Dear Matt & Tamsen,

I don’t like to play games. I have been seeing this guy for eight weeks, and I am head over heels. I want to spend every second with him and tell him just how I am feeling, but my friends tell me if I don’t play hard to get he will lose interest.

Why can’t I just be myself?

Confused in Philly,

Sara

Don't fret Sara, we have the answer!

Men and women have completely different brain chemistry.

Yes, men and women are the same species, but two entirely different animals.

When it comes to emotional intimacy, women are light years ahead in their ability to process, as well as display, their true intimate feelings. Women also have a highly acute ability to identify and embrace these feelings. They actually are fearless when they start to feel emotional vulnerability.

Men on the other hand, are just in the process of beginning to “walk upright” when it comes to their ability to understand, process or even display their intimate feelings towards a woman. Men tend to panic and retreat as soon as they begin to feel emotional vulnerability.

So, the trick is for you to understand, it’s not that he doesn’t feel the same way, it’s just that his ability to identify, understand and ultimately be willing to accept he’s falling in love, is much slower and archaic than yours.

Be smart and patient, and without playing games, you will be able to show Mr. Right just how you are feeling without him turning into Mr. Invisible.

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