What Turns Men On?
Dear Matt & Tamsen,
Are there particular clothes that drive men crazy? I have a great wardrobe for work, but my play clothes are a different story altogether.
In order to attract that amazing man of your dreams, it helps to dress in a way that tastefully showcases your beautiful body. As I always say, Men are Visual Creatures! He is going to be looking very closely and every inch of that body of yours! A high class man is very aware of what a woman puts into her wardrobe. He takes time to put thought into his, so should you. Remember the successful man in his 30’s and 40’s is looking for someone who dresses in a classic fashion. He is not someone who follows the latest “trends”. He is looking for a woman who knows how to dress herself in a tasteful and elegant manner. Nobody’s perfect! Each person needs to highlight a different part of their bodies. The secret is to focus on what you do have and to detract from what you don’t. Remember to only wear clothes that make the best of your unique shape. Too many women have embraced low-rise jeans and tank tops! This is not a good look for your late thirties and forties. Do not wear anything too provocative. Dressing provocatively often attracts the very guys a woman wants to avoid! Dress sexily but subtly. Your clothes should not say, "Take me home tonight!” Dress comfortably. When you feel comfortable, you look comfortable. When you feel comfortable, you feel confident, and confident, well dressed woman is sexy.
Selected Styles for Selected Shapes:
A-frame: Add weight to shoulders to create balance Horizontal necklines Shoulder pads a must Texture above waist Pattern above waist Light colors, pale greens and blues No loud detail below waist Smooth, simple pants and skirts Minimum texture below waist
Pear: Tops always
What Do Men Think When They Look At A Woman?
Dear Matt & Tamsen,
I am a good looking woman, but I am not sure what men really find good looking. Can you enlighten me?
Good question. Thought most will never admit it, most men immediately categorize you into the “would sleep with” or “would not sleep with” compartment in his brain. They do this by looking at your hair, then your eyes, then your chest, and then your rear end. It sounds crude, but it’s true. Next, they try to figure out how to get you in bed. All those stimulating conversations, witty comebacks, and flattery has one goal, especially when you’re in a place like a club. It’s up to you to re-route his caveman-like courting process and make the conversation, your sense of humor and the potential for a relationship the things that really interest him. This is done by NOT sleeping with him the first time you meet.
For more dating and relationship advice from Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal check out: TheLoveConsultants.com
How To Get A Guy To Commit
Dear Love Consultants,
How do I get a guy to really commit to me? We’ve been dating for 3 months and I don’t feel like he is ready to be just mine. Help!
Men become emotionally connected after they become physically addicted. So if you want a guy all to yourself make the passion hotter than ever but don’t sleep with him. Do everything else. Remember a guys fantasy about sleeping with you will always be stronger than the reality of it. Let him chase the fantasy until he falls in love with you.
Are You His Rebound Girlfriend?
The guy I am dating is constantly talking to his ex-girlfriend. I have even met her and she is nice. They both insist they are just friends, but how can I ever be sure?
Here are a few signs his ex has not ex-ited his life:
1. He mentions her often, but tries to make it seem like a natural part of a story or conversation. It’s almost as if she is looming somewhere in the back of his mind and he subconsciously brings her up as much as possible.
2. He answers her calls and texts regularly. This is not a good sign. Usually people who are broken up do not correspond so there might still be something there.
3. He helps her with small boyfriend-like tasks. Most guys dread home improvement jobs with their current girlfriends, let alone an ex. If he is more than willing to still be her handyman, he is not the man for you.
Present - Past = A Future!
Dear Matt & Tamsen,
My boyfriend hates it when I talk about my ex. But, we are still very good friends and I don’t see why it’s a big deal. I have not problem hearing him talk about his ex-girlfriends.
You do not live your life in the past, so why talk about it? The only things to take into the future from past relationships are fond memories and lessons learned.
However, it is human nature for any man to compare himself to your past lovers, but when you talk about them,
your current beau may become jealous or insecure. Guys need to believe they are the best you have ever had, in every department.
Your past should only play one role in your future and that is to assist you in not making any of the same mistakes.
If your current boyfriend asks about past relationships or lovers, let him know they all were learning experiences and they helped turn
you into the best partner he could ever have.
For more dating and relationship advice from Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal check out: TheLoveConsultants.com
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