He Answered His Cell Phone On Our Date!
Q: Dear Love Consultants,
I have a question for you regarding cell phone etiquette on a date. I was out on blind date recently and the guy was a bit aloof from the beginning. Five minutes into the date, his cell phone rings and he excuses himself and takes the call outside. I wait 15-20 minutes and then get up and leave. Do you think I was too harsh on the guy? As I was leaving, I told him that this is not going to work and he said that he was on the phone with his boss. What’s your take on the situation?
A: I totally agree with you, and I believe that when you are on a date, you should be 100-percent available for the person across the table.
Nothing barring a family emergency should distract you from a date. Cell phones, Blackberries, iPhones should be turned off and put away.
This is just a precursor for what might be in store for you if you get involved with a person like this.
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I Am Out Of Control
Dear Matt & Tamsen, Help! I love twizzlers and pretzels. I have major problems after hours when there is nothing to do but hit the fridge and watch TV. How can I stop myself from this terrible habit?
It’s 11pm and all of a sudden the craving begin. You picture the left over apple pie in the fridge, the ice cream that is sitting alone in the freezer and the half eaten pizza that is finally at room temperature on your counter. What’s a girl to do? Do you give in and just start your diet tomorrow? Do you try to have some semblance of control and act like a grown up?
The next time your stomach starts an all out coup, let your brain take control of your belly. Create a system of checks and balances that will ensure you stay out of the kitchen.
1. Pinch Yourself:
Preferably pinch your earlobes or nostrils for 10 seconds. This will divert the craving and refocus your senses on the
temporary self inflicted agitation. These are acupressure points that release hormones that counterbalance hunger cravings.
2. Light Up Your Life
Brighter lights depress hunger cravings. Dim lights lower your inhibitions and make you eat more. So, click on the bedroom light and make sure you don’t turn them off until you are sure you have control.
3. Lay Off!
Stop pressuring yourself to be thin! Start thinking “healthy” rather than thin and the pounds will fall off!
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Do I Stay Or Do I Go?
Dear Matt & Tamsen,
How do you recommend acting the morning after sex? It’s always weird for me.
Picture this, he comes through the doorway with two steamy lattes in hand, and you are greeted by his sexy smile and those piercing baby blues. Suddenly, you are overcome by the realization that this man could be “the one.” Now what? Tell him you love him? Admit it was the best night of your life? Or go back to bed and hope he never asks you to leave.
Don’t linger.
Drink that foamy tall latte, grab your bag and find the door. You have plenty of places to be.
Use your minutes for someone else.
There were plenty of unspoken words last night, so let him call you, once you leave.
Don’t mark your territory.
Grab your sunglasses, pick up both earrings and don’t leave your lipstick stained water bottle on the nightstand. Three quick steps out the door will make for plenty of morning afters.
Quit daydreaming.
Yes, it was wonderful. He may just be Mr. Right. But, you cannot lose your identity just because you had an amazing night of passion. Go about your business and let him miss you when he goes to sleep tonight.
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So Many Men
Dear Matt & Tamsen,
I am dating two different guys. If I could combine them, I would have the perfect man, but clearly that is not an option! How do I chose between the two? Or, should I keep dating both until a better one comes along.
You are in a difficult situation. The good news is you have a few choices; the bad news is you are eventually going to have to make a choice:
1. Choose between the two guys, by really determining who you are the most comfortable with. Physical attraction is important and there is no denying chemistry, but you should make your choice for the long term.
2. Continue dating both guys - which may be difficult for both you and them. This scenario could potentially mean you lose both guys but more time may help you make the right decision.
3. Say goodbye to both men and look for man #3 – you may risk losing two good guys but end up with a great guy who has everything you’re looking for.
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Sleeping With The Boss: Career-Ender?
Dear Matt & Tamsen,
I slept with my boss. He is just a few years older than me and it happened one night after we all went out. But, now I feel sooo weird around the office and I have no idea what he is thinking? Should I say something to him about it? He has yet to bring it up.
Sleeping with the boss could almost be like sleeping with the enemy, find out how to make sure it doesn’t ruin your career.
It’s not the easiest of situations. You were out late, your boss was among the group and somehow you ended up in bed with him. Now, he won’t stop calling because he wants to hook up again. Is is a career ender? These troubled waters are always better left uncharted; but since you are already in the eye of the storm, we will try to throw you a couple of lifelines. Your body has gotten you into enough trouble, now you have to start using your mind.
That said, the “It” girl can put it all together; and believe us, she does! Use your imagination, and we’re not talking about contrived and boring 5-Star dinners or planned, stressful trips to the Caribbean Islands. Little sexy episodes spread throughout the week, are much easier and never forgotten.
For more advice on this sometimes crazy and confusing world of dating, check out: Why Hasn’t He Called?
1. Flattery in this case will get you everywhere. Tell him that you could easily fall for him, but you can’t possibly risk both of your jobs because you tend to go a little “love crazy”.
2. Scare him overboard and tell him that you are ready for a family, and you are thrilled that with him, you have the right guy (him), to start planning it.
3. Threaten mutiny and tell him that you feel like you have to tell a couple close co-workers your feelings because you’re confused and need a little clarity.
These suggestions might help your boss realize that he might not be ready to go down with the ship quite yet.
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