Third Wheel In Your Own Relationship?
Dear Matt & Tamsen,
Help! My best friend is a doll and we love spending time together. But recently she has been getting on my nerves when she hangs around with my boyfriend and I. In fact, they get along so well that something I feel like they wouldn’t care if I were there or not. Should I confront her?
Feeling like a third wheel in your own relationship is never fun, but you are the only one who can do something about it.
Most likely, your boyfriend is just trying to give her attention so SHE doesn’t feel out of place.
• Make sure you don’t always hang out at the same location. If your best friend is always around then you might need a change of dating venue.
• You may also want to have a heart-to-heart with your gal pal explaining how you feel. There is no reason for you to end a friendship because of something she might not even be aware she is doing.
• Finally, have confidence in yourself. Don’t forget you are the one with a great guy!
One For The Road
Dear Matt,
I know you are supposed to wait to sleep with a guy, but I already made a mistake on our first date. We both got very drunk and wound up sleeping together. Is it over before it started or do you think he will still call?
Despite the fact that he probably ordered, poured and encouraged you to drink all night long; the last thing he really wanted was another tipsy girl in his bed. Men have no timetable in their grand plan of intimacy, and most guys are "ready" upon learning your name. If you truly want a chance at a great relationship, in most cases, you have to be on your "A" game to manage the "man-child’s" physical advances. In this case, I would wait to see if he calls. If he does, make sure the next day ends at the door and make sure you self-impose a two drink maximum. Skip the third round, it doesn’t always mix well with that delicate balance of being physical without being intimate.
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He Wants A Threesome!
Q: Dear Matt & Tamsen,
My boyfriend of six months has started saying, “seeing you with another girl would be hot.” I don’t know if it would be something I’d consider or not. What should I do?
A: Oh boy, he is now testing his boundaries and yours? So, it’s time to take him out of the equation in order to answer “the you and another girl” cliché question. Ask youself, is this something you have wanted to explore for awhile (or ever)? Or, would you simply going to do it to “turn him on?” Would you really be interested in being with another girl? Do you have someone in mind that are interested in? And, are you going to be okay if he wants this forever? If you can’t say yes to any or all of these (and we insist you answer honestly) then you need to tell him that he will have to get hot over you without the added accessories.
Short Men: Turn On or Turn Off?
Dear Matt & Tamsen,
I am dating a guy who is my height. I love him to death, but he is just too short for me. My friends say that I am crazy and that he is a keeper. I am not so sure. Am I being judgmental?
In this crazy world of love, dating and romance, I have see it all.
There are so many women who come to me requesting TALL men.
But, there do seem to be a whole lot of heels out there, so don’t turn a few inches into miles of heartache!
Remember:
1. We are all the same height when we lay down.
2. Flats were not just made for comfort.
Some of the most powerful men of our time were vertically challenged, and we are sure their women weren’t fussing over doing the “Tilt and Crouch” when they moved in for a goodnight kiss. In a recent independent survey, we learned the top three things women look for in a guy are: career success, monogamy and a great personality. Height is very low on the list of dating requirements overall, so keep it there.
For more dating and relationship advice from Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal check out: TheLoveConsultants.com
Does Your Career Intimidate Your Man?
Dear Matt & Tamsen,
I think my career as an attorney is difficult for men to deal with. Help!
Being a career woman in a high profile job might intimidate some men. Here’s how to avoid the insecure guy and locate the confident man of your dreams. Downplaying one of the most important parts of your life (your career) in order to avoid intimidating a man is like leaving this season’s hottest cocktail dress in the closet during the holiday party tour. There is only one way to walk down the runway of life, and that is with your best pedi forward and your latest couture blazin’! If you have to camouflage your career successes in order to match the stride of a potential love interest, then you’re running with the wrong guy! A quality man, who is secure with himself, will respect and admire a woman who is more powerful in the work force. In successful relationships, each partner has a chance to be the power-player. It is okay if you rule the boardroom, as long as you allow him to be CEO of the bedroom every now and then!
For more dating and relationship advice from Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal check out: TheLoveConsultants.com
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