Should you text him again after he didn’t reply? Has it already been two to three days since your last message?
Before you decide you’ve been ghosted by this guy, there are a few things you need to consider. Have you only been on one date with him? If so, you may not be a priority for him, and he’s seeing other people.
If you’ve been on multiple dates, and you felt like the relationship was progressing, he could just be busy, and unable to text you back.
It’s easy to come across as too keen over message. Refrain from responding immediately as this will show him that you’re busy with your own life, and that you’re not waiting around to hear from him.
In this article, we will expand on should you text him again after he didn’t reply, and what the reasons may be for him to not be messaging you back. We will also touch base on how you should reply to him after he’s ignored you for a while.
Should I text him again after he didn’t reply?
If you’ve sent a text to a guy who has not responded yet, you should not text him again. The general ‘rule’ of sending someone a message once you’ve been on a date is to wait two to three days. This is so you do not come across as ‘too keen’. If it’s been longer than three days, and he still hasn’t sent a reply, this could be a sign that he has no interest in you.
If a guy is attracted to you, he will make an effort to text you. He may only message you after a day or two, however, this could be so he doesn’t come across as overly interested.
A person who is not readily available over text will be far more attractive to you than someone who replies to you straight away. This is because, as humans, we are naturally drawn to slightly unavailable things. If there is a little bit of uncertainty, we want it more.
There are, however, many reasons why he hasn’t replied to your text;
Why has he not replied to my text?
He could just be busy, which is why he has not replied to your text. How long has it been since you sent him a message? Specifically during the week, if he’s working, he may just not have the time to check his phone and could be waiting to reply to you at the end of the day. Men aren’t able to multitask as well as women.
Studies have shown that men have more difficulty switching between tasks. So, before you stress that you’ve been ghosted, keep in mind you may have sent him a message while he’s at work, or busy with something that requires his full attention.
Other reasons why he could be ignoring your message are;
1. He’s not interested
If a guy is interested in you, he will text you. He may wait a day or two before he messages you so as not to come across as too keen, but you would receive a message if he’s attracted to you.
No message can be a clear indication that you are not in his thoughts.
2. You’re not a priority
He could be seeing multiple other women while he’s seeing you. If this is the case, you may not be a priority for him at the moment.
If you’ve only just met the guy, chances are you’re not the only one he’s going on a date with.
3. You’re too keen
Have you perhaps sent him multiple texts already? If you have, you may have come across as too keen.
A person who seems as though they are waiting around for someone to message them, or as though they’re not busy with their own life will be less attractive as opposed to someone that is somewhat ‘unavailable’.
4. He wants you to pursue him
If guy withholds their attention, they will become more attractive to you.
He could deliberately be ignoring you because he wants you to chase him. Have you ever noticed how a guy who messages you constantly is not as appealing as one who does not?
This is because subconsciously, you know you already have all his attention, and there is nothing for you to pursue. His value will decrease in your eyes, and you won’t feel attracted to him.
Women naturally want a mental challenge when they’re seeing a guy. They want to be able to figure out whether or not a guy likes them. If he knows this, he will not reply to your text.
5. He likes you
Sometimes, a guy will become distant when they start to like someone. If he has commitment issues, he could be distancing himself from you because he struggles with forming an attachment.
If he likes you, he may not be replying to you because he’s taking some time to think about his feelings. We all require space to understand our emotions, especially in the beginning stages of a relationship.
What do you do if a guy doesn’t reply to your text?
You should not text him again if he doesn’t reply to your text. If you do, you will come across as though you are waiting around to hear from him. He could just be busy or be in a situation where he is unable to check his phone or respond. We’ve all left our phones when we’ve had to focus on an important task.
Before you start to panic that he’s ghosted you, think about the dynamic of the relationship between the two of you. Have you been on numerous dates and it seems to be going well? If it is, don’t assume the worst.
Have you only been on one date with the guy? In this case, he may not have a romantic interest in you. If you double text him (sending two or more separate messages before he responds) it will only push him further away.
You will come across as needy, which is not a good sign for a guy when they are only getting to know you.
Especially in the beginning stages of seeing someone, allow for the standard two to three-day wait before you analyze the situation.
If a guy doesn’t reply to your text, do not pursue him. It may be disappointing, but you need to remind yourself to not take his reaction personally.
Be self-assured, and understand that you cannot be everyone’s ‘type’. Have the ability to tell yourself that it’s ‘his loss’.
Should I respond to his text after he ignored me?
There could be a valid reason as to why he did not text you back before. Before you stop any form of communication, you should respond to his text. However, you should not reply immediately. If you do, this will just show him that you are easily available to him and that you’re waiting around for him.
The standard rule is to wait two to three days. Keep this in mind when he sends you a text after he ignores you.
Try and refrain from coming across as though you’re rewarding him for being ignored. If he ignores you, you should hold back on the amount of attention you give.
When you reply to him, keep it short and in line with his text. Once you reply, he may give you a valid reason as to why he did not reply to you for a couple of days. From here you will be able to move forward in the right direction.
However, if there is no reason behind why he ignored your text, you should withhold the majority of your attention. Do not reply straight away, and don’t come across as too eager.
This will give him the idea that he does not need to try. It may be tough if you like the guy, but stand your ground and know that if he truly liked you, and wanted to pursue things with you, he would make a conscious effort to talk to you.
Now that you know the importance of whether or not you should text him again after he didn’t reply, we hope you were able to make the right decision, and show him that you are not readily available when he decides it’s okay to message you.
It’s important to not come across as too keen over text. A guy will think he does not need to make any effort with you, and that you are waiting around to hear from him.
Keep in mind, that he could just be busy which is why he has not replied to your text. You should get a sense of how interested he is in you with the type of messages he sends, and how often he replies.