12 Signs That He’s the One

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By Matt Titus
March 16, 2011 @ 10:23 am
12 sure-fire ways that will help you to decide if he's the real deal.

1. He understands. The two of you may not always agree, but he definitely tries to see your side of things. And even if he can't relate to what you're upset about, he still tries to calm you down and makes you feel better about the situation and yourself.

2. He tells you. Oh, those three special words, I love you. They are the words some men have major trouble saying. Hearing him say "I love you," and knowing he means every word, is a great sign that he's in this for the long haul.

3. He shows you. Everyone knows that men have trouble expressing their feelings with words. This is why they often feel more comfortable using other forms of expression, like taking you out for dinner when he thinks you need a break from cooking or understanding that you might need some time to yourself. While you may like to hear those sweet whispers of affection from him, sometimes actions speak louder than words.

4. He listens to you. Is he genuinely interested in what you're saying when you talk to him? Does he give you his undivided attention during your conversations, instead of having the television blaring in the background? Showing that he cares enough to listen to what you have to say is an important sign of how committed he is to your relationship.

5. He's happy around you. Smiles? Laughter? Excited to spend time with you? Glad just to be with you? If he can't get enough of you, this is an unmistakable sign that he's really attracted and in love.

6. He compliments you. He notices when you change something about your appearance. He appreciates when you take the time to look great. When he looks you up and down admiringly with a little smile and tells you how beautiful you are, you know you matter.

7. He takes care of you. Is he your guardian angel? Does he baby you when you're sick and nurse you back to health? If the answer is 'yes', then it's a pretty sure bet you've got a good thing going.

8. His friends and family like you. You can gauge how a man feels about you from the way his circle of friends and family treat you. If you are held in high regard, and they have embraced you like one of their own, it's a fact he's been telling them how happy he is to have you in his life.

9. He appreciates you. Telling you how proud he is of your achievements or praising you to his family and friends is a wonderful signal. It's a sign he is in deep appreciation of who you are to him.

10. He asks for your opinion. He asks for your advice, considers it, and may put it to good use. When important decisions are at stake concerning him, he doesn't just go ahead and decide on his own what he thinks is right.

11. He lets you win (sometimes). Let's say the two of you are fighting over the remote -- you want to watch Family Guy reruns while he wants to watch a soccer game. If he happily sits through an episode of Stewie's shenanigans (but makes you promise to watch the Brazilian match in an hour), you've got a keeper. No one wants a pushover, but he's gotta let you win occasionally.

12. He makes you feel special. Does he make you feel like the most important person in the world? Is he always trying to keep the romance alive? Bringing you flowers or breakfast in bed are great signs that he cares. If he's always going out of his way to make you feel exceptional hold on tight -- this guy is the One.

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September 28, 2007

i have a perfect boyfriend, but he won’t commit…help!

April 05, 2008

does such man even exist?? even if he does, theres probably only one in a zillion, or all taken…

June 18, 2008

My bf got a 7/12… not to bad

February 13, 2009

I have a 12 out of 12 man!  That is why I married him.

February 14, 2009

12/12…I’m so lucky…rshipfuser, I didn’t think they existed, either.

February 15, 2009

I met james over the phone he has romantic voice, & when i saw him wow! his so manly, at first i think his the one because
he help me to have sells i’m a marketing consultant, & that time he gave me a call i wanna quit, but that call gives me hope and inspiration, its like his my knight in shining armor, everytime i see him even its just a business meeting it makes me happy. At first there is no special feeling, but the look on his eyes on how he mesmerized, and the call everytime i want to talk to him suddenly the phone ring its james, i think i’m fallen inlove but im too timid to express
my feelings for him. I think we have mutual feelings but we can’t express it.

March 11, 2009

Hey rshipfuser,  Yes, men with such qualities do exist.  I’m the poerfect example but the surprising thing is that my ex left me without a word.  I alway’s come across the non committing kind….!

March 15, 2009

my baby got 11/12.

shonna P
March 19, 2009

my husband is very considerate of me, he tries hard to do what he can seeing as I’m disabled and cannot work. I used to be worried that he couldn’t handle this but, he’s proven to be my angel.

April 17, 2009

Funny thing is, my husband has most of those qualities except letting me win and making me feel special (cause he doesn’t like to spend money). At the same time he’s controlling and while his family likes me, I can’t stand them.  We’re on the brink of separation, so in my situation, even having all those things wouldn’t make him the one.

May 05, 2009

My recent ex displayed all these great things… unfortunately, he also had a few other women that he behaved the same way around. Hard to recognize a player when they’re such great actors! =(

miss confused
June 10, 2009

my bf seems to have every thing listed here, but why am i still having doubts that he cares about me? I’m soo lost!!

September 23, 2009

How about sending me to Germany to see him, does that count?

October 18, 2009

my boyfriend got 12 out of 12! hes perfect

November 22, 2009

I have a perfect boyfriend. We believe it’s true love & maybe it is:D He mentioned a couple of times to me that he wants to marry me. He even calls me his future wife. My heart’s always smiling coz of that. He accepts me for who I am; loves even though I’m clumsy & easily forgetful sometimes. He appreciates everything about me. It’s crazy coz I never thought in a million years I’d fall in love again. After my last boyfriend, I thought I’d never recover…till 9 months later. I met my true love on a city bus. There was nothing romantic or special meeting the man of my dreams on a bus but I didn’t have the slightest clue what would happen if I did agree to go out with him. I did & he’s forever grateful that I gave him a chance. I’m not gonna lie, he may not have been the catch of the city but he was in my eyes. The feelings we have for each other are true & can’t be broken; I’m honored to have found a man like him.

March 08, 2010

I think more importantly before you can answer these things or at least after you answer them ....ask yourself the same questions. I was surprised to see the answers ..sometimes we fall in a trap of expecting and not giving. Another pit fall is we pull back to manipulate a behavior and before we know it the action becomes the normal behavior. So it’s equally important to know the answer of these questions and really look at the situation. It may not be that he does not do it…it may be that you don’t make yourself open for him to be able to do it.

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