbdeals_offers_matt_titus_dating_advice_at_a_great_discount/askmteditor http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/love_for_sale_kgbdeals_offers_matt_titus_dating_advice_at_a_great_discount/askmteditor#When:13:38:00Z Our co-founder Matt Titus, is teaming with Kgbdeals.com to offer you an amazing discount on his acclaimed dating and relationship advice. What sets Matt apart is the fact he delivers relationship advice from the perspective of a man who played the field, learned from his mistakes and was given a second chance at love. For the next FIVE DAYS you can get yourself a 45-minute one-on-one coaching session with, Matt. Our resident love guru usually charges $200 for these sessions, but he is offering them on Kgbdeals.com for $39. The deal is only available for FIVE MORE DAYS, but you can schedule your appointment anytime in the next six months. To get in on the fun before it's too late just CLICK HERE! Matt is the founder of The Love Consultants, a matchmaking, dating coach and relationship coaching service that works with men and women to help them find their perfect match. Kgbdeals is brought to you by the people who brought you a smarter way to get answers, phone numbers, and more—kgb. They have created a new way to enjoy shopping and take advantage of imaginative offers saving you 50-90% on all the things you loves to do, eat, wear and enjoy in your city. Love & Relationships 2011-04-18T13:38:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/titus_on_top_5_bedroom_moves_at_betty_confidential/Matt Titus http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/titus_on_top_5_bedroom_moves_at_betty_confidential/Matt Titus#When:13:37:00Z Our very own Matt Titus was invited by our friends over at BettyConfidential.com to reveal the sexual secrets of the boy's club! Take a sneak peek below: Before I give the female gender complete control over all of mankind, I must also provide a disclaimer regarding the potential power and influence the below secrets of the bedroom may give you. The purpose of this information is to have men become physically addicted to you. After reading this, you may make your man believe that you are like no other woman sexually on the face of this earth. Your sexual prowess just may make him open his heart and emotionally attach to you like glue if he hasn’t already. So, consider yourself warned. Here are the bedroom moves that will rock his world: 1. Connect through oral sex. The biggest turn-on is when a woman lets her guy know that she loves it, too. Telling him how much you like it when he watches you in action is an amazing turn-on. Looking him directly in the eye as you do it is another. Guys love it when you show the craving to please them. 2. Don’t underestimate doggy style. It’s totally hot. When a woman takes control in that position, it becomes nuclear hot. Try putting both your arms behind your back and crossing them, so he can grab your wrists and use them as leverage. It takes the position to a whole new level. To read the rest of the column over at BettyConfidential.com click here. Selected by Forbes.com as one of the “Top 100 Websites for Women” and also the winner of the min 2010 Editorial Excellence Award, BettyConfidential.com is a leading online women’s magazine with original content for women. The brainchild of Desha Productions Inc., a media production company creating and developing Internet properties specializing in women, pop culture, and politics. “Betty” is your go-to-girl for up‐to-the‐minute celebrity news, style and beauty tips, relationship advice, and healthy living and family life. She’s your best friend and confidant. Savvy, sexy and stylish, Betty loves to dish—especially with other like‐minded women in their 20s, 30s and 40s. BettyConfidential.com includes provocative polls and surveys, daily dishy updates, and celebrity insight from the ever-snarky Mean Betty, adding to our entertaining, irreverent and informative content. Launched in March 2008, BettyConfidential.com is recognized as one of the fastest-growing women’s web sites, and is considered a leading, trusted source among media professionals for original content. Sex 2011-04-18T13:37:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/how_to_work_out_your_abdominals/Becky Wenner http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/how_to_work_out_your_abdominals/Becky Wenner#When:12:50:00Z Is it beneficial to work your abdominals on a daily basis? NO! Your abdominals are a muscle and need time to rest and recover in between workouts! You should always give each muscle group at least 48 hours of rest between workouts; and if you’re really training them hard, I actually recommend 72 hours rest for maximum recovery. If your goal is to reveal your 6 pack of ab muscles then you really need to focus on decreasing your body fat levels to the point where the top layer of fat on your stomach is diminished! Increase your cardio, pay close attention to your nutritional intake and THEN focus on strength training. Everyone has beautiful abdominal muscles; it is just the layer of fat around your core that prevents them from being revealed. Be sure you work the abdominal muscles 2 times weekly, giving them plenty of time to rest, increase your cardio to ensure proper fat burn and keep a meticulous food journal! My favorite FREE online food journal is www.sparkpeople.com You can check out my blog for more extensive readings on this topic: www.BeckysFitnessBlog.com.   Style, Diet & Fitness 2011-04-18T12:50:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/why_hasnt_he_committed/askmteditor http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/why_hasnt_he_committed/askmteditor#When:12:48:00Z He is cute. He is smart. And, his family loves you. He’s had his share of arm candy, crazies and bubbleheads, and according to you, your girlfriends and your gay entourage he should be ready for the “M” word. It’s a great theory, but doesn’t always equate when it comes to the male mind. There are a few reasons that men won’t commit. Admittedly, the reasons are not always easy to hear, but they are definitely important to know when you are out there trying to navigate the crazy and confusing world of men. Reasons SOME men won’t commit: The Grass Is Always Greener. This is harsh, and the answer is a blameless one. Some men believe it’s genetically unnatural to commit. Men have a subconscious instinctive desire to sleep with as many women as possible in order to propagate the species. The men, who continue to exhibit this behavior, have not been socialized into a monogamous way of thinking. Sex ISN’T Enough. Great physical chemistry with a woman does not command monogamous behavior from a guy. Great sex, attraction and desire are NOT the ties that bind a man to a woman. In fact, these qualities only open the door for a short time. If a man is not ready, he will tire of the same woman physically no matter how potent her beauty is. Three elements that DO keep a man interested: independence, a woman’s ability to maintain her identity and a woman who is never too available in the beginning. He's Indecisive. Contrary to popular belief, men are NOT great decision makers. As a matter of fact, when it comes to the opposite sex they are almost incapable of a permanent decision. Many men believe there is something or someone just around the corner, who may be better than who they are dating. How Men Think 2011-04-18T12:48:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/from_speed_dating_to_speed_hating/pharyl weiner http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/from_speed_dating_to_speed_hating/pharyl weiner#When:10:37:00Z Our writier explains it all when it comes to the sometimes scary world of speed dating! "In three minutes, you can cook an egg, ruin a diet with a Frosty and fries, or ruin your chances of being asked on a date." A speed date is an audition for a first date. Make one bad joke, say inappropriate comment, or disclose a self-deprecating quirk, and your chances of being asked out disappear like Prada shoes on the sale rack. After taking away rotation time and brief introductions, you only have one hundred and sixty seconds to make a man believe you’re worth seeing again. It’s the most difficult elevator pitch you’ll ever have to give, for selling yourself during that brief period is less about what you say than it is about how you look saying it.  When a man stares at a woman crossing the street, he’s not looking at her personality. His decision to approach has nothing to do with her inner beauty or Political Science degree and everything to do with attraction – an attraction that he either does or doesn’t feel within the first thirty seconds of seeing her. This doesn’t change when a man walks through the doors of a speed dating event, which brings me to the first way women sabotage their speed dating success. Having an Underwhelming Appearance You’re in a room with women who are all fighting over the same men – wear something that makes you look hot! Put on eyeliner, apply two coats of mascara, make sure your lips look kissably smooth, and spit out your gum. Speed dating is entirely about first impressions, so flaunt your curves, show a little skin, and dress like you actually want some attention. If you don’t arouse his interest visually, it doesn’t matter what’s coming out of your mouth because he’s already decided you’re not getting a date. Let’s say the hypothetical you knows the power of appearances and shows up to the event in a slimming black dress…bravo. You’re awkwardly standing alone, so where’s the first place you head? The bar – your intoxication enabler for the evening. Of course you need something to calm your nerves, but watch your intake because the second way women blow their chances is by getting drunk. Intoxication Say no to Jack Daniels and Jim Beam when fear and awkwardness take over. Getting drunk is neither the answer, nor a good way to win over any man post-college. Glazed eyes and slurred words aren’t attractive, so allow yourself two drinks for the evening and combat excess thirst with seltzer and limes. I guarantee you can handle awkwardness in three-minute increments. Plus, you need to maintain a level of mental capacity to decide which men you’re into and which you’d rather chew off your pinky than date. Without your liquor boost, it may be hard to generate conversation, but push through. Men want to date charming and engaging women not mutes, so try hard to fight silence since it easily turns off men. Silence If you’re a shy person or one who gets nervous easily, prepare a mental list of topics that you’d be willing to talk about before getting to the event. In the face of silence, bring up a topic from your list and keep the conversation flowing. When you’re going to spend hours with someone, you can be shy and talk less, but when you only have three minutes to impress someone, there’s no time to be coy. If you can’t have a three-minute conversation with a man, he’s going to think your first date will resemble a silent film and won’t ask you out. Make sure you talk enough for the man to see you’re intelligent and interested, but stop yourself from dominating the conversation. The only thing worse for a man than sitting in silence is hearing a woman talk about herself for three-minutes straight. Over-Talking Give men the illusion that you’re interested in what they have to say – it makes them feel valued, important, and attracted to you. The quickest way to shoot down a man’s libido is make him seem completely unnecessary, and having a conversation with yourself is an easy way to do this. To even out speaking time, alternate asking each other questions. Regulating the number of questions you get to ask will assure he gets sufficient time to speak and dazzle you with his answers. Remember, you need to determine if he’s a good match for you too. Talking the perfect amount won’t matter in the least if you don’t make the conversation interesting. There are only so many times in one night someone can answer the questions, “what do you do?” and “where are you from?” Men don’t want to date women that bore them to death, so a man won’t pick you unless he’s intrigued by you. Dullness There’s no excuse for not being able to stimulate a man’s mental muscles for such a limited time. Men undoubtedly like at least two the following - sports, video games, eating, music, and reading – phase them into your conversation. Bringing up topics that peak a man’s interest will make him want to talk with you longer than the allotted time, and therefore, make you stand out from the group. Ask him about his favorite neighborhood restaurant, and you may find yourself laughing over calamari when he takes you there on your first date. Although you only have three or so minutes with each man, your actions affect what he thinks of you. Choose your outfit wisely, say no to the booze, and watch what you say. Your love life is in your hands, for if you don’t follow these guidelines, the sound of the bell will mean the end of your budding relationship with speed dater #7.   Singles & Dating 2011-04-15T10:37:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/5_questions_no_man_wants_to_hear_in_the_first_3_months/Matt Titus http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/5_questions_no_man_wants_to_hear_in_the_first_3_months/Matt Titus#When:10:35:01Z Where do we stand? The Reason: It makes you look desperate. Men love a challenge and despite what they say, think, or how they act, they don't want you to define the relationship. Let him take the lead now or he never will. Do you ever think about your ex-girlfriend? The Reason: This shows a man that you are not secure with yourself. Even on those days that your zit is huge, your clothes are too snug, and your hair is filled with frizz; you must act like a "Bond Girl." It is the difference between making a man fall in like or in love. Do you want to have kids? The Reason: Again, it's about control. The man wants to take the lead. Let him coo-coo over the baby in the grocery store. You will have plenty of time to let him know that you have already named your three future children. Take the first three months to let him say the D-word (Daddy) first. Am I fat? The Reason: If he didn't like they way you looked, he would not have met you: bottom line! Don't point out your flaws to him or give him a reason to find any imperfections. To him you are timeless and flawless-- make sure you stay that way. Does your mother like me? (even worse, can I meet your parents?) The Reason: His mother is the other woman in his life. Let him decide when it is the right time for you to meet her. He may want to make sure SHE is ready to meet you. You are the woman who may take her little boy away from her. This is a big step, let him take it at his pace. How Men Think 2011-04-15T10:35:01-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/eating_out/karenkelly http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/eating_out/karenkelly#When:10:35:00Z Is it possible to enjoy dining out without busting out of your Chloé red patent leather mini skirt?   Yes, you can indulge in the pleasures of the table and stick to your healthy eating plan, avoid feeling “stuffed,” and savor the flavors of a finely prepared meal if you follow these simple tricks: 1. Pre plan: Decide what you want before you get to the restaurant. All eateries, even the finest establishments in New York and LA, post their menus online. Knowing what you plan on ordering before you get to the restaurant keeps you from being tempted by “menu reading” once you are there. In fact, wave the menu away and tell your service person you know what you will be having. That way there’s no chance you’ll add on extra appetizers or give in to a fat-laden dish. 2. Get the fat out: While you’re perusing the menu, stick to items with “grilled” “broiled” or “roasted” in the title – “fried”, “pan fried” and “sautéed” often signal the heavy use of oil and butter. 3. Small indulgences: Appetizers at high end restaurants are often very small – this is your chance to order something special, like a caviar beggar’s purse, or duck salad, without getting too many calories. Share your started with your date – and cut calories in half. Feeding each other is fun and sets a certain mood… 4. “Start” your main course: Consider ordering two appetizers as your main course. Smaller portions mean smaller calories. A note, however: avoid appetizers at chain restaurants – they tend to be large and high fat. 5. Enjoy every bite: Don’t ignore your companion, of course. But do savor your food. Be conscious of every mouthful and eat slowly. You’ll feel more satisfied. 6. Banish the basket: Pass on the bread – by the time you’ve scarfed down a few slices you might not feel hungry – but believe me you’ll eat your dinner when it comes anyway. 7. Curb the cocktails: Order sparkling water with lemon or lime as soon as you sit down and sip on it as if it was a calorie-heavy alcoholic cocktail. Request that your glass of wine, if you are having one, be brought with the main course. If you have wine before dinner chances are you’ll have a couple more throughout the meal – piling on several hundred calories. The same theory goes for ordering a whole bottle – because you and your date will most likely drink the whole thing. 8. Take a bite: You can have your cake and eat it too if you make it one forkful. Order the chocolate torte, take a bite and push it away. Let the gelato melt after the first spoonful. 9. Cap it off with basic black: Whether you’re info full octane Joe or decaf skip the cappuccino and order espresso or black coffee to end your meal. 10. Walk it off: No time like right after dinner for a romantic stroll – and you might burn a few calories. Style, Diet & Fitness 2011-04-15T10:35:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/should_you_meddle_in_your_mans_family_life_like_khloe_kardashian_did_with_l/Matt Titus http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/should_you_meddle_in_your_mans_family_life_like_khloe_kardashian_did_with_l/Matt Titus#When:05:19:00Z The Love Consultants, professional matchmaker and dating coach Matt Titus and his wife, author and media personality Tamsen Fadal — take on whether you should get involved with your partner’s family drama, like Khloe Kardashian did with Lamar Odom and his dad! The season premiere of Khloe and Lamar dealt with a very sensitive topic. Lamar Odom has been estranged from his father for years but Khloe Kardashian felt the need to try to get them to work things out. This caused a huge fight! HollywoodLife.com asked The Love Consultants, Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal, to weigh in — is it ever worth it for couples to get so involved with their partner’s family life? Matt’s Take:  If you want relationship disaster, jump into the middle of a dispute between your significant other and their family! Great thinking Khloe — why don’t you tell Lamar how to play basketball, too! There is no way that Khloe can understand the intricate family dynamic between Lamar and his father. Family conflict never breeds rational thinking or logical reactions. It’s usually filled with knee-jerk emotional responses, coupled with intensified and judgmental views. In-laws are looked upon as “outsiders” and have absolutely no place in what often turns out to be a no-win conflict between estranged family members! Khloe should be more of a passive observer. That means she can help Lamar with his relationship with his father, Joe Odom – but only if and when he asks for her help! She should be respectful of the relationship Lamar has with his father, no matter how dysfunctional it may be. Because she has NO PLACE in it! Khloe can’t possibly empathize with Lamar regarding the abandonment he feels he experienced when his father left him as a child to pursue what appears to be a career in drug abuse. And here’s why: Khloe came from a loving and supportive family that always had her best interest at heart. So how can she possibly relate to Lamar’s dicey — and painful — situation? Tamsen’s Take: Khloe really cares about her husband. Her advice about her father-in-law comes from a place of good intentions and caring. Khloe loves Lamar and just wants him to be happy. If she can help repair Lamar’s relationship with his father, it would make her feel like she is bringing an element of family back to Lamar’s life. That’s what good spouses try to do. I think marriage is about completing your partner’s life in every way — especially if it has to do with helping the one you love heal old and deep family wounds. I love the fact that she cares enough about Lamar to assist him in repairing his relationship with his father. It’s never too late to offer help that could repair a family connection, especially one as important as the relationship with a parent. Lamar’s dad is in a totally different place than when Lamar was a child. It looks like he deserves a chance at a new relationship with his son. Khloe can and should help Lamar see his father as a different person — someone who has suffered and genuinely wants to form a bond with his son. Go for it Khloe!! The Love Consultants On Hollywood Life More LOVE Advice From The Love Consultants Right Here! Can Scarlett Johansson and Sean Penn Make It As A Rebounding Couple? Check Out The Love Connection Website! Will Dating Multiple Men Like Ashley Greene Is Make Your Man Jealous? How Men Think, Why Hasnt He 2011-04-12T05:19:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/sonia_kashuk_celebrity_makeup_artist/Tamsen Fadal http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/sonia_kashuk_celebrity_makeup_artist/Tamsen Fadal#When:05:08:00Z I had the opportunity to interview make-up artist and entrepreneur, Sonia Kashuk. Sonia is a unique talent with a can do spirit, unafraid to blaze her own trail. A trail has led her to fulfilling her dreams partnering with Target to create the Sonia Kasuk beauty brand. Here is my interview from PIX 11. For more information, visit www.soniakashuk.com M&T Faves, "It" Girl Spotlight 2011-04-12T05:08:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/matt_and_tamsen_discuss_courtney_cox_romancing_jennifer_anistons_ex_over_at/askmteditor http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/matt_and_tamsen_discuss_courtney_cox_romancing_jennifer_anistons_ex_over_at/askmteditor#When:12:52:01Z Courteney Cox looks like she’s dating her Cougar Town co-star Josh Hopkins but there’s one catch — he used to go out with her bestie Jennifer Aniston. HollywoodLife.com asked our very own Love Consultants, Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal, to weigh in on how big a blow top their friendship this might be! Here's a sneak peek of their article over at HollywoodLife.com; Matt's Take: Even though some folks insist that Courtney’s “strictly platonic” vacation in St. Bart’s with Josh is exactly that, I don’t buy it. These two look like they’re an item — and having a blast. And I say good for her! She’s a beautiful woman, recently separated from wildman/boy David Arquette. Why shouldn’t she enjoy herself? The interesting aspect of Courtney’s little getaway with Josh is that he dated her famous BFF Jen! Things didn’t work out for Josh and Jen. Word is he wasn’t really that into her! So he’s now spending time with Courtney. Will that make things weird between the two former Friends co-stars? Is it OK to date your best friend’s ex? My answer is simple — yes you can! Tamsen's Take: Courtney and Josh seemed to have a hard time keeping their clothes on around each other while on vacation in St. Bart’s. So it’s safe to say they are definitely more than platonic co-workers. They look like two people who are enjoying a budding romance. The source of drama regarding their hanging out is Josh’s past romantic history with Courtney’s best bud Jen, who dated the Cougar Town hunk casually in May 2010 after meeting through — drum roll, please — Courtney! Wow, what’s a girl to do?! To read the full article on Hollywood Life click here! Hollywood Life is a multi-faceted entertainment brand. Hollywoodlife.com, the online destination, is the primary focus, complemented by a variety of premium award shows. The brand captures and celebrates the essence of celebrity "Hollywood" lifestyle – news, beauty, fashion, gossip and culture. Bonnie Fuller leads the HollywoodLife.com team. She is President and Editor in Chief and an industry-leading media executive and magazine innovator with an unparalleled track record of success in transforming brands and publications, such as Us Weekly, Shape, Cosmopolitan, Glamour, and Star magazine. Love & Relationships 2011-04-07T12:52:01-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/tips_to_online_dating1/Matt Titus http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/tips_to_online_dating1/Matt Titus#When:12:20:00Z As I date coach, I know online dating can be extremely overwhelming for a lot of my clients. I decided to devise a fool-proof online dating formula that is both efficient and fun, and dramatically increases your chances of having Mr. or Miss Right magically appear on your computer screen. Here's how it works: Say Cheese Unless you are a professional photographer, make the investment to have your pictures done in a studio with an expert. Lighting can make or break all of us, so an in studio light controlled environment will make you look your best. Unfortunately when we date on-line first visual impression means a whole lot, so spend the money! Stay In The Present Oh, and speaking of pictures, please, oh please, take a present-day one! So much misrepresentation occurs online, especially with regards to appearance. I have no idea why online daters do this-- don’t they realize that in the very near future they are actually going to be meeting the person that they correspond with? When someone posts a picture that is 10 years old and they show up to a first date looking that much older, it is not a good thing. Keep It Simple When writing your online profile, please don’t write an online biography! Learn to speak in sound bites. Sound bites, for all of you non-media savvy people, are short sentences that quickly, effectively, and memorably summarize what you are trying to say. A long, drawn out profile will only make you look egotistical. Plus, it’s a great idea to save all of these special facts for a face to face meeting. Lost In Translation Don’t spend a lot of time using the instant messenger feature on these dating sites for deep meaningful conversation. A lot of online daters come down with a touch of what I like to call "Artificial Confidence." This is when the user develops an overpowering sense of confidence, high self esteem and quick witted humor. This comes from the fact that it is a heck of a lot easier to be courageous, risqué and fun when you’re sitting behind your keyboard in the comfort of your own home. The big challenge is to see if your potential love interest can keep up his Don Juan rhetoric in person. The Seven Day Rule Here is the most important rule of all, Try to meet everyone you start corresponding online with within 7 days. A lot of people online who masquerade as love seekers are only online to get their ego’s stroked through cyber-flirting with no intention of sitting face to face with the person they are corresponding with. The “cyber-affair” is empty and ultimately a big waste of time. Up Close And Personal Arrange all of your online first face to face dates during the day at comfortable coffee shops that are close to your home. Plan to take a weekend and meet all of your love prospects on Saturday and Sunday afternoon of the same weekend. Schedule accordingly with 20 minute travel time between meeting places. Do not spend more than 45 minutes getting to know them. You will look like you have a life if you don’t sit there all afternoon. Meeting someone in person will give you a concrete idea of who you should pursue and who you should dismiss. Singles & Dating, Online Dating 2011-04-07T12:20:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/should_you_live_together/askmteditor http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/should_you_live_together/askmteditor#When:12:19:00Z Couples these days move in together for all sorts of reasons. Some do it to save money, others do it because they hope it will lead to marriage and still others just find it a lot easier than going back and forth between two places. But, as many couples are finding out, living together may not just mean a few cool trips to Bed, Bath and Beyond. Instead, we have some sobering stats to share with you. •After 5 to 7 years , 21 percent of cohabitating couples have yet to marry •The likelihood of a first marriage ending in divorce after five years is 20 percent •The likelihood of a couple breaking up after cohabitating for five years is 49 percent Gulp. Now what? Well, according to the book, Why Hasn't He Proposed? by husband / wife team, Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal, there are three key ways living together put a big damper on your wedding plans. 1. The woman assumes his wanting to live with her means he eventually wants to marry her 2. A couple decides to live together first to test it out before actually getting married 3.Cohabitation complacency sets in Make sure it doesn't happen to you. If you plan to live with someone do it for the right reasons, and don't pretend you don't know them. If you are simply doing it to save a few bucks or because it's easy, you better grabs your nearest broker and starting apartment hunting. Love & Relationships 2011-04-07T12:19:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/sealing_the_deal_the_love_mentors_guide_to_lasting_love/askmteditor http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/sealing_the_deal_the_love_mentors_guide_to_lasting_love/askmteditor#When:11:13:00Z Love expert, media psychologist and bestselling author, Diana Kirschner Ph.D, is the savior of singles everywhere as she guides them on the journey to find their dream relationships. Her newest book is a true hit and a must buy for love seeking people everywhere! Through her bestseller, Love in 90 Days, Dr. Diana Kirschner helped thousands of women find true love. Now she has written the perfect follow-up: Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor's Guide to Lasting Love, a unique guide to deepen any love relationship, to move from casual to committed, and ultimately to go from the anxiety of not knowing where things are going...to the security of fulfilling and lasting love.  