Sex

Does living with your husband or wife seem more and more like crashing with a roommate than with a spouse? Has it been ‘years’ since you’ve had some soul-inspiring, body-exploding intimacy?

Well, when you've been together for a while, it's easy to lose the spark that brought you together in the first place. But never fear, you can bring the “sexy” back into your relationship.

SAY IT!

If your sex life is boring you, tell him or her that, be honest, remember to phrase positively, but explain the fact things have become a little stale. By speaking about the unspoken, you’ll begin the needed communication to get your passion back on track. Talking about all the things you really want to do in bed is also a sexy form of foreplay, and we all know what foreplay leads to, right? 

SWITCH IT UP

Most couples are comfortable with the classic three positions when it comes to sex, but it's incredibly important to constantly update and upgrade your bedroom repertoire. You have to keep up the excitement changing the ways, times and the places you have sex. Recreating equals stimulating, keep your sex surprising and if at all possible, shocking! When your mate jumps in the shower, join them, clean up your bodies together. Plan a naked weekend together in your house or apartment, set up a sexy campground in your living room, flip the sexual script. Take the time get creative with the scenario or better yet, the position.

CONFIDENCE IS A TURN ON!

Many people lost confidence when it comes to sex, being too busy with work, not feeling attractive to their partner causing them to treat their passionate desires like burdens, sort of like going to the dentist! Take time outside of the bedroom to build up your inner-confidence, spend some time getting to know your body again, don’t skip the gym two days in a row, focus on your libido and feed your inner-sex kitten. The time you take rebuilding your sexual confidence will reward the time you spend between the sheets.

SHOWTIME

Show your partner what you really want to do to you sexually, clue them into what you like when it comes to sex. Don't expect your guy or gal to be a mind reader when it comes to what you find pleasurable, take the lead and “direct” your partner towards your best sex ever. Also why not explore the sexy world of lingerie by buying some new piece and showing your lover how hot you look and feel by putting on a passion filled fashion show, complete with a strip-tease filled big finish.

SEXY SUPPLEMENTS

Another way to bring the sexy back and spice up your lust life is to start including sex toys and sexual supplements into your relationship. Sex toys can definitely break up the monotony of the same old boring missionary position by adding new flavors and discovery to your lovemaking. Plan an “undercover trip” to an adult novelty store with your lover. Make the experience into a sexy night out that you‘ll both be talking about weeks and months later. Look, sample, touch, feel and try the many display models that are in the store. This will actually build anticipation and excitement for what's to come when you unwrap your new treats. Introducing these new “treats” to your partner and getting them to agree to embrace and incorporate them into your sex life can be sometimes be tricky, but if you take the time to learn about them together you’ll be using them with glee in no time. Also, educate yourself on sexual lubricants, they are often very powerful additions to your sex play. One product in this category we love, is a little something called Zestra. Zestra is a sexual arousal aid for women that is derived from all natural sources unlike synthetically produced warming gels. A recent study in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy revealed that the botanical oils in Zestra were effective in enhancing sexual arousal in women, that’s right, a product that will make her feel like a superstar when she desires it most. I bet the guy will be feeling pretty spectacular as well!

A successful relationship takes a lot of work, and even after a couple has figured out all the big stuff, they still need to find ways to keep the romance alive and bring the “sexy back” into their lives, by following the above advice you’ll be on the road to renewed and wild passion in no time.

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