Do you want to know how to ask a girl to follow you back on Instagram, because you like her and you want to ask her out on a date?
Have you met her before, or is this going to be the first time you interact?
Did you know, the average time it takes for a person to follow someone back on Instagram is 3-5 days?
When you want to ask a girl to follow back, it’s important to first initiate a conversation. If her Instagram profile is set to public, you can react to her posts to get her to notice you before you send a direct message.
We have generated this simple directory to guide you to know how to ask a girl to follow back on Instagram. We’ve included the best ways to spark a conversation over DM, so you can get a follow back, and build rapport that will let her feel comfortable and relaxed when she speaks to you.
How to ask a girl to follow back on Instagram
The best way to ask a girl to follow back on Instagram is by being direct through a message. This may be easier said than done, however, you won’t misinterpret her response if she’s direct in her reply. If you’ve previously asked for her Instagram and she happily gave it to you, there’s a good chance she’ll follow you back in due time.
If you want to avoid any awkwardness between you and the girl, it would be better to ask her to follow back over an Instagram message.
You should, however, refrain from asking the question straight away, especially if she doesn’t know who you are.
Will you receive a direct message on Instagram if you don’t follow them?
You can still send her a direct message on Instagram even though she does not follow you back.
It won’t show up in her direct messages, but it will appear in the ‘request’ inbox. Here, she will be able to accept, delete, or block your request.
In some instances, when a girl receives a message request, she may check your profile and follow you back before a conversation sparks.
Let’s look at how to ask a girl to follow back on Instagram without coming across as too needy or desperate;
Initiate a conversation first
Before you go in with asking a girl to follow you back on Instagram, you should first start a conversation with her.
Public Instagram profile
If her account is set to public, you will be able to see her content regardless if she follows you back or not. You can therefore send a message based on her most recent post, or story.
- ‘Hey (name), I see you went to….. would you recommend it?’
Private Instagram profile
A private Instagram profile will limit you to what you can see, with only her bio visible. If you’ve met her before, and you asked her for her Instagram handle, you can base your first message on your previous interaction.
- ‘Hi (name), I’m the handsome guy you met at the bar the other day’
You will have the opportunity to make your opening message fun and witty. You don’t want to remind her who you are, but rather why she gave you her Instagram details.
However, if you have not met the girl before, and you follow her on Instagram because you want to get to know her, you can connect your first message to her bio (if you can), alternatively, you can send something humorous.
- ‘(name), I can see your bio states you’re currently in Bali, I’d love to go there. I’ve heard it’s great for surfing?’
- ‘Hey (name), I’m following you on Instagram because I’d like to follow you in real life ;)’
It’s always good to include a question, or request her opinion in a message. Sometimes, sending a statement won’t warrant a reply, and she may just disregard it.
The second example has taken a more flirty, fun approach. It comes across as cocky, but in a playful way, which would make a girl smile.
This type of message will spark intrigue, and cause her to be curious about who you are. If your profile is set to private, she will need to request to follow you back before she can check out your content.
How do you get someone to follow you back on Instagram?
You can first react to a girl’s post on her profile before you ask her to follow back on Instagram. You can execute this if her profile is set to public. This is a great way to get her to notice you before you have to say anything directly.
If her account is on public, you can execute the following;
1. Watch her story
We all like to see who’s checked out our uploaded story.
If she notices your profile in the ‘seen’ list, she’ll probably want to check out your profile to see who you are.
You can take it a step further and react to her story. Your response should go into her message requests inbox. This will give her the opportunity to reply back to you, or like your reaction. Either way, this will get her to become aware of your account.
2. Like her post
You don’t need to like many of her posts, a reaction to her most recent one will get you in her notifications tab.
Humans are naturally inquisitive. If we notice someone we don’t follow back, we’ll be curious to see who they are to gain more information about them.
Most of the time, if we like what we see, we’ll follow back.
3. Leave a comment
If you decide you want to be a bit more direct, and leave a comment on one of her pictures, you don’t want to be too much.
You can ask a question based on the picture, or leave an encouraging response.
- ‘This looks amazing, where did you take this picture?’
- ‘Wow, this looks delicious’
You’ll show her that you’re not afraid to display your interest.
How long should you wait to follow someone back on Instagram?
It has been advised that the average time it takes a person to follow back on Instagram is three to five days. This will vary depending on how big someone’s account is. If they have a large number of followers, who keeps receiving activity on their profile, it may take them longer to see your follow.
If you’ve only just followed a girl, and you want them to follow you back on Instagram, wait around three days before you decide to ask her to reciprocate your follow.
(Did you know; the number of Instagram’s monthly users has reached over one billion people. The apps daily active users is now up to 500 million, which is why it estimates that around 1000 photos are uploaded every second).
During this time, she may follow you back on her own accord. This will also help you to not come across as ‘too keen’.
If you follow someone on Instagram will they know?
If you follow a girl on Instagram, she will get notified with your follow, or follow request. There is no way to follow someone without them knowing. This is important to keep in mind when you’re unsure of whether or not you want to follow someone.
Have you ever followed someone on Instagram, and then changed your mind? Every time you unfollow and re-follow an Instagram profile, the account holder will get a notification.
Don’t be nervous to a follow a girl you like on Instagram, it will come across as strange if she gets a new follow request from you every so often.
With this easy to follow guide, we hope you now know how to ask a girl to follow back on Instagram, and that you’re aware of the simple techniques you can execute. If her profile is set to public, you’ll be able to like, react or comment on her posts or stories.
Keep in mind, a girl should naturally check out your Instagram profile when she notices that you follow her, and if she likes what she sees, she’ll follow back. So, maybe wait a couple of days before you send a direct message.
(Quiz Question; how many photos are uploaded to Instagram every second?).
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