Dr. Diana’s new acclaimed relationship advice book, Sealing the Deal, asks: What if it were possible to transform a painful relationship and the anxiety of an unknown romantic future into a committed and “forever” love? To feel chosen, secure and appreciated by The One you really want? To deepen any relationship—even if you have been dating two months, on & off for 10 years, or in any relationship where you feel uncertain, tense, or afraid that it is ending. Even if your partner has cheated. Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor’s Guide to Lasting Love shows you exactly how to do just that and create a loving, lasting relationship–your very own happiest-ever-after. Fourteen top self-help and relationship experts, from renowned physician, Dr. Christiane Northrup to bestselling author, John Gray, to relationship maven Arielle Ford agree, in their rave advance reviews. In Sealing the Deal, Dr. Diana reveals her unique Love Mentor program for any woman to create a fulfilling relationship that lasts. It includes sections on : how to get a great guy you are dating casually to COMMIT to you exclusively; what to do if you are in love with a man who is scared and may be a commitmentphobe; how to proceed if you feel uncertain, nervous and insecure in a new relationship because you just don’t know where things are heading; and how to free yourself from a relationship that disappoints you and causes PAINFUL heartbreak. Love Mentor Dr. Diana offers revolutionary advice for finding-and keeping-the one you love:  Create irresistible attraction and an atmosphere that men love to be around. Find out the single most important thing you can do to get a sincere commitment from the guy you want. Keep that crazy-in-love feeling going, no matter how long you've been together. Learn the secret to instantly resolving conflict with your man.  Know when to have "the talk": Don't think it matters when you bring it up? Think again. Avoid the biggest mistake women make when he's "not ready" for a commitment. Get your relationship back and better than ever, even if he has cheated. Plus special sections reveal: hidden beliefs about love that actually undermine your relationship and how to get rid of these toxic beliefs; how you can create irresistible attraction and an atmosphere that men love to be around; the secret to instantly resolving conflict with men; the most common commitment fears guys have; how to tell if you are settling or if he’s really the One—your true soul mate; and much more. If you have love problems, Dr. Diana has the solutions. This book is your key to creating your own happiest-ever-after now. For more than 25 years, Dr. Diana Kirschner helped thousands of singles, couples and families to create love, success and harmony in their lives. Dr. Diana also ran the Institute for Comprehensive Family Therapy, a nationally-recognized post-graduate center devoted to training psychiatrists, psychologists and therapists all over the world in a unique approach which combined individual, couple and family therapy. As part of that training she did “live” breakthrough sessions with singles, couples and families who were stuck at an impasse in therapy—showing how to resolve the most difficult relationship, family and work issues in front of large audiences of mental health professionals. Visit LoveIn90days.com for Dr. Diana’s blog, dating and relationship articles and daily affirmations. For more information on Dr. Diana visit, www.dianakirschner.com. To order Sealing the Deal click here! M&T Faves, M&T Bookbag 2011-04-05T11:13:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/beckys_quick_healthy_breakfast_mixed_berry_quinoa/Becky Wenner http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/beckys_quick_healthy_breakfast_mixed_berry_quinoa/Becky Wenner#When:11:12:00Z It is well established that breakfast is the most important meal of the day. It gets your metabolism rocking, gives you energy to work, play, exercise and live! Beware though – studies have shown that BIG breakfasts can actually lead to weight gain. So, to help you navigate through all the helpful but seemingly conflicting advice, I am passing along one of my favorite breakfast recipes. Absolutely, you need to eat first thing in the morning, but make sure to keep to the principles of clean eating, portion control and most important – enjoy the food and make it YUMMY! As you all know, being healthy and fit is a lifestyle. Eating good clean foods, exercising and being happy requires a commitment on your behalf. In order to be successful you must plan and prepare. Join me in cooking this awesome breakfast. I will teach you how to prepare my Mixed Berry Breakfast Quinoa in just minutes with enough leftovers to eat for a few days. My method of food preparation allows for several servings of food – so it can easily be broken into portions, stored and used for several meals. This advanced meal planning technique helps you eat healthy in a jiffy! What’s more is, I live by the MANTRA – eat only those foods you find YUMMY! So all of my quick healthy meals are scrumptious! RECIPE: BECKY’S MIXED BERRY QUINOA 1 Cup Dry Quinoa 2 Cups Water 1 Tbs Cinnamon 1 tsp Vanilla Extract 1 bag defrosted mixed berries No sugar added – but reserve the water from defrosting Prepare Quinoa according to package instructions, adding Cinnamon and Vanilla After Quinoa is fully cooked – remove from flame and add mixed berries and juice from defrosting; stir Serve with Unsweetened Almond Milk or Soy Milk and Splenda or Stevia if that is your taste preference.   For more fab advice visit, www.WorkoutwithBecky.com.   As always, Stay Focused Until the Miracle Happpens! Becky Style, Diet & Fitness 2011-04-05T11:12:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/matt_titus_and_tamsen_fadal_chat_justin_selena_on_hollywood_life/askmteditor http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/matt_titus_and_tamsen_fadal_chat_justin_selena_on_hollywood_life/askmteditor#When:10:29:00Z HollywoodLife.com invited our very own Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal, give their inside take on teen sensations Selena Gomez and Justin Bieber budding romance! Here's a sneak peek of their article over at HollywoodLife.com; Matt's Take:  Selena and Justin are dating — after weeks of playing coy, the couple finally admitted their romance is for real. Of course from the standpoint of a relationship expert, I can’t put much credence into the notion that teenage dating has any weight or depth, especially between two megastars. It seems like Justin still has trouble keeping his pants off the ground. How is he able to navigate a meaningful relationship? These two teen idols have to pull it back, concentrate on being young and free. Any serious type of relationship can narrow a young adult’s interests, emotional growth and involvement with others. This would just make things tougher. Here’s my advice for Justin and Selena — keep your budding romance duet-free! Tamsen's Take:  For two people as famous as Selena and Justin, it is nearly impossible to completely separate their work and personal lives. But the level of fame that fuels them also bonds them. Their lives are not normal. They have managers, agents, entire teams of people guiding the way. If they did work together and record a song, it’s not like they would just stumble into the studio together. They’d have a huge level of support in making it happen. As I tell all my clients who are thinking of joining forces on a business or partnership: You must have understanding, passion, commitment, flexibility — and lots of patience! If Justin and Selena can embrace all of the elements they needed to develop, then I say go for it, you two! Go ahead, knock out a hit song — I’m sure that all your many fans will agree! To read the full article on Hollywood Life click here! Hollywood Life is a multi-faceted entertainment brand. Hollywoodlife.com, the online destination, is the primary focus, complemented by a variety of premium award shows. The brand captures and celebrates the essence of celebrity "Hollywood" lifestyle – news, beauty, fashion, gossip and culture. Bonnie Fuller leads the HollywoodLife.com team. She is President and Editor in Chief and an industry-leading media executive and magazine innovator with an unparalleled track record of success in transforming brands and publications, such as Us Weekly, Shape, Cosmopolitan, Glamour, and Star magazine. Love & Relationships 2011-04-05T10:29:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/how_do_you_stay_motivated/Becky Wenner http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/how_do_you_stay_motivated/Becky Wenner#When:10:11:00Z Q: How do you stay motivated and what do you suggest I do to keep up my motivation for exercise and proper diet? I want to keep it healthy in 2011! A: Physical Fitness and proper nutrition boil down to more than the ability to exercise and eat right. The most important component that is often over looked is the MENTAL strength and stamina required to maintain the motivation to continue exercising day after day and to eat right. I often lecture on how to build mental strength; the first step in developing it is acknowledging your need for it, and then seeking to achieve it. This is why I advocate taking small steps when embarking on any new life change. It will help you build the physical AND mental strength to reorganize your life, and consistently challenge yourself daily. Mind over Body- your BODY WILL OBEY any command your MIND gives it. Try it now- tell yourself to lift your left arm above your head. You get the idea. If you fail to keep up with your workouts or proper eating, it is because you need to strengthen your MIND to develop the discipline and motivation to be consistent! To help myself stay on track – I find taking photos of my body gives me the mental push I need to stay motivated. One of two things always happens when I see pictures of myself: I either get disappointed and hit the gym to fix the problems I see OR I get happy and get motivated to push on to maintain the results I see! You can check out my blog for more extensive readings on this topic: www.BeckysFItnessBlog.com. Style, Diet & Fitness 2011-03-31T10:11:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/matt_titus_and_tamsen_fadal_talk_brad_emily_at_hollywood_life/askmteditor http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/matt_titus_and_tamsen_fadal_talk_brad_emily_at_hollywood_life/askmteditor#When:09:47:00Z HollywoodLife.com invited our very own Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal, give their inside take on The Bachelor's Brad and Emily. They're on the same page when it comes to introducing Brad to Emily's young daughter Ricki! Here's a sneak peek of their article over at HollywoodLife.com; Matt's Take: When The Bachelor finale ended, Brad Womack and his “choice” for a true love, Emily Maynard asked for privacy to build their new relationship yet they are now parading their every move in the glare of the public eye. What changed the minds of these two once secretive lovebirds? Why are Brad and Emily suddenly so open about their romance? The latest news is that Emily is getting ready to make the big move and planning to uproot her life, which includes her 5-year-old daughter, Ricki, and she’ll journey to Austin to be with Brad. Once again it seems to me like they aren’t putting too much thought about the child’s feelings in all of this frantic push for more exposure! Tamsen's Take: Millions of viewers tuned in to see Brad Womack get down on one knee and propose to single mom Emily Maynard in a South African vineyard .It was totally a fairy tale come true, but now, after the credits have rolled, it’s real life, are they adjusting to that fact? I’m not so sure, because every day I hear something else that raises a big red flag to expose just how haphazard this romance is progressing. Word is Emily Maynard is heading to Austin, Texas to be closer to her Bachelor mate, Brad Womack That’s not necessarily a bad thing, but uprooting her daughter Emily to do it, is in my book. To read the full article on Hollywood Life click here! Hollywood Life is a multi-faceted entertainment brand. Hollywoodlife.com, the online destination, is the primary focus, complemented by a variety of premium award shows. The brand captures and celebrates the essence of celebrity "Hollywood" lifestyle – news, beauty, fashion, gossip and culture. Bonnie Fuller leads the HollywoodLife.com team. She is President and Editor in Chief and an industry-leading media executive and magazine innovator with an unparalleled track record of success in transforming brands and publications, such as Us Weekly, Shape, Cosmopolitan, Glamour, and Star magazine. Love & Relationships 2011-03-31T09:47:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/30_days_of_datescovery_weekend_extra_what_really_turns_a_mans_head/Matt Titus http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/30_days_of_datescovery_weekend_extra_what_really_turns_a_mans_head/Matt Titus#When:01:11:00Z Are you a "uber-romantic" girl who goes crazy after just one date? Do you find it impossible to stop contacting him after just one phone call? Is there no limit to your text messages once you've met the guy you believe is THE ONE? It's time all the single girls out there gain some edge in the game of love and The Love Consultants are here to help! Look no further for honest advice from the people who truly know about LOVE. Advice that will help you to stop worrying and start being confident about your dating life With our "30 Days of Datescovery" series of daily tips you'll gain fun and fabulous insight that will be sure to supercharge your dating prospects and increase your chances of finding your perfect match! 30 Days of Datescovery - Weekend Extra! Day "31" Inside Info: What Really Turns A Man's Head.  Men don’t talk. Let us rephrase that, MOST men don’t talk and that is why women are often times confused about what is going on in our heads. Here are a few fun facts about Mr. Right, Mr. Right Now or the man you have had your eyes on who lives across the hall. 1. You are an independent woman, not a clinger. Men love it when you include them in your life, but do not make them your life. Keep your gym routine, your friends, and your family and make sure you never let him see you sweat if he can’t make it. Your life goes on with or without him; and if you act like this, you will never be without him! 2. You are sexy, hot, but not slutty. That’s right, men like it when you turn the head of every guy in the room, as long as you are on his arm and let everyone know it. Don’t ever flirt with his guy friends, and always make sure you let him know he’s the apple of your eye. 3. You remember to do the little things, just like you did in the beginning. You don’t expect him to take you out to dinner every night; a home cooked meal is always a nice surprise. You surprise him with his favorite Starbucks drink when he gets up in the morning. And, you never, ever forget those special occasions: Superbowl Sunday, NCCA Final Four and the NBA finals! 4. You let him pursue you. The Geico commercials have it right, there are still cavemen out there and they love the hunt. That means: don’t call him first, don’t text and don’t try to find where he is going to be. If he wants to see you, nothing will stand in his way…nothing. 5. You never utter the words “where is this going?” We call those “The Final Four.” Enough said. Let him dictate the pace of the relationship, if you don’t, you will forever be asking that question. 