Dating More Than One Guy At A Time

Sent in by Diane Stephens | January 06, 2012 @ 03:40 am | (0 Comments)

I have a pretty active dating life, but it’s getting hard to juggle my calendar! Any advice on how to make sure I don’t double book and can squeeze everyone in. I don’t want to just date one guy right now after a recent break-up.

So many men, so little time? What a great problem to have!  The answer, is to compartmentalize and prioritize.  Here are a few ways to enjoy several men at once:
It’s Just Gonna Be Lunch
You don’t know him that well, but you are intrigued by him and are attracted to him. He is inconsequential, but for some reason you are strangely interested. This guy should be your coffee and/or lunch date. Get to know him before you give him one of your nights.

You are incredibly attracted to him. He’s hot and sexy, but is incapable of any long term commitment, plus he’s dumb. The less you have to talk to him the better. Enjoy him on Thursday, Friday or Saturday nights. Those are the nights When Girls Just Wanna Have Fun.

Sunday Brunch Man
This guy is leading the pack! He has it together, and you could fall for him in a second, but you are moving slowly and evaluating his every move. You will want a lot of face time with this guy, so he is your Sunday Brunch Man. Sundays are personal, intimate days. Whomever you share that day with, may eventually be the one you share all the others with too.

Let us know what happens. And, you go girl! Love to see a woman with an active social calendar!

We Always Fight!

Sent in by Anonymous | June 07, 2011 @ 01:19 pm | (0 Comments)

Dear Matt & Tamsen,
I had the perfect relationship for six months. My boyfriend and I loved to do everything together. But, it seems lately that all we do it fight. Can you tell me how to reconnect?

1. Don’t be so available. No discussions, just do it. Actions are always more powerful than words. If he doesn’t seem to notice your resentment, then it may be time to think about moving on. If he becomes concerned then, let him chase you for a while.
2. Tell him that you need “time” to think about what you want in this relationship, because you are currently involved in a completely unsatisfying one. You will know where you stand by his reaction and response.
3. Plan a nice night together; take time to talk and ask him if he would be willing to make some changes to bring the relationship back to center. If he is concerned and open to the changes, then you have a shot. If he becomes defensive, confrontational or indifferent, it may be time to move on. Don’t waste time with someone who does not want to make the effort to be reconnected to you.

Is He Still Interested in Me?

Sent in by Anonymous | May 19, 2011 @ 09:50 am | (1 Comment)

Question: I asked a guy (who had acted like he was really into me) to my company’s Spring Fling Party (our first date). He called me two days later saying he had a wonderful time, the best time since he moved to the area. He said we would have to make plans but he couldn’t do it at that moment. I called him two days later and got his voice mail. I wished him a Happy Birthday! and told him to call me when he gets a chance. It has now been 2 weeks later and have not heard from him. Some of my friends think I should call him now. If I call him, I think it should be after New Years. Should I call him? If so, when? What should I say? Or should I forget him? I was falling for him, I thought he was this really nice wonderful guy.

Answer: Look, here’s the deal, you don’t even know this guy that well. So, what do you really have to lose? You should call him. You don’t have that much emotional time invested in him anyway. The only thing that you have to go on is the fact you had a good date with him and he seems like a nice guy. Find out if he is who you think he is…and resolve to go for it! But please don’t get your hopes up about this guy. You hardly know him and anyone can put on a “Mr. Right” act for one date. Also, remember he is already showing signs of being a little inconsistent in his level of interest. Bottom line, you will go into ‘09 knowing what’s up with him and you won’t have to wonder any longer. Be sure to let us know what happens.
-Matt & Tamsen
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How To Dump A Man

Sent in by Marie B. | May 04, 2011 @ 07:56 am | (0 Comments)

Dear Matt & Tamsen, 
How can I break off my relationship and not look like a terrible person?

Here are 3 great ways to break it off and still look like a superstar.

1.Tell him that you are way too high maintenance for him and there is no way that he or any other guy could keep you happy, so you are going to do him a favor and let him off the hook.

2.Explain that you are not capable of giving him what he needs because you are not the person that you want to be. You have to love yourself before you can truly care about anyone else.

3.Tell him that the relationship thing isn’t what you thought it would be and you need to be alone and selfish because you do not yet know what the best thing for you might be.

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I Never Meet The Right Guys

Sent in by Available on Amsterdam Avenue | May 04, 2011 @ 07:38 am | (0 Comments)

Q: I’m a professional 34-year-old female who seems to either attract or be attracted to men who don’t ever want to get married,  have kids, or be in any kind of significant relationship. Many times, I don’t find this out until later and we keep dating because i really do find the person interesting. How do I change my pattern?  I am not dying to get married—I just want to find my “partner in crime” to enjoy life with.
Available on Amsterdam Avenue

The best way to meet the right kind of men is to be very directed and streamlined in your search.
Online dating will provide you with selection criteria that is detailed to the point of allowing you to select from a data base of men that are looking for exactly what you desire as well. 

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