6. You demand respect. This is not just for your guy...it is also for yourself. That means you don’t sleep with a man on the first date, or even the second. You wait until you know the time is right. And if he is the right kind of guy, he will wait too. 7. You impose a two-drink maximum on yourself when you go out. No man likes a sloppy drunk party girl. Those girls are fun to play with, not to stay with. 8. You never humiliate him in front of friends, family or co-workers. Ever been standing between the couple that likes to throw cutting remarks at one another. It’s not only uncomfortable for third parties, it’s damaging all around. Avoid being those people, be loving, kind and never try to degrade a man for a cheap laugh. 9. Watch your language. That’s means let him take the lead when it comes to words like: puppies, babies and marriage. Take those words out of your vocabulary, at least until you are wearing the ring. 10. You say yes. That’s right, the sex doesn’t go away once you get the guy. There is nothing more frustrating to a man than a woman who is sexual in the beginning, and then uses it as a weapon. Make sure you don’t play games. Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal are a real couple offering real relationship advice. This husband and wife team hosted Lifetime's “Matched in Manhattan” series and together co-authored the popular dating guides, "Why Hasn't He Called?" and "Why Hasn't He Proposed?". The two are also frequent guests on "The Wendy Williams Show", "The Tyra Banks Show", NBC, CBS, "The Martha Stewart Show," among many others. Matt is the founder of Matt's Little Black Book, a relationship and date coaching service. Tamsen is an Emmy-Award winning TV journalist and lifestyle expert. Together, they offer a wealth of authentic advice to men and women looking for love. Singles & Dating 2011-03-31T01:11:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/ulta_the_ultimate_beauty_resource/askmteditor http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/ulta_the_ultimate_beauty_resource/askmteditor#When:14:47:00Z ULTA Beauty offers customers prestige & mass cosmetics, makeup, fragrance, skincare, bath & body, haircare tools & salon. ULTA was founded in 1990 as a discount beauty retailer at a time when prestige, mass and salon products were sold through distinct channels—department stores for prestige products, drug stores and mass merchandisers for mass products, and salons and authorized retail outlets for professional hair care products. In December 1999, ULTA embarked on a multi-year strategy to transform the company into the shopping experience that it is today. Based upon consumer input and feedback, ULTA pioneered what is a unique combination of beauty superstore and specialty store attributes. Today, ULTA is the largest beauty retailer that provides one-stop shopping for prestige, mass and salon products and salon services in the United States. ULTA focuses on providing affordable indulgence to their customers by combining the product breadth, value and convenience of a beauty superstore with the distinctive environment and experience of a specialty retailer. M&T Faves, M&T Must Haves 2011-03-30T14:47:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/30_days_of_datescovery_day_30/Matt Titus http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/30_days_of_datescovery_day_30/Matt Titus#When:00:59:00Z Are you a "uber-romantic" girl who goes crazy after just one date? Do you find it impossible to stop contacting him after just one phone call? Is there no limit to your text messages once you've met the guy you believe is THE ONE? It's time all the single girls out there gain some edge in the game of love and The Love Consultants are here to help! Look no further for honest advice from the people who truly know about LOVE. Advice that will help you to stop worrying and start being confident about your dating life With our "30 Days of Datescovery" series of daily tips you'll gain fun and fabulous insight that will be sure to supercharge your dating prospects and increase your chances of finding your perfect match! For the next 30 days we'll take you through the single gal's Dos and Don’ts of Dating. It's the real deal advice you'll really need for when you're hitting the sometimes scary dating scene or finally starting that search to find that special someone. Each day we'll reveal a new "secret" to help you succeed in your dating adventure. 30 Days of Datescovery - Day 30: Skip Drink Number Three! Don't drink to excess, there is nothing worse than a drunken gal on a first or second date. Keep your focus and sip instead of chugging dowen the merlot. No guy likes a lush, and no lady acts like one! Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal are a real couple offering real relationship advice. This husband and wife team hosted Lifetime's “Matched in Manhattan” series and together co-authored the popular dating guides, "Why Hasn't He Called?" and "Why Hasn't He Proposed?". The two are also frequent guests on "The Wendy Williams Show", "The Tyra Banks Show", NBC, CBS, "The Martha Stewart Show," among many others. Matt is the founder of Matt's Little Black Book, a relationship and date coaching service. Tamsen is an Emmy-Award winning TV journalist and lifestyle expert. Together, they offer a wealth of authentic advice to men and women looking for love. Singles & Dating 2011-03-30T00:59:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/matt_titus_and_tamsen_fadal_take_brad_emily_to_task_over_at_hollywood_life/askmteditor http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/matt_titus_and_tamsen_fadal_take_brad_emily_to_task_over_at_hollywood_life/askmteditor#When:11:37:00Z HollywoodLife.com invited our very own Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal, give their inside take on The Bachelor's Brad and Emily. They're on the same page when it comes to introducing Brad to Emily's young daughter Ricki! Here's a sneak peek of their article over at HollywoodLife.com; Matt's Take: Bachelor Brad Womack spent the weekend visiting his fiancee, Emily Maynard, and her daughter, Ricki, in Emily’s hometown of Charlotte, N.C. Brad kept busy with a steady stream of tweets about “his girls” and the amazing time they spent together — it seemed like there was about 100 messages. Hey dude, stop the insanity! To me it sounds like Brad is trying to convince himself that he’s really in love. Broadcasting every second of their weekend is not going to make that hope a reality. Even more distressing than the tweets are the photo-ops of the happy couple and little Ricki. I mean, have they no shame? Tamsen's Take: When it comes to Brad and Emily, I’m always a skeptic. I find it very hard to treat them like a serious, relationship-minded couple. The much-discussed and talked about couple haven’t exactly kept a low profile since the season finale of The Bachelor. Oh, of course they are quoted as saying they want privacy and private time to bond. But sending out endless Twitter updates and spending public play times in the park with Ricki would lead me to think otherwise. Introducing a new love interest to your young son or daughter is a very delicate situation and should not be done surrounded by the flashbulbs of the paparazzi. Privacy and patience is a must. This process demands that your child feels comfortable starting to befriend your new boyfriend or girlfriend slowly — and with a large amount of affection and trust. To read the full article on Hollywood Life click here! Hollywood Life is a multi-faceted entertainment brand. Hollywoodlife.com, the online destination, is the primary focus, complemented by a variety of premium award shows. The brand captures and celebrates the essence of celebrity "Hollywood" lifestyle – news, beauty, fashion, gossip and culture. Bonnie Fuller leads the HollywoodLife.com team. She is President and Editor in Chief and an industry-leading media executive and magazine innovator with an unparalleled track record of success in transforming brands and publications, such as Us Weekly, Shape, Cosmopolitan, Glamour, and Star magazine. Love & Relationships 2011-03-29T11:37:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/live_it_love_it_earn_it_a_womans_guide_to_financial_freedom/askmteditor http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/live_it_love_it_earn_it_a_womans_guide_to_financial_freedom/askmteditor#When:11:33:00Z Does your heart race when your credit card bill arrives? Are you one flat tire or one emergency room visit from financial ruin? If you think a secure financial future is out of reach, you're wrong. Let Marianna Olszewski teach you how to love your money instead of running scared from it. Marianna didn't start out rich, happy and fabulous. A strapped-for-cash childhood motivated her to strive for abundance and financial independence-goals she exceeded by age thirty as a successful business owner and respected Wall Street player. Now Marianna reveals the lessons she learned on her own road to success and the savvy strategies of other amazing women. She shows how to let go of stress, break your bad money habits, take control of your finances, and finally achieve your goals and a happier, richer life. You'll learn to: -Say Yes to Yourself: Turn toward people and situations that enhance your life and well being, and away from those that don't. Until you start affirming your future through both thought and action, your efforts to improve your finances will fall flat. -Fall in Love with Your Money: Having a cavalier attitude toward money is part of the reason many of us find ourselves in a financial pickle. But when you treat your money with respect, keep track of it and spend and save it wisely your money will always love you back. -Act as If: If you think that change is impossible, think again. Start your transformation by acting as if you already are as successful, intelligent, and prosperous as you want to be. Live It, Love It, Earn It is full of true stories of ordinary women who have overcome tough challenges, such as climbing the corporate ladder, getting out of debt, and changing jobs mid-career, to get the life you want. Marianna also shares insights from other successful women like designer Diane von Furstenberg; shoe mogul Tamara Mellon (of Jimmy Choo); fashion entrepreneur Tory Burch; the first woman to hold a seat on the New York Stock Exchange, Muriel Seibert; and Congresswoman Marsha Blackburn. Let Marianna give you the tools you need to create and maintain and abundant and fulfilling life. Considered one of the most respected women on Wall Street, Marianna earned her money the old fashioned way - with hard work. She began as a New Jersey teenager juggling three jobs and today manages a financial business while living her life to the fullest. A renowned motivational and financial speaker, Marianna regularly presents seminars for and delivers keynote addresses to women’s associations, universities, and national conferences. Marianna is founder and CEO of Madison Financial Management LLC a registered broker dealer and hedge fund marketing company. In a relatively short period of time and in her early thirties Marianna grew Madison into a multi-million dollar business. Prior to Madison, Marianna worked with a number of financial institutions, including IBM Pension Fund, Bloomberg Financial Markets and Paulson Partners LP. Marianna has an MBA in International Finance from Fordham University and a BS in Finance from Rutgers University. As part of her mission, Marianna is involved with many women’s causes and serves on the board of a number of charitable organizations. Marianna is involved with Dress for Success, Girl’s Quest, Step-up Women’s Network and other organizations. With the launch of Live It, Love It, Earn It, Marianna will be donating a portion of her royalties to nonprofit organizations dedicated to empowering, educating and assisting women and girls. Marianna is featured in the media including MSNBC, ABC, Fox & Friends, Fox News, The Washington Post, The New York Times, The Boston Globe, The Daily News, Philadelphia Weekly, The Huffington Post, Vogue, Women Entrepreneur, Glamour, Esquire, GQ. Marianna contributes as the Money Expert on Its Your Health and, the Money Expert on Mom Talk Radio and the Money Coach right here on TheLoveConsultants.com! For more information, visit: www.LiveItLoveITEarnIt.com. M&T Faves, M&T Bookbag 2011-03-29T11:33:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/sexy_slangs_chrystal_rose_bedroom_challenge_1/SexySlang http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/sexy_slangs_chrystal_rose_bedroom_challenge_1/SexySlang#When:11:31:00Z Our friends over at SexySlang.com have a new Senior Editor in charge of their fabulous blog, Chrystal Rose, and she's totally somebody we can't wait to hear more from. She & her boyfriend are going to take all 69 of the challenges in their hit book, Sexy Slang's Bedroom Challenges and she'll be writing all about her adventures as she tackles each and every one of them! Chrystal has begun taking on the challenges, here she is with number one! “Ready?” I asked Mr. Perfect as we sat Indian-style on the bed facing each other, the book in between us. “Yep.” He answered. Neither of us moved to pick it up. I’ll admit I’d peeked through it a few times, but I hadn’t read the whole thing. I had some idea what to expect but he had no clue. He didn’t seem to care either; sex was involved, so that was good enough for him. “Let’s read the directions.” I picked up the lime green, black and pink book, flipping it open to the “How to Use” section. Men, of course, hate anything to do with directions or instructions of any kind so I breezed through them pretty quickly to avoid any major eye-rolling. The goal is simple enough – better sex. To get there, the book features 69 challenges for couples to take together. Half are for him, half are for her. Chapter One is “Hooters, Hoohas , and More,” an introduction to girl parts, a topic on which most men could use a little more instruction, including mine. To read the rest of her adventure taking the first challenge click here! Launched in February 2008, Sexy Slang's flagship party game brings a naughty twist to traditional drawing games and charades. Faced-paced and dynamic, teams race to guess the same titillating term at the same time, creating an incredibly social, and often sexually charged, atmosphere. Sexy Slang's games also include Naughty Charades, Sex Positions Darts, and iPhone applications Nice & Naughty Charades and Sexy Slang's Bachelorette Challenge. Today, Sexy Slang games are for sale in over 1,000 stores across the country, including Barnes & Noble. Capitalizing on the goal of creating stimulating conversation, Sexy Slang has expanded the brand to apparel and many other products, including iPhone and computer skins. Sexy Slang apparel can be purchased at Wal-Mart, Kohl’s and Rue 21. To put more "Slang" in your "Sexy" click here! Sexy Slang - You'll Laugh Until it Hurts™ Sex, Sexy Slang 2011-03-29T11:31:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/fitness_as_a_relationship_booster/Becky Wenner http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/fitness_as_a_relationship_booster/Becky Wenner#When:11:30:00Z Need some motivation to get to the gym, start a new fitness plan and inspiration to STICK with it? I have it right here for you! Exercise, eating healthy and being fit can help BOOST your relationship with your partner / spouse and help you look, feel and perform better in bed! Here’s how!  First, hit the gym together. A couple that plays together, stays together! Even if you don’t workout together, the act of going to the gym as a couple builds a strong foundation of support to stick to your health and wellness goals. My husband and I often go to the gym together – I will take a class, he will hit the weight room. The buddy system of going to the gym together ensures that we stick to our fitness goals, and then gives us added support to eat healthy when we are away from the gym! What’s more is, the increased blood flow, weight loss and stamina……help increase your sex drive! Next, try something NEW together! Eat Smart! Eating good clean fresh foods will help you feel better, look better and benefit your overall health! Take a healthy cooking class together, stroll a farmers market, go home and cook a romantic meal together! Engaging in healthy habits together leads to a long term support system for your life changes and a bond between couples that runs strong! Learning to support each other in being healthy and happy makes for a closer couple, better sex and overall higher relationship satisfaction! Here are some exercises you can do to help make you better in bed! 1. Yoga: Yoga increases flexibility, helps you focus on breathing and concentrate on movement. 2. Cardiovascular Training: Any form of cardiovascular training will help you lose weight, feel more confident and build stamina! 3. Bench Presses: This is for the men out there! Want to be able to support your body weight and stamina for an extended love session? The missionary position requires this- so get pushing! 4. Kegel Exercises: This is for the ladies! These exercises are easy and can be done anytime! They help women reach orgasm easier and help men last longer! So start contracting those pubococcygeal muscles and have fun! As Always, Stay Focused Until the Miracle Happens! Becky You can check out my blog for more fitness advice by going to www.BeckysFitnessBlog.com. Style, Diet & Fitness 2011-03-29T11:30:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/spicing_it_up_in_the_bedroom/Tamsen Fadal http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/spicing_it_up_in_the_bedroom/Tamsen Fadal#When:11:29:00Z The Wall Street Man: His bedtime fantasy girl is worth millions. If this is your man, he prefers an upscale, sexy look that classically highlights your curvy body. He is a true gentleman, who appreciates all the accoutrements that dress up your bedtime look. Lace up a beautiful corset with detachable garters and a matching G-string. Make sure those sexy, satin stilettos match your bedtime attire. And, when the closing bell rings, leave the heels on. The Jock: He's simple, sweet and oh so sexy! It doesn't take a lot to make this hunk happy. Less is more, so follow the rules in his playbook and you will be sure to score. Any baby tee with cotton panties will surely make you his MVP (Most Valuable Princess). Just in case his rippling biceps aren't enough to keep you warm, put on a pair of low waisted pajama bottoms and a skin tight shirt to show off that beautiful body of yours. He will be sure to keep the stadium lights on, in order to see your every move. The Bad Boy: His taste for passion is as crazy as his "player lifestyle," so get your shopping shoes laced up. This bad boy has a mission when the lights go down, so he will need to be entertained, but kept in line. As a boy who plays the field, he has no desire for you to "slip into something more comfortable." G-strings, thongs and bikinis should fill your lingerie drawer, other options… boy shorts and a see thru a tank top. By the end of the night, you will definitely be the one laying down the law. The Prep: An Ivy League look will graduate you to the top of the class. Your man loves the wrapping on the present almost as much as the gift itself. Conservative, cute and sexy, that's what will sail his yacht. The top must match the bottom in this case. So, slip into some cotton pajamas that highlight your curves, a t-shirt and boxer combo for hot summer nights, or if he is really in the mood, make him crazy with a classic lace bra and panty set. The Artist: Just as Picasso painted the "Girl Before A Mirror," your artist sees you as a vision of work. He is cultured, creative and innovative. So, when darkness falls, anything goes. This art lover will appreciate your feminine form as it was supposed to be (nude) in between the sheets. Don't go spending big dollars-- colorful vintage nightgowns will get his creative juices flowing. How Men Think 2011-03-29T11:29:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/30_days_of_datescovery_day_29/Tamsen Fadal http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/30_days_of_datescovery_day_29/Tamsen Fadal#When:00:53:00Z Are you a "uber-romantic" girl who goes crazy after just one date? Do you find it impossible to stop contacting him after just one phone call? Is there no limit to your text messages once you've met the guy you believe is THE ONE? It's time all the single girls out there gain some edge in the game of love and The Love Consultants are here to help! Look no further for honest advice from the people who truly know about LOVE. Advice that will help you to stop worrying and start being confident about your dating life With our "30 Days of Datescovery" series of daily tips you'll gain fun and fabulous insight that will be sure to supercharge your dating prospects and increase your chances of finding your perfect match! For the next 30 days we'll take you through the single gal's Dos and Don’ts of Dating. It's the real deal advice you'll really need for when you're hitting the sometimes scary dating scene or finally starting that search to find that special someone. Each day we'll reveal a new "secret" to help you succeed in your dating adventure. 30 Days of Datescovery - Day 29: Flash Those Pearly Whites! Smile, smile, smile. For a guy, walking up to a woman who is smiling is always easier than trying to break the ice with an ice princess. Give him a cute smile--or at least a grin-- and watch him make his way over to your table.  Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal are a real couple offering real relationship advice. This husband and wife team hosted Lifetime's “Matched in Manhattan” series and together co-authored the popular dating guides, "Why Hasn't He Called?" and "Why Hasn't He Proposed?". The two are also frequent guests on "The Wendy Williams Show", "The Tyra Banks Show", NBC, CBS, "The Martha Stewart Show," among many others. Matt is the founder of Matt's Little Black Book, a relationship and date coaching service. Tamsen is an Emmy-Award winning TV journalist and lifestyle expert. Together, they offer a wealth of authentic advice to men and women looking for love. Singles & Dating 2011-03-29T00:53:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/30_days_of_datescovery_day_28/Tamsen Fadal http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/30_days_of_datescovery_day_28/Tamsen Fadal#When:00:43:00Z Are you a "uber-romantic" girl who goes crazy after just one date? Do you find it impossible to stop contacting him after just one phone call? Is there no limit to your text messages once you've met the guy you believe is THE ONE? It's time all the single girls out there gain some edge in the game of love and The Love Consultants are here to help! Look no further for honest advice from the people who truly know about LOVE. Advice that will help you to stop worrying and start being confident about your dating life With our "30 Days of Datescovery" series of daily tips you'll gain fun and fabulous insight that will be sure to supercharge your dating prospects and increase your chances of finding your perfect match! For the next 30 days we'll take you through the single gal's Dos and Don’ts of Dating. It's the real deal advice you'll really need for when you're hitting the sometimes scary dating scene or finally starting that search to find that special someone. Each day we'll reveal a new "secret" to help you succeed in your dating adventure. 30 Days of Datescovery - Day 28: Be A Chatterbox! Talk to everyone around you. Don't sit there looking like you are having an intimate conversation with one of your girlfriends. Circulate and be friendly. Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal are a real couple offering real relationship advice. This husband and wife team hosted Lifetime's “Matched in Manhattan” series and together co-authored the popular dating guides, "Why Hasn't He Called?" and "Why Hasn't He Proposed?". The two are also frequent guests on "The Wendy Williams Show", "The Tyra Banks Show", NBC, CBS, "The Martha Stewart Show," among many others. Matt is the founder of Matt's Little Black Book, a relationship and date coaching service. Tamsen is an Emmy-Award winning TV journalist and lifestyle expert. Together, they offer a wealth of authentic advice to men and women looking for love. Singles & Dating 2011-03-28T00:43:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/30_days_of_datescovery_day_27/Tamsen Fadal http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/30_days_of_datescovery_day_27/Tamsen Fadal#When:00:25:00Z Are you a "uber-romantic" girl who goes crazy after just one date? Do you find it impossible to stop contacting him after just one phone call? Is there no limit to your text messages once you've met the guy you believe is THE ONE? It's time all the single girls out there gain some edge in the game of love and The Love Consultants are here to help! Look no further for honest advice from the people who truly know about LOVE. Advice that will help you to stop worrying and start being confident about your dating life With our "30 Days of Datescovery" series of daily tips you'll gain fun and fabulous insight that will be sure to supercharge your dating prospects and increase your chances of finding your perfect match! For the next 30 days we'll take you through the single gal's Dos and Don’ts of Dating. It's the real deal advice you'll really need for when you're hitting the sometimes scary dating scene or finally starting that search to find that special someone. Each day we'll reveal a new "secret" to help you succeed in your dating adventure. 30 Days of Datescovery - Day 27: An Independent Woman Is A Turn On! A confident woman is a major turn on. No man, and we don’t care what he says, wants to be your only source of attention and love. My mom once told me that men can come and go, but your real girlfriends will be around forever. Nuture your friends, they will be there for you whether you are wearing a ring or not. Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal are a real couple offering real relationship advice. This husband and wife team hosted Lifetime's “Matched in Manhattan” series and together co-authored the popular dating guides, "Why Hasn't He Called?" and "Why Hasn't He Proposed?". The two are also frequent guests on "The Wendy Williams Show", "The Tyra Banks Show", NBC, CBS, "The Martha Stewart Show," among many others. Matt is the founder of Matt's Little Black Book, a relationship and date coaching service. Tamsen is an Emmy-Award winning TV journalist and lifestyle expert. Together, they offer a wealth of authentic advice to men and women looking for love. Singles & Dating 2011-03-27T00:25:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/channel_your_inner_samantha/askmteditor http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/channel_your_inner_samantha/askmteditor#When:15:21:01Z It's almost time for a sexy summer in NYC. And perhaps the woman who represent Sex and the City the best is Samantha Jones. She is woman who is unabashedly in touch with her sexuality.  While some conservative thinkers may see her character as too sexual, others, including sexual health and relationship experts, say more women should channel their inner vixen. Learning how to feel sexier is not always easy, but doing so can lead to not only a more fun and exciting sexual life but also a better sense of well being.Husband and wife relationship coaches and authors of "Why Hasn't He Called?" & "Why Hasn't He Proposed?", Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal say that Samantha's character is the epitome of a confident, independent, sexy woman.  "Take a few cues from her to amp up your sexiness and unleash your sexual desires, whether you're in a relationship or single," they say. "Too often I think women are too self-conscious when it comes to feeling sexually uninhibited," says Fadal.  "Wear sexy lingerie, experiment in the bedroom, allow yourself to be in touch with your sexuality without worrying about whether it's wrong or right."Dr. Susan Kellogg, PhD, CRNPC, says small changes from turning up your sultry thoughts to adding a little something in the bedroom, can make all the difference. 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Zestra has no known drug interactions and is designed to help you achieve the ultimate rush.  Please visit ZESTRA for more information. Sex 2011-03-26T15:21:01-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/30_days_of_datescovery_day_26/askmteditor http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/30_days_of_datescovery_day_26/askmteditor#When:00:10:01Z Are you a "uber-romantic" girl who goes crazy after just one date? Do you find it impossible to stop contacting him after just one phone call? Is there no limit to your text messages once you've met the guy you believe is THE ONE? It's time all the single girls out there gain some edge in the game of love and The Love Consultants are here to help! Look no further for honest advice from the people who truly know about LOVE. Advice that will help you to stop worrying and start being confident about your dating life With our "30 Days of Datescovery" series of daily tips you'll gain fun and fabulous insight that will be sure to supercharge your dating prospects and increase your chances of finding your perfect match! For the next 30 days we'll take you through the single gal's Dos and Don’ts of Dating. It's the real deal advice you'll really need for when you're hitting the sometimes scary dating scene or finally starting that search to find that special someone. Each day we'll reveal a new "secret" to help you succeed in your dating adventure. 30 Days of Datescovery - Day 26: Dating A Co-Worker Equals Relationship Horror! Sure, we’ve all been attracted to the hot thirty something down the hall, but acting on these primal urges is another story. Once you cross the line between co-worker and love interest, you can’t turn back, and the damage to both your work and personal life could be irreversible. It's usually a workplace horror story that never has a happy ending. Before sending that love-fax to your boss you must decide if transitioning from the occasional, afternoon Starbucks run to coffee in bed is the right move for you. Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal are a real couple offering real relationship advice. This husband and wife team hosted Lifetime's “Matched in Manhattan” series and together co-authored the popular dating guides, "Why Hasn't He Called?" and "Why Hasn't He Proposed?". The two are also frequent guests on "The Wendy Williams Show", "The Tyra Banks Show", NBC, CBS, "The Martha Stewart Show," among many others. Matt is the founder of Matt's Little Black Book, a relationship and date coaching service. Tamsen is an Emmy-Award winning TV journalist and lifestyle expert. Together, they offer a wealth of authentic advice to men and women looking for love. Singles & Dating 2011-03-26T00:10:01-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/matt_and_tamsen_chat_ashley_greenes_rebound_romance_at_hollywood_life/askmteditor http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/matt_and_tamsen_chat_ashley_greenes_rebound_romance_at_hollywood_life/askmteditor#When:13:47:00Z HollywoodLife.com invited our very own Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal, give their inside take on newly single Ashley Greene's dating habits. They’ve got a split decision on her post Jonas Bro romances! Here's a sneak peek of their article over at HollywoodLife.com; Matt’s Take:  We all heard the sad news that Ashley and Joe called it quits. The two began dating last summer so they didn’t even make it a year as a couple. In the last week, Ashley has been seen out and about with both Kings of Leon bassist Jared Followill and Captain America star Chris Evans. The girl is not weeping in her Cheerios over losing her very own Jonas Brother. Tamsen’s Take: Joe and Ashley breaking up isn’t something to chalk up to the trials and tribulations of young love. Relationships are relationships. If the two people cared about each other, then honest feelings were involved and there’s hurt. Now, on the subject of her whirlwind rebound dates, and her use of jealousy to make an ex feel bad, I can only say — not a good idea! Jealousy is not an effective tactic in my playbook. To read the full article on Hollywood Life click here! Hollywood Life is a multi-faceted entertainment brand. Hollywoodlife.com, the online destination, is the primary focus, complemented by a variety of premium award shows. The brand captures and celebrates the essence of celebrity "Hollywood" lifestyle – news, beauty, fashion, gossip and culture. Bonnie Fuller leads the HollywoodLife.com team. She is President and Editor in Chief and an industry-leading media executive and magazine innovator with an unparalleled track record of success in transforming brands and publications, such as Us Weekly, Shape, Cosmopolitan, Glamour, and Star magazine. Love & Relationships 2011-03-25T13:47:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/30_days_of_datescovery_day_25_skip_the_foreplaysometimes/Matt Titus http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/30_days_of_datescovery_day_25_skip_the_foreplaysometimes/Matt Titus#When:00:00:00Z Are you a "uber-romantic" girl who goes crazy after just one date? Do you find it impossible to stop contacting him after just one phone call? Is there no limit to your text messages once you've met the guy you believe is THE ONE? It's time all the single girls out there gain some edge in the game of love and The Love Consultants are here to help! Look no further for honest advice from the people who truly know about LOVE. Advice that will help you to stop worrying and start being confident about your dating life With our "30 Days of Datescovery" series of daily tips you'll gain fun and fabulous insight that will be sure to supercharge your dating prospects and increase your chances of finding your perfect match! For the next 30 days we'll take you through the single gal's Dos and Don’ts of Dating. It's the real deal advice you'll really need for when you're hitting the sometimes scary dating scene or finally starting that search to find that special someone. Each day we'll reveal a new "secret" to help you succeed in your dating adventure. 30 Days of Datescovery - Day 25: Skip The Foreplay...Sometimes. After you've done the dirty deed a few times with your dating partner, keep it exciting. Once in a while completely skip the foreplay. Push him up against the shower door and ravage him, clear off the kitchen table for an afternoon delight, throw him down on the bed, straddle him and you be the guy. Don't be seductive and gentle, be wild and bold, he'll never forget it. Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal are a real couple offering real relationship advice. This husband and wife team hosted Lifetime's “Matched in Manhattan” series and together co-authored the popular dating guides, "Why Hasn't He Called?" and "Why Hasn't He Proposed?". The two are also frequent guests on "The Wendy Williams Show", "The Tyra Banks Show", NBC, CBS, "The Martha Stewart Show," among many others. Matt is the founder of Matt's Little Black Book, a relationship and date coaching service. Tamsen is an Emmy-Award winning TV journalist and lifestyle expert. Together, they offer a wealth of authentic advice to men and women looking for love. Singles & Dating 2011-03-25T00:00:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/30_days_of_datescovery_day_24/Matt Titus http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/30_days_of_datescovery_day_24/Matt Titus#When:23:55:00Z Are you a "uber-romantic" girl who goes crazy after just one date? Do you find it impossible to stop contacting him after just one phone call? Is there no limit to your text messages once you've met the guy you believe is THE ONE? It's time all the single girls out there gain some edge in the game of love and The Love Consultants are here to help! Look no further for honest advice from the people who truly know about LOVE. Advice that will help you to stop worrying and start being confident about your dating life With our "30 Days of Datescovery" series of daily tips you'll gain fun and fabulous insight that will be sure to supercharge your dating prospects and increase your chances of finding your perfect match! For the next 30 days we'll take you through the single gal's Dos and Don’ts of Dating. It's the real deal advice you'll really need for when you're hitting the sometimes scary dating scene or finally starting that search to find that special someone. Each day we'll reveal a new "secret" to help you succeed in your dating adventure. 30 Days of Datescovery - Day 24: Don't Be His Early Evening Girl! When a guy approaches you early in the evening, you are being used for target practice. The night is far too young and there are way too many other women around for him to connect so early. Have a quick meaningful conversation with him and then blow him off. If he is serious, he will circle back around later in the evening. If his friends leave him and go on to the next bar, then he has hit his target…YOU! Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal are a real couple offering real relationship advice. This husband and wife team hosted Lifetime's “Matched in Manhattan” series and together co-authored the popular dating guides, "Why Hasn't He Called?" and "Why Hasn't He Proposed?". The two are also frequent guests on "The Wendy Williams Show", "The Tyra Banks Show", NBC, CBS, "The Martha Stewart Show," among many others. Matt is the founder of Matt's Little Black Book, a relationship and date coaching service. Tamsen is an Emmy-Award winning TV journalist and lifestyle expert. Together, they offer a wealth of authentic advice to men and women looking for love. Singles & Dating 2011-03-23T23:55:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/30_days_of_datescovery_day_23/Tamsen Fadal http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/30_days_of_datescovery_day_23/Tamsen Fadal#When:23:45:00Z Are you a "uber-romantic" girl who goes crazy after just one date? Do you find it impossible to stop contacting him after just one phone call? Is there no limit to your text messages once you've met the guy you believe is THE ONE? It's time all the single girls out there gain some edge in the game of love and The Love Consultants are here to help! Look no further for honest advice from the people who truly know about LOVE. Advice that will help you to stop worrying and start being confident about your dating life With our "30 Days of Datescovery" series of daily tips you'll gain fun and fabulous insight that will be sure to supercharge your dating prospects and increase your chances of finding your perfect match! For the next 30 days we'll take you through the single gal's Dos and Don’ts of Dating. It's the real deal advice you'll really need for when you're hitting the sometimes scary dating scene or finally starting that search to find that special someone. Each day we'll reveal a new "secret" to help you succeed in your dating adventure. 30 Days of Datescovery - Day 23: Beware Of The Guy Who Isn't "Himself"...! The dating scene seems to provide men with an opportunity to assume aliases as well as multiple personalities. Since guys are looking for one thing when they go out for a night on the town, they believe that the most time they will ever spend with you is probably 8 to 10 hours and then they will never see you again. So watch out for janitors who become neurosurgeons, sales reps that play professional football or Target clerks who opened for The Rolling Stones. Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal are a real couple offering real relationship advice. This husband and wife team hosted Lifetime's “Matched in Manhattan” series and together co-authored the popular dating guides, "Why Hasn't He Called?" and "Why Hasn't He Proposed?". The two are also frequent guests on "The Wendy Williams Show", "The Tyra Banks Show", NBC, CBS, "The Martha Stewart Show," among many others. Matt is the founder of Matt's Little Black Book, a relationship and date coaching service. Tamsen is an Emmy-Award winning TV journalist and lifestyle expert. Together, they offer a wealth of authentic advice to men and women looking for love. Singles & Dating 2011-03-22T23:45:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/is_there_a_fat_burner_i_can_safely_take/Becky Wenner http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/is_there_a_fat_burner_i_can_safely_take/Becky Wenner#When:14:09:00Z Is there a magic pill out there that works? I want to take a fat burner to help me reach my fitness goals, but I can’t seem to find one that does not have side effects like irritability, diarrhea, stress or depression. What are your thoughts? Missy, GA I can tell you this – I would never take a fat burner or put many of the products that are available in my body. That is only my opinion and feeling though – each person is free to make their own judgment call. I always tell my clients, take a look at the ingredients! Almost all of the fat burners contain the same active ingredient - caffeine or some other substance that has the same effects as caffeine (like guarana)! This means you can get the same effect with a simple cup of coffee without the other added ingredients or COST! Keep in mind there is a tremendous amount of money spent on marketing these products; fancy labels and fantastic ads make you believe that the product is a sure fire way to burn the extra calories you need to reach your goals! Do not believe everything that you read! Why not drink a plain ole Cup O Joe before your workout to give you that little extra energy and push that will help you workout harder and burn more calories! It is cheaper and you will know and understand all the ingredients of the substance you are putting into your body. For more of Becky's tips visit, www.BeckysFitnessCompany.com.   Style, Diet & Fitness 2011-03-22T14:09:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/matt_titus_and_tamsen_fadal_talk_scarlett_sean_over_at_hollywood_life/askmteditor http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/matt_titus_and_tamsen_fadal_talk_scarlett_sean_over_at_hollywood_life/askmteditor#When:14:01:00Z HollywoodLife.com invited our very own Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal, give their inside take on Scarlett Johansson and Sean Penn. They’ve got a split decision on this May-December relationship!  Here's a sneak peek of their article over at HollywoodLife.com; Matt’s Take: Fresh off their recent divorces, Sean and Scarlett now look to be jumping into a hot new romance and I think it’s a perfect match! That’s right, you heard me, they were made for each other. Let me explain why. First off, Sean loves hot blondes — his ex-wives were blonde, both Madonna and Robin Wright. Robin is a great actress, Madonna was a sex symbol and Scarlett is both. So he’s now got the best of everything in a sexy new package. And by new, I mean young, like 24 years his junior young. And there is nothing that makes a newly single, older guy feel better than a hot, younger women. Tamsen’s Take: So Scarlett Johansson, 26, is dating Sean Penn? The man is nearly twice her age, has two teenage children and is rumored to be a notorious cheater. Please explain to me how you divorce Ryan Reynolds and fall into the arms of bad boy, I mean the 50-year-old Mr. Penn? What can these two possibly have in common expect for bad judgment? To read the full article on Hollywood Life click here! Hollywood Life is a multi-faceted entertainment brand. Hollywoodlife.com, the online destination, is the primary focus, complemented by a variety of premium award shows. The brand captures and celebrates the essence of celebrity "Hollywood" lifestyle – news, beauty, fashion, gossip and culture. Bonnie Fuller leads the HollywoodLife.com team. She is President and Editor in Chief and an industry-leading media executive and magazine innovator with an unparalleled track record of success in transforming brands and publications, such as Us Weekly, Shape, Cosmopolitan, Glamour, and Star magazine. Love & Relationships 2011-03-22T14:01:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/30_days_of_datescovery_day_22_dating_in_the_present_not_in_the_future/Matt Titus http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/30_days_of_datescovery_day_22_dating_in_the_present_not_in_the_future/Matt Titus#When:23:32:00Z Are you a "uber-romantic" girl who goes crazy after just one date? Do you find it impossible to stop contacting him after just one phone call? Is there no limit to your text messages once you've met the guy you believe is THE ONE? It's time all the single girls out there gain some edge in the game of love and The Love Consultants are here to help! Look no further for honest advice from the people who truly know about LOVE. Advice that will help you to stop worrying and start being confident about your dating life With our "30 Days of Datescovery" series of daily tips you'll gain fun and fabulous insight that will be sure to supercharge your dating prospects and increase your chances of finding your perfect match! For the next 30 days we'll take you through the single gal's Dos and Don’ts of Dating. It's the real deal advice you'll really need for when you're hitting the sometimes scary dating scene or finally starting that search to find that special someone. Each day we'll reveal a new "secret" to help you succeed in your dating adventure. 30 Days of Datescovery - Day 22: Date in The Present, Not for The Future. Don’t try to picture him in the future. You do not know him well enough to make accurate predictions regarding the two of you as a couple. Think like a guy and only think about the present date and be open to just enjoying the night. Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal are a real couple offering real relationship advice. This husband and wife team hosted Lifetime's “Matched in Manhattan” series and together co-authored the popular dating guides, "Why Hasn't He Called?" and "Why Hasn't He Proposed?". The two are also frequent guests on "The Wendy Williams Show", "The Tyra Banks Show", NBC, CBS, "The Martha Stewart Show," among many others. Matt is the founder of Matt's Little Black Book, a relationship and date coaching service. Tamsen is an Emmy-Award winning TV journalist and lifestyle expert. Together, they offer a wealth of authentic advice to men and women looking for love. Singles & Dating 2011-03-21T23:32:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/research_why_smart_women_fall_for_jerks/askmteditor http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/research_why_smart_women_fall_for_jerks/askmteditor#When:10:48:00Z We’ve all known her—the brilliant, successful go-getter that falls time and again for Mr. Loser. Maybe you even are or have been her. So, what’s the deal? How can so many smart women fall for so many jerks? A recently released study claims to have the answer. The study, titled Why do Men Insult their Intimate Partners?, published in a recent issue of the Journal of Personality and Individual Differences says when it comes to women with high IQs, a form of meanness is actually programmed into male behavior. That’s because meanness acts as a form of “mate retention” in many males, explains Dr. Stewart-Williams, one of the psychologists behind the study. Typically, men desire women of lower status because they feel they can be controlled. The thought that his partner is more valued by society and desirable to others than he is doesn’t sit well with him. A study by psychologists at the University of Michigan backs up this theory. The study found that high status men preferred to marry their secretaries rather than colleagues. So, a man is threatened by a partner with a higher IQ because she makes him feel insecure. But when a man does end up in a relationship with an intellectual superior, he is likely to be unfaithful or aggressive as a means of asserting control over her, Dr. Steward-Williams says. “If a man demeans a woman, it makes her feel low, neglected and disrespected,” he adds. “And if a woman feels humiliated, she will eventually come to believe she can't do any better and stick around with that man.” But, that doesn’t explain why smart women go for the bums in the first place. In The Daily Mail, commentator, Helen Kirwan-Taylor, delves into the characteristics that make clever women fall for jerks on the prowl. For one thing, they are perfectionists who are programmed to succeed. So, it’s highly possible that as opposed to walking away at the first signs of trouble with a man, they are more willing to stick around and try harder. For another, super-smart women may have little experience with men as they were preoccupied with their studies while less clever girls were learning to master the field. So, they really are a bit naïve when it comes to dealing with men. So, for example, while more experienced women might see right through a man’s flirtatiousness. A less experienced woman might mistake it for true sincerity and charm. And by the time she sees his true colors, she’s already hooked and in “make it work” mode. “Self-awareness” is the solution Kirwan-Taylor offers up as the “main ticket out of this emotional mire.” “Learning that the kind of powerful man who makes you laugh, but also tells you you're five pounds too fat and you can't cook is really not the man for you.” Love & Relationships 2011-03-21T10:48:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/6_quick_and_easy_cosmetic_touch_ups1/SingleEdition http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/6_quick_and_easy_cosmetic_touch_ups1/SingleEdition#When:10:33:00Z Looking good can make you feel good. Singleedition.com has given us 4 great, quick, and easy touch-ups to freshen up our look. 1.Teeth Whitening What it is: An effective way of brightening your smile by eliminating stains created from smoking, eating and imbibing certain drinks (such as coffee, tea and alcohol). The Process: Gum tissue is first covered to protect it from being irritated. A whitening gel is then applied to the teeth and then activated by a high intensity light or laser to increase the lightening effect on the teeth. In-office treatments take about an hour, and can lighten your teeth up to eight or ten shades in one treatment. An alternative to going into the doctor to freshen up your smile, you can go to CVS or any drug store and buy Crest Whitening strips. Approximate Cost: $300 to $500. Crest Whitening Strips: $45 2. No-Sweat Botox® Laser Hair Removal What it is: Laser hair removal is a medical procedure that uses laser light to remove unwanted hair. The laser targets dark pigment, called melanin, in hair. Common treatment locations include back, armpits, upper lip, ears, neck, and the Brazilian line (for men tbis last one is referred to as the Manzilian!) Process: A topical cooling gel is applied to the skin and then a trained professional presses a hand-held laser instrument to your skin. Once activated the laser light passes through your skin's surface and the intense heat damages the hair follicles to inhibit hair growth. It takes several treatments to provide an extended hair-free period. Approximate Cost: Prices range between $400-$450 per session.  3. Microdermabrasion What it is: Microdermabrasion is a skin-refreshing technique that exfoliates your skin to stimulate cell turnover, improve skin tone, and to soften and polish away mild sun damage, scars and facial wrinkles. The Process: A powerful device is used to spray crystals onto the skin's surface resulting in a gentle abrasion or polishing of the uppermost layer of dead skin cells on the skin's epidermis. Approximate Cost: Prices range between $100-$150 per treatment. 4. Hair Cut/ Hair color/ Blowout What is it: Hair is an important thing to maintain. To freshen up your look you might want to go to one of your favorite salons for a haircut, color your hair (maybe try something different, beautiful blonde highlights for the summer) and treat yourself for a blowout! My favorite salon in New York City is Jean-Claude Biguine.  Approximate Cost: Blowout; $40-45 Hair color and Hair cut; Price upon request. To read more of this article please visit singleedition.com  Style 2011-03-21T10:33:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/what_every_man_wants3/Matt Titus http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/what_every_man_wants3/Matt Titus#When:10:32:00Z We are not always great communicators, but if you are looking to make your man happy, here are a few ways to do it - both in and out of bed. 1. Spa Day No! Not for us, we want you to go have a spa day with your gal pals. This is not so we can be alone and sit around all day, but we like the way you smell, look and act when you come home. Quite frankly, when you are happy we are soooo happy. So, please take a spa day and then come home to us for a couples night in! 2. Skip the dessert and the dinner! Your mom is a blast to be with and your dad is fun, but this Sunday let me be alone! We really do like the in-laws (most of the time) but we don’t want to spend all of our free time with them. Every once in awhile, let us just sit on the couch and stay at the television set. 3. Sex That about sums it up. 4. A Dirty Girl Please don’t make us tell you this one, quite frankly, it’s a little bit embarrassing, but we love dirty girls. Now, don’t get me wrong, we don’t like them all the time, but every once in awhile there is nothing wrong with some dirty sweet nothings…you will get whatever you want from us! 5. Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell We like quiet time, and in fact when we get it, we will do more for you. This means don’t ask us if we’ve cleaned the bathroom, taken out the garbage or walked the dog, and don’t tell us to do it. The less you ask, the more we will do. 6. Date Night We love excitement, and we are not just talking about in the bedroom. We may roll out eyes when you add something sappy to the schedule, but that's just because we are trying to be tough. Date night is a must, we want to feel like boys again. Let us pick you up, take you to the movies and make out in the backseat. Anything to keep this spicy is tops in our book. 7. Nothing Beneath the Sheets No, it’s not the same as sex. We love to feel your body next to ours. So, the next time that you climb into bed first, surprise us and climb in nude. But be warned: you may not be going to sleep anytime soon! 8. Tell us we are look hot We know we are not Brad Pitt, but please lie to us every once in awhile and let us believe we are. It’s not easy acting confident and manly all the time, but we try. So, when you think about it, we would love to hear how hot you think we are. 9. Walk the dog Yes, we know that you cook the dinner and make the beds, but from time to time, we would love it if you walked to dog and let us relax. When you spoil us, you will get it in return 10-fold. 10. Hearing those 3 little words Just because… How Men Think 2011-03-21T10:32:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/forget_about_your_type/Mike Morucci http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/forget_about_your_type/Mike Morucci#When:10:29:00Z When asked “What is your type?” how do you answer? Probably with a height requirement (at least six-feet tall), build type (athletic but not on the Mitchell Report), ethnic/nationality preference (Prince of [insert tropical kingdom here]), and, of course, funny. But this doesn’t really describe who you’re going to gel with, or what makes you laugh. It’s typically a physical description sprinkled with a few generic traits that are hard to identify without some time and investment, like “kind, self-supporting, and doesn’t exceed the personal baggage guidelines set by you and Delta.” Don’t get me wrong – without chemistry, it ain’t gonna happen. And if he has traits you can’t get past, none of this applies (you finally remember why he looks so familiar and you’re a big fan of America’s Most Wanted.) But I would like to suggest you get to know your suitor before dismissing him. Set your ground rules for comfort but try and skip all the physical details. Keep an open mind. [Author’s note: And I’m not just suggesting this because I am far from six-feet tall and even farther from a full head of hair, and I do carry plenty of baggage.] I’m fairly certain the 29-dimensional analysis you hear advertised so often doesn’t determine how he interacts with children, treats a stranger, deals with stressful situations, if he listens when needed and responds when appropriate, if he’ll return extra change from a clerk who can’t add, or if he’ll go the extra mile for someone or something truly in need. You need to hear the stories and witness these events yourself, and that’s only going to happen over time. Let’s face it, when dating someone you barely know, neither of you are yourselves or anywhere near your comfort zones, yet often that’s the stage where the determination is made to continue or move on. This may be one of the reasons why the reunion sites are so popular – connecting with old friends, for sure, but these guys are not strangers, there’s plenty to catch up on, and you’re no longer 15 wearing a night brace, insecure or worried about what others think. You actually know now what you didn’t know then. Consider the people in your life today. Are there men that left a forgettable (or downright awful) first impression, but are now part of your inner circle? I don’t mean the persistent ones who wore you down; I mean people you connect with because of who they are. You may find they’re all different in appearance yet quite similar on the inside. If that’s the case, maybe you can start slowly the next time you meet someone instead of rushing to a verdict. And when you’re asked “Who’s your type?”, maybe your answer will be “I don’t have one, but I’ll know him when I know him.” Be sure to check out more of Mike's blog, "Do I Amuse You?" Singles & Dating 2011-03-21T10:29:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/30_days_of_datescovery_day_21_stroke_his_ego/Matt Titus http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/30_days_of_datescovery_day_21_stroke_his_ego/Matt Titus#When:23:29:00Z Are you a "uber-romantic" girl who goes crazy after just one date? Do you find it impossible to stop contacting him after just one phone call? Is there no limit to your text messages once you've met the guy you believe is THE ONE? It's time all the single girls out there gain some edge in the game of love and The Love Consultants are here to help! Look no further for honest advice from the people who truly know about LOVE. Advice that will help you to stop worrying and start being confident about your dating life With our "30 Days of Datescovery" series of daily tips you'll gain fun and fabulous insight that will be sure to supercharge your dating prospects and increase your chances of finding your perfect match! For the next 30 days we'll take you through the single gal's Dos and Don’ts of Dating. It's the real deal advice you'll really need for when you're hitting the sometimes scary dating scene or finally starting that search to find that special someone. Each day we'll reveal a new "secret" to help you succeed in your dating adventure. 30 Days of Datescovery - Day 21: Stroke His Ego! Boys like to hear nice things about themselves. To get him to notice (and remember) you, pay him a compliment to stroke his ego. Tell him he smells good or that you like his shirt and it really shows off his muscles. He'll be left feeling happy and amazed and wanting more. Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal are a real couple offering real relationship advice. This husband and wife team hosted Lifetime's “Matched in Manhattan” series and together co-authored the popular dating guides, "Why Hasn't He Called?" and "Why Hasn't He Proposed?". The two are also frequent guests on "The Wendy Williams Show", "The Tyra Banks Show", NBC, CBS, "The Martha Stewart Show," among many others. Matt is the founder of Matt's Little Black Book, a relationship and date coaching service. Tamsen is an Emmy-Award winning TV journalist and lifestyle expert. Together, they offer a wealth of authentic advice to men and women looking for love. Singles & Dating 2011-03-20T23:29:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/30_days_of_datescovery_day_20_hit_delete_on_your_exs_texts/Matt Titus http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/30_days_of_datescovery_day_20_hit_delete_on_your_exs_texts/Matt Titus#When:23:21:00Z Are you a "uber-romantic" girl who goes crazy after just one date? Do you find it impossible to stop contacting him after just one phone call? Is there no limit to your text messages once you've met the guy you believe is THE ONE? It's time all the single girls out there gain some edge in the game of love and The Love Consultants are here to help! Look no further for honest advice from the people who truly know about LOVE. Advice that will help you to stop worrying and start being confident about your dating life With our "30 Days of Datescovery" series of daily tips you'll gain fun and fabulous insight that will be sure to supercharge your dating prospects and increase your chances of finding your perfect match! For the next 30 days we'll take you through the single gal's Dos and Don’ts of Dating. It's the real deal advice you'll really need for when you're hitting the sometimes scary dating scene or finally starting that search to find that special someone. Each day we'll reveal a new "secret" to help you succeed in your dating adventure. 30 Days of Datescovery - Day 20: Delete Your Ex Texts! Old numbers = old flames. Old Ex Texts = New Dating Dramas. Clear them out of your cell phone right now. It will save you committing one of the worst single gal crimes – dialing after drinking. Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal are a real couple offering real relationship advice. This husband and wife team hosted Lifetime's “Matched in Manhattan” series and together co-authored the popular dating guides, "Why Hasn't He Called?" and "Why Hasn't He Proposed?". The two are also frequent guests on "The Wendy Williams Show", "The Tyra Banks Show", NBC, CBS, "The Martha Stewart Show," among many others. Matt is the founder of Matt's Little Black Book, a relationship and date coaching service. Tamsen is an Emmy-Award winning TV journalist and lifestyle expert. Together, they offer a wealth of authentic advice to men and women looking for love. Singles & Dating 2011-03-19T23:21:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/30_days_of_datescovery_day_19_dont_overdress_and_underwhelm_for_your_man/Matt Titus http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/30_days_of_datescovery_day_19_dont_overdress_and_underwhelm_for_your_man/Matt Titus#When:23:12:00Z Are you a "uber-romantic" girl who goes crazy after just one date? Do you find it impossible to stop contacting him after just one phone call? Is there no limit to your text messages once you've met the guy you believe is THE ONE? It's time all the single girls out there gain some edge in the game of love and The Love Consultants are here to help! Look no further for honest advice from the people who truly know about LOVE. Advice that will help you to stop worrying and start being confident about your dating life With our "30 Days of Datescovery" series of daily tips you'll gain fun and fabulous insight that will be sure to supercharge your dating prospects and increase your chances of finding your perfect match! For the next 30 days we'll take you through the single gal's Dos and Don’ts of Dating. It's the real deal advice you'll really need for when you're hitting the sometimes scary dating scene or finally starting that search to find that special someone. Each day we'll reveal a new "secret" to help you succeed in your dating adventure. 30 Days of Datescovery - Day 19: LESS IS MORE. Guys love it when a woman is dressed casually and looks comfortable - like in jeans and a T-shirt with messy hair and little or no make-up. A high-maintenance princess is NEVER approachable, stick with being a natural woman and he’ll make you his Queen. Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal are a real couple offering real relationship advice. This husband and wife team hosted Lifetime's “Matched in Manhattan” series and together co-authored the popular dating guides, "Why Hasn't He Called?" and "Why Hasn't He Proposed?". The two are also frequent guests on "The Wendy Williams Show", "The Tyra Banks Show", NBC, CBS, "The Martha Stewart Show," among many others. Matt is the founder of Matt's Little Black Book, a relationship and date coaching service. Tamsen is an Emmy-Award winning TV journalist and lifestyle expert. Together, they offer a wealth of authentic advice to men and women looking for love. Singles & Dating 2011-03-18T23:12:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/five_ways_to_make_love_stay/The Frisky http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/five_ways_to_make_love_stay/The Frisky#When:13:02:00Z I have to admit, even after reading Still life With Woodpecker no less than about five or six times, I still have no idea how to make love stay. The most I gathered from the book, it has something to do with Camel cigarettes and since my relationship with smoking was a brief one, I’m afraid that tip is of no use to me. Thankfully, a new study published in the March issue of the Review of General Psychology found that a surprisingly high number of long-term couples, including some who had been married over twenty years, reported that they still felt deeply in love with their partners. The researchers draw a distinction between romantic love and passionate love. “Romantic love,” the researchers say, “has the same intensity, engagement, and sexual chemistry as passionate love has, but without the obsession. Passionate love, on the other hand, includes feelings of uncertainty and anxiety.” Well, if that’s the case, I’ll take romance over passion any day. According to the researchers, there are some “tricks” to making that romantic kind of love endure for the long-term. Hard Work: People in romantic long-term relationships “are often very relationship focused,” researcher, Bianca Acevedo said. “Their relationship is something that is very central to their lives, something they spend time on, work on, really care about. They seem to resolve conflicts relatively efficiently and smoothly.” Do New and Challenging Activities Together: “These novel experiences stimulate brains to create the neurochemicals dopamine and norepinephrine, which are also created during the early, exhilarating stages of romantic love.” Though I’m no expert at making love stay for the super long-term (yet), I have managed to stay happily in love with the same person for nearly three years, which isn’t bad.   1. Spend Time Apart Occasionally Distance makes the heart grow fonder, so whether you spend an evening catching up with your girlfriends, or an afternoon at yoga class, spending some quality time away from your significant other gives you a chance to maintain and foster your own identity, nurture other relationships, and miss your guy a little.   2. Flirt with Other People A little harmless flirting is a great way to remind yourself that you’re sexy, desirable, and fun, all of which are probably the traits that made him fall for you in the first place.   3. Do Sweet and Simple Things for Each Other Little unexpected surprises keep things spontaneous and show your partner you care. Never underestimate the power of a homemade cookies when it comes to keeping love alive.   4. Squeeze in Some Quickies When you’re pressed for time or just don’t feel like investing in an all-out sex session, a quickie is the perfect way to not only relieve stress but stay physically and emotionally connected to your significant other.   5. Enjoy Really Great Meals Together Whether you cook together or go out to a favorite restaurant, enjoying a meal together is kind of like having sex. Both include sensual pleasures and give you a chance to reconnect after a hectic day. Pay attention to the tastes, textures, and scents, and think of each meal as a metaphor for your relationship. If you savor it slowly, the enjoyment lasts longer. By Wendy Atterberry for TheFrisky Love & Relationships 2011-03-18T13:02:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/30_days_of_datescovery_day_18_booty_calls_and_drunken_sext_messages_are_not/Matt Titus http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/30_days_of_datescovery_day_18_booty_calls_and_drunken_sext_messages_are_not/Matt Titus#When:23:06:00Z Are you a "uber-romantic" girl who goes crazy after just one date? Do you find it impossible to stop contacting him after just one phone call? Is there no limit to your text messages once you've met the guy you believe is THE ONE? It's time all the single girls out there gain some edge in the game of love and The Love Consultants are here to help! Look no further for honest advice from the people who truly know about LOVE. Advice that will help you to stop worrying and start being confident about your dating life With our "30 Days of Datescovery" series of daily tips you'll gain fun and fabulous insight that will be sure to supercharge your dating prospects and increase your chances of finding your perfect match! For the next 30 days we'll take you through the single gal's Dos and Don’ts of Dating. It's the real deal advice you'll really need for when you're hitting the sometimes scary dating scene or finally starting that search to find that special someone. Each day we'll reveal a new "secret" to help you succeed in your dating adventure. 30 Days of Datescovery - Day 18: Booty Calls and Drunken Sext Messages Are Not Your Friends! Do you REALLY want to be "that" girl? Think it’s a good thing to be the object of his desire only when he’s feeling randy and all his other options are not available? You deserve more than that. Say no to him every once in a while. Making yourself unavailable may even make you seem more mysterious and appealing to him. It will show him that you have a life and aren't sitting around waiting for his call - even if you secretly are! Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal are a real couple offering real relationship advice. This husband and wife team hosted Lifetime's “Matched in Manhattan” series and together co-authored the popular dating guides, "Why Hasn't He Called?" and "Why Hasn't He Proposed?". The two are also frequent guests on "The Wendy Williams Show", "The Tyra Banks Show", NBC, CBS, "The Martha Stewart Show," among many others. Matt is the founder of Matt's Little Black Book, a relationship and date coaching service. Tamsen is an Emmy-Award winning TV journalist and lifestyle expert. Together, they offer a wealth of authentic advice to men and women looking for love. Singles & Dating 2011-03-17T23:06:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/30_days_of_datescovery_day_17_keep_the_first_date_short_and_sweet/Matt Titus http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/30_days_of_datescovery_day_17_keep_the_first_date_short_and_sweet/Matt Titus#When:00:52:00Z Are you a "uber-romantic" girl who goes crazy after just one date? Do you find it impossible to stop contacting him after just one phone call? Is there no limit to your text messages once you've met the guy you believe is THE ONE? It's time all the single girls out there gain some edge in the game of love and The Love Consultants are here to help! Look no further for honest advice from the people who truly know about LOVE. Advice that will help you to stop worrying and start being confident about your dating life With our "30 Days of Datescovery" series of daily tips you'll gain fun and fabulous insight that will be sure to supercharge your dating prospects and increase your chances of finding your perfect match! For the next 30 days we'll take you through the single gal's Dos and Don’ts of Dating. It's the real deal advice you'll really need for when you're hitting the sometimes scary dating scene or finally starting that search to find that special someone. Each day we'll reveal a new "secret" to help you succeed in your dating adventure. 30 Days of Datescovery - Day 17: Keep the First Date Short and Sweet! There is no reason for a first date to last for several hours! Keep the energy up and know when to bring down the curtain, especially if things are going well. This will ensure the momentum of the date continues for your second meet up.Plus, you don't want your date to think that he is the only thing going on in your life. Let him know that you have other things happening and that you don't have all this free time to devote to him at this eary stage. Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal are a real couple offering real relationship advice. This husband and wife team hosted Lifetime's “Matched in Manhattan” series and together co-authored the popular dating guides, "Why Hasn't He Called?" and "Why Hasn't He Proposed?". The two are also frequent guests on "The Wendy Williams Show", "The Tyra Banks Show", NBC, CBS, "The Martha Stewart Show," among many others. Matt is the founder of Matt's Little Black Book, a relationship and date coaching service. Tamsen is an Emmy-Award winning TV journalist and lifestyle expert. Together, they offer a wealth of authentic advice to men and women looking for love. Singles & Dating 2011-03-17T00:52:00-05:00 http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/the_rules_according_to_jwoww/askmteditor http://www.theloveconsultants.com/index.php/blog/article/the_rules_according_to_jwoww/askmteditor#When:10:27:00Z One of our favorite ladies from MTV’s smash hit series The Jersey Shore, Jennifer “JWOWW” Farley is celebrating the debut of her new book The Rules According to JWOWW. The sexy volume offers a bold new spin on the dos and don’ts of dating, from “smushing” guys to avoiding booty calls to finding the guy of your dreams. The Rules According to JWOWW includes empowering advice for a new generation of self-assured young women, as JWOWW shares her “shore-tested secrets on landing a mint guy, staying fresh to death, and kicking the competition to the curb.” The dynamic Ms. Farley revealed that she wrote the dating advice book so that people could learn from her mistakes. In a recent interview with the New York Post, the star said that she spent around six weeks penning the book, describing the experience as "therapeutic" following her painful split from ex-boyfriend Tom Lippolis. While things often get wild on Jersey Shore, we always feel a little better when JWOWW swings into action with either a comforting hug or a powerful upper-cut, she's the den mother of the group and the show's sexiest standout! She's a stunning combination of sugar and spice to be sure, but we're more interested in her creative side, the girl's a true artist, her design work shows real talent. And now she is adding author to her list of accomplishments, we say, atta girl! Press notes state, "Are you stuck in a relationship with a stage-five clinger? Maybe your date is more like a man-whore than Mr. Smooth. Do guys only call you late at night when they're looking for a quick hookup? The Rules According to JWOWW can change all that. Famous for both her cleavage-baring tops and her tough-as-nails approach to life and love on MTV's hit show Jersey Shore, JWOWW tells it like it is. And now she's laying down the rules she has learned and lived by on smushing, smackdowns, and standing up for yourself. JWOWW's advice on what she wears to get a guy's attention at the club, how she keeps her man in check, how she maintains her sick body, and what she does to satisfy her guy will have you with a man ready to wife-up in no time." JWOWW, aka Jenni Farley, hails from Franklin Square, New York. Before her rise to fist-pumping fame on MTV's Jersey Shore, Farley paid the bills with graphic design work and part-time club promotions. Once she conquered the club scene in Long Island and much of Manhattan's outer boroughs, Farley was on to New Jersey and Miami! Her current business ventures include a line of JWOWW Black Bronzer and upcoming fitness-related projects such as a workout video, diet supplements, and a sports drink. To learn more about Jenni visit, www.jwoww.com. To buy The Rules According to JWOWW: Shore-Tested Secrets on Landing a Mint Guy, Staying Fresh to Death, and Kicking the Competition to the Curb click here! M&T Faves, M&T Bookbag 2011-03-16T10:27:00-05